What do subs look for in a dom?

[Fe****]

I’m quite new to dom. Maybe my outlook is feminine and many men call me mommy.

But I wonder if I live up to their expectations.

So Subs, tell me when you are doing cyber play, what are you expecting from a dom?

And how is that different from meeting a dom in real life

[MD****]

To control my fuck machine

[no****]

It all depends in the sub itself. In my case I value and look for rules, tasks, obligations. Sexual and not. I want and need to feel controlled. Outside work I do not wish to think. Only obey.

[Pu****]

It varies sub to sub but 9/10 true subs all we really need is hard structure, to feel safe in a sexual environment they usually don’t because of the “norm”. Being a dom isn’t about having control or owning your partner those are just add ons, being a dom is about caring for your partner in ways that are above par for most “normal” relationships

[ro****]

I just like feeling like I’m at their disposal 😓

[parkcruiser]

It's a personal experience for everyone, hence the importance to communicate from the start to see you both are compatible and go from there

[Ro****]

Safety, aftercare

[Ch****]

Communication and trust

[JinMashin]

We expect to be Dominated by Mistress, surrender under Women control. Feel the power of the Dominant Lady in what ever way She wants to rule the game. I enjoy strict discipline from Mistress, perfect mix of pleasure and ***, not necessarily in that order. Suffering is a part of the game, punishment is essential during the sessions, as well as recieving *** in the process, all that combined is what we as submissives are seeking for from the Dominatrix, pushing the limits and being thankful for the time and effort that Mistress is giving to submissive slaves as myself. It is a privilege for us to serve obey and worship Mistress in the best possible way we can. Of course, always be grateful to have a opportunity to be able to make Your Mistress feel like a Supreme Goddess, they will know how to apriciete Your devotion and commitment to serve, when that connection is formed, every moment of the session feels right, and both sides can enjoy in Bdsm games for as long as both sides are feeling comfortable.

[Ve****]

If You want to find out more about Yourself i might recommend reading «Uniquely Rika» from Ms. Rika.
Also, for a lot of subs it is not about the expectation they have but about what expectation You have towards them.

[parkcruiser]

That's what they call true devotion

[Ya****]

2 hours ago, Puppygirl-Rose said:

It varies sub to sub but 9/10 true subs all we really need is hard structure, to feel safe in a sexual environment they usually don’t because of the “norm”. Being a dom isn’t about having control or owning your partner those are just add ons, being a dom is about caring for your partner in ways that are above par for most “normal” relationships

To be real, you said that best 💯

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, Puppygirl-Rose said:

It varies sub to sub but 9/10 true subs all we really need is hard structure, to feel safe in a sexual environment they usually don’t because of the “norm”. Being a dom isn’t about having control or owning your partner those are just add ons, being a dom is about caring for your partner in ways that are above par for most “normal” relationships

This right here is the best explanation by far for subs to Doms/ it is a very special relationship between a Dom & his sub, it’s a level of trust in your play partner

[He****]

I look for someone who isn't sexual 24/7 and someone who respects boundaries along with being understanding

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41 minutes ago, HexMoser said:

I look for someone who isn't sexual 24/7 and someone who respects boundaries along with being understanding

Respecting boundaries should b a given in these types of dynamics if they push too hard it’s not a good fit at all n my favorite line from secretary is when Maggie gyllanhal says to her ex fiancé “does this look sexual to u” as she keeps her hands on the desk @@ the nbsp;end of the film not all D/s dynamics r sexual

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Just now, PiXiEsTiXMeLi37 said:

Respecting boundaries should b a given in these types of dynamics if they push too hard it’s not a good fit at all n my favorite line from secretary is when Maggie gyllanhal says to her ex fiancé “does this look sexual to u” as she keeps her hands on the desk @@ the nbsp;end of the film not all D/s dynamics r sexual

Are not sexual*

[Pu****]

1 hour ago, PiXiEsTiXMeLi37 said:

This right here is the best explanation by far for subs to Doms/ it is a very special relationship between a Dom & his sub, it’s a level of trust in your play partner

Well not just his sub, anyone can be dominant! But like I said it verys between subs and what their personal flavor profile is 🙂‍↕️

[Pu****]

1 hour ago, Yager420 said:

To be real, you said that best 💯

I’m so well trained for a reason:3

[He****]

1 hour ago, PiXiEsTiXMeLi37 said:

Respecting boundaries should b a given in these types of dynamics if they push too hard it’s not a good fit at all n my favorite line from secretary is when Maggie gyllanhal says to her ex fiancé “does this look sexual to u” as she keeps her hands on the desk @@ the nbsp;end of the film not all D/s dynamics r sexual

Yeah, especially if people mention there not sexual 24/7 yet those other people give it only 2-3 days the try and be sexual. Keep in mind I keep telling them I'm only that once in a blue moon and prefer to go to a person when I'm ready to be sexual. Like I wish people thought with their brains instead of their hormones. (Btw I'm not talking about those who just want a casual hookups. I'm just talking about the ones who rush into things and don't have the patience for nothing)

[tr****]

<3 dommy mommys

[Do****]

That my dom it's bot afraid to inflict me consensual ***. If I tell u that I love ballbusting, then kick my balls like you want to crush them without *** or hesitation 🖤

[Do****]

That my dom it's bot afraid to inflict me consensual ***. If I tell u that I love ballbusting, then kick my balls like you want to crush them without *** or hesitation 🖤

[Mo****]

Knowledge and skill, and confidence. I like to experiment together from time to time, but I’ve found I can only fully submit to a partner who knows what they are doing. If I’m going to turn my body over to someone, I want them to be practiced in what they are going to do to me. I want them to have studied the safe implementation of the *** they are going to inflict, to know their tools to the point they feel like an extension of themselves, and to know how to proceed should something go wrong. When I feel that level of confidence and learning from a dom/me, I’m able to let myself sink into sub space without half of my brain being on high alert and trying to manage and control the situation.

[In****]

I look for confidence, and a persona that leads to feel like I should kneel. There are many types of tops, and that can lead to how others may want to address you. If you are nuturing, that can lead to being called Mommy. If you are atrict and rigid with your rules, then Mistress might be apropriate. And how you treat diff subs will change that as well. What are your urges toward that sub, and what are they looking for from a top?

[No****]

They wouldn’t stay with you if they weren’t happy. Communication is so important