Bodycount

[fa****]

Does the bodycount of a playpartner who’s in a serious relationship with you matter to you?
I’m just asking this out of curiosity, because I’ve seen mixed opinions in the past.

Why does it matter or why doesnt it matter to you ?

[Ju****]

Not at all

[Bl****]

It doesnt matter to me as it depends on the person, the commitment and actions since they will speak loaded than words

[pl****]

my wife's 'body count' has increased significantly since we got together

[Magicman420]

If you love the person all that should matter is what's next for us to find some one you who loves you just look toward the future life is to short for the what was

[HereForCake]

One might argue that a serious relationship should be a one to one. But that depends on the relationship makeup. Is it polyamorous, is it ENM? Was it discussed before hand? Personally it would matter to me if it was a serious relationship. If it was just a play mate relationship then it wouldn’t bother me at all.

[bi****]

Not at all. It only matters if it goes up while you're dating them and that wasn't one of your agreed boundaries!

[in****]

Not particularly. I have had partners who were virgins and partners who worked as prostitutes for a time. What matters is who a person is.

[Deleted Member]

Surely bodycount should be 0. How else. LOL

[th****]

It's none of my business beyond sexual health & wellness, and idrc either way tbh

[Si****]

Nope, who are we to judge the past of another person? If one likes to fuck around go for it, as long as directly aligned rules for engagement are not broken and a regular STD test is negative, all good. And consider the more a partner had sex the higher the experience level normally is and that may also benefit your sex with that person…

[Ru****]

No

[ip****]

Why should it? If you’re in a serious relationship then you’ve committed for a reason.
We all have pasts, it shapes who we are. Just relax and enjoy the relationship

[lu****]

Body count is irrelevant as long they’re healthy.

[Ki****]

My body count is 200 plus so I'd be pretty hypocritical to judge someone else for having slept with more than likely less people that I have. As others have said as long as they take the sexual health seriously the number of people they've been with doesn't matter the only number of people that matters to me is how many they've been with since we met I don't like to share

[L4****]

I’ve found that the “body count” obsession stems mostly from the insecurity of an individual. They may find it intimidating or think themselves lacking. It’s worth communicating to find out why that person may be fixated on it.

I don’t really think it matters when honesty and necessary precautions are part of the conversation

[Su****]

Yeah mine is like 300 or so men and 50 or so women. I stopped counting after too many hotel parties 😆

I mean I prefer over 50 for experience because I’ve been in the ls for 8 years (just came back after a year of retirement lol) so… I’m kinda wild and require a wild partner 😆

[Deleted Member]

Only if a person is wallowing in insecurity. I dated a retired escort for about 2 years. Before we went on the first date she asked if it was going to be an issue. I just told her no, but that she just put herself on the hook. She asked what I meant and told her it was simple - I expected the sex to be great. She laughed because THAT WAS THE INTENTION.

If it is a problem, it is definitely a "you problem", IMHO.

[ro****]

I've never asked a partner that or had it asked of me, it's a red flag if someone cares

[ho****]

For alot of people the only really useful indicator body count can give you is an indication of experience. The higher the count the more experience someone can bring to the scene or bedroom. If you want someone more experienced then it's reasonable to want someone with more notches on the belt. If you want to personalize someones experience lower body count makes sense. Your allowed to want either/or. Outside of that body count doesnt mean much and cant tell you much about someone.

[Sp****]

It truly shouldn't

[Ed****]

I asked my last partner. The answer was a lot. Within an hour that answer didn't matter nor did it for the 11 months we were together. The best 11 months of my life to date.

[DaveBlake]

It doesn't matter to me. Experience can make things better for everyone. It helps you figure out who you are and what you want. And it does the same for the other person. That helps each person be authentic in the relationship.

[De****]

Yes it matters. I just fucked a virgin…. Her pussy taste like water. She was clean. Her thought pattern was pure. She instantly was clingy. Not like the women with body counts of 100+ that treat your dick like it’s 1 of 89

[Fu****]

2 hours ago, play_hard said:

my wife's 'body count' has increased significantly since we got together

My body count has also increased significantly since I got married, but it was a decision made together with my husband of 29 years now! We've been in the lifestyle for 5 years after being monogamous. Body count doesn't matter to us, but rather brings value as we learn new things from our partners at times.