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Not every submissive is subservient or a slave.

Right and slaves are often strong, assertive, capable and not obsequious. But we need to be obedient, respectful and honour the dynamic, Read more… not lay down the law. We follow the rules, not make them.

@SkipperVA Well I guess your girl had her topping experiment anyway, and found out that she needs to be a bit more prepared and decisive.

Well on the traffic lights, you have red, orange and green... and beige. Beige is "OK I'm fine but this really isn't working for me".

Have had to call 'beige' before...

That's the trouble with random plays. You just can't know. And because I play at an advanced hardcore level you just cannot do that with strangers. It is foolhardy and very few people have the requisite knowledge or skill.

:1775422379,7048540, We live in a time of quicker gratification and shorter attention spans, and to a degree the illusion of choice.

These apps are built to generate superficial connections, create noise/traffic and rein*** that illusion of choice. People get hooked on the Read more… discovery phase and the initial conversations, or they’re dissuaded by some trivial “ick”, rather than taking the time to get to know someone properly and developing a stronger bond before delving into the relationship dynamics and exploring kinks.

There’s the odd occasion where a conversation flows and a meaningful connection develops, but the apps aren’t designed to help you find a partner. They’re designed to keep you occupied with superficial conversations masquerading as kink exploration

Say it louder for those in the back!

:1775427980,7187135, Yes I do interview ppl who want to be my sub/slave because I want to know if we understand each other kinks, limits and boundaries.

My progress can take 4 weeks to 6 months depending on the location of the potential sub/slave, time difference, Read more… availability.

I also go by the 3/6 rule, that is three dates before vanilla sex and 6 dates before BDSM.

After everything is ok I then move onto a trial stage which last 6 months.

Alot of "subs/slaves" hate this they want to experience it straight away but I was brought up and taught that you sub/slave was your partner,lover and best friend. You can't make that connection in 3 hrs chatting online.

It is getting harder because of the instant gratification they sub/slaves get online from pick me Dom's who show they junk and expect them to come running.

I remember a time when it was a honour to be called a Dom/Master or a sub/slave. That has disappeared now


Yes exactly the reason I am still single after a this time.

I had problems dping it because of poor nasal breathing. Made ut da ferous plus harder to shed heat so I tended to get too hot. But niw having fixed that I'd like to try it again. The ironic thing is that I make vacbeds and have put hundreds of people into those. Similar concept but easier and Read more… safer, and a very popular way of achieving the same result.

I do have a boobie suckin' machine and the right girl germs and stuff, but without anyone to bother for...

Right with ya on this.

I own a latex label. I have been pro domme. So yep I well qualify ;-)