I am a warrior with the scars to show and wisdom born of fire and storm. My deeds are set down and used as lore and example. Many know of me but few know me.

Bums are bums. They can and do produce copius amount of natural lube. Anyone saying otherwise has no idea what they are talking about. I am telling you from decades of personal and pro experience so take this to the bank.

You are the kind of person we are going crook about here. Some are here to learn and that's fine, we are glad to help. But you just think you'll get laid, don't understand kink, don't want to and have a low opinion of us, who we are and what we do. We seek to build community. You are here to prey. Read more… You do not belong and don't want to.

:1788043868,1374344, I had one on here chatting didn't even realise this was a kink site I soon put her right she thanked me and deleted her account

Yeah it has a lot to do about how it is advertised and to whom, how it's pitched. Read more… As far as owners go its sole purpose is to make ***, they don't care from whom. Members = ***. So they sell it as whatever they think people buy. The super woke creche-like rules and censoring is a product of that too. It panders to immature attitudes and politics instead of providing a proper adult space where kinksters actually enjoy being without a censor constantly looking over shoulders. Everything about here is based around vanilla style dating.

Simple. This is a dating site masquerading as a kink site.

That's why it is so heavily policed, real fetish and kink is cencored and silenced, and it is full of swingers and vanillas, hordes of sex seekers.

These are not bdsm people and why it is so hard for us to find each other on a site Read more… called fetish.com.

Where are all the events, groups, and ream bdsm content?

Not on here, friend.

A very poor censorship filter removes word sections from within other words which mangles text making normal conversation difficult. It treats fullgrown adults like *** but the censor itself is a moron.

Just remain in the room and place a hand on me to let me know he's present when I am struggling in hard bondage.

The Beauty series by R N Rocquelore (pseudonym of Anne Rice)

Go to munches and events, talk to others, learn the art. And, experiment, do what works for you.

Please put more effort into your spellcheck and composition. Ideas are good but it is hard...make that torturous, to read...

:1785883621,7761158, Why don’t you just take it off ?

Kalima, you fail to understand what a collar is, and the fact it is locked.

If people are mature enough to handle it, sure it's ok. But you usually break up with them for a reason, feelings can be hurt, there's often resentment etc so it can be challenging. Especially if they've turned out to be a cunt...

Can relate, just like many others. The only reason I am still here is that this and other datingvsites are NOT representative of the actual BDSM community. The ones populating these sites generally have no idea as many posts have pointed out. I think having this big influx of 'takers' does harm to Read more… us as a community, expressed through posts like yours. I have voiced this problem for a long time now too but people don't want to hear it.
Munches and other events are where it's at, where we can connect properly. Happy to talk with real others and mutually support. That's what is often missing - that community bond. It's not all about hookups and sex.

This is one of those cases to accept and enjoy rather than over-analyse :-)