If you can manage being both, great. However if either one causes you ***, you do not have to do that.
Transition does not nean losing skills, or not doing activities you like. You can think outside stereotypes.

It is not the ASFW settings. The site is the most censored, nannying and overmoderatored I have ever seen in my life. Even though it is even called fetish.com there are vanillas with totally straight profiles and people here just for straight relationships and NSA hookups for sex. My inbox is full Read more… of dudes just wanting sex, mostly inexperienced and on the other side of the world, didn't read my profile at all. So yeah we are a minority in what us meant to be our 'own' site but even voicing very much gets you censored and deleted. It is a micro view of society as writ large in the UK where this has become normal. I feel this is not coincidental.

Ritual is very important in D/s. In particular if you are not 24/7, the demarcation of space and time is critical to separate 'normal' from 'in role'. For this purpose, the act of preparing the space, cleaning / purifying yourself, waiting, presenting oneself, kneeling to accept a collar...
There Read more… are many elements that can be ritualised to help set the headspace.

When I had clients new to kink, I'd often do an intro session to introduce a range of activities withon theirvstated limits to see how they went, then discuss what their response indicated and what else they'd likely enjoy.

Someone that could fold towels and empty the dishwasher without being asked... oh yeah (fapfapfapfap)

I asked around but nobody nose. May have to consult the Olfactory Oracle, Nostrildamus

Hi there.
Yes I have been through similar.
I cried every night for about a year, I dudn't understand it. I think some people think that somehow making a sudden hard break is cleaner and easier but it actually does a lot of damage and causes more hurt. However in these cases providing closure and Read more… healing is down to ourselves and is a decision you make. And you will be ok in time.
Hugs and love.

Within a session conrext, whether pro or domestic, obedience and willingness to obey commands is one thing, and a baseline expectation. However for a dominant the pleasure of seeing a sub struggle, have their boundaries pushed, obeying when it is difficult and going beyond themselves is what it is Read more… about.
Within a Ds context it is more nuanced. A slave that blindly obeys may sometimes do their owner a disservice if the outcome reflects badly on them, is thoughtless or not appropriate to circumstance.
The slave ought to demonstrate always that they are thinking and behaving to their owner's best interests as well as fulfilling orders as best they can.

It would not be enough for me.

Sure, run it by me if you like. DMs are open.

If they only dominate you in the bedroom, they are a top, not a dom. There is a big difference between an ongoing interpersonal dynamic and session-based play. The former is D/s, the latter is BnD.

Yer that's about right.

I have 'sat' against a wall as if there was a chair with my feet braced. Does their head in when you stand up and there is no chair...