What's the smallest thing a partner did that made you feel completely safe?

[Mi****]

Not the big stuff. Everyone talks about limits and safewords. I mean the small thing you barely noticed at the time, but looking back, that's when you started to relax around them.


Mine was after a heavy scene last year. Drop hit me a few days later. And I'm the dom, I'm supposed to be the one holding everything together. She noticed before I said a word and checked on me like it was nothing. That's when I knew I was safe with her too, not just her with me.


What was yours?

[He****]

Remembering what I like and respecting boundaries.

[Zis]

Humor in the dynamic. To laugh with my sub about us, showes me the deeper understanding about our connection and the safety to let loose.

[je****]

Understanding and respecting boundaries

[Ro****]

Showing they respect my boundaries and actively hold space for me to just be in those moments.

[tr****]

Just holding me. My new BF has an occupation I’m scared of and an upbringing that is also triggering. He just holds me and all is right in the world

[wi****]

When he saw i was overwhelmed when we were out and about he sould always close the distance between us and start walking in front of me. But also beside me at the same time. And he would keep other people from touching me by accident

[ca****]

Listen

[la****]

The cuteness of holding hands

[Bu****]

Push me to say what’s on my mind…don’t let me shy away from being ***…damn makes me melt everytime…I trust he isn’t just asking…he needs to know. 🫠

[Laycette]

Just remain in the room and place a hand on me to let me know he's present when I am struggling in hard bondage.