Bodycount

[De****]

So wats your body count

[Ho****]

Only insecure, weak men ask about body count I have never once ever brought this up in my life but then again, I’m not insecure with a little dick and worried about your bitch being a slut when you going around acting like a slut

[Ch****]

No. Not particularly.
But the extremes, lets take Bonny Blue (I think thats her name) who has slept with thousands as an example .... that screams mental health problems and so would be an issue for that reason.

[Daddy_Simon_]

Couldn't care less to be honest. Why get jealous about the past, you can't change it

[Vi****]

Body count only matters in context. If she continually just "met a guy at a club" and fucked him then that to me says a lot about impulsivity, maybe insecurity, or simply poor decision making. I care about those aspects than the fact shes fucks 30 dudes. 1 dude 30 times or 30 dudes one time is the same amount of sex but the context is totally different.

[Ja****]

No, and honestly a high body count is attractive to me. It shows experience and makes me more confident in their abilities

[ki****]

I don’t think it matter

[ki****]

We all reach get to a point u lose count do people really have low counts now if u clean that’s what matter

[19****]

If they have been with a ton of guys don't expect that you're going to be the one to wow her. The higher the number, the higher the odds are against that.

[da****]

Not really. In fact, I never ask. If they want to share that info voluntarily, then fine.; but the only thing I really care about a partner's sexual past is if there's a risk of her giving me an STI.

[ge****]

What matters is your ability to connect... to have a serious, real, and deeply connected dynamic. Some people are good at understanding this, holding it sacred, generating it continuously almost as if it was the very first time and it only goes deeper and deeper and deeper. For those who fail to do so (which is probably the vast majority), body count is a contributing factor because each time they are with someone, it becomes less valuable to them, they see it as something less and less special. They treat this lifestyle like a bucket list and each item crossed off means that doing it again is less valuable. I should mention that for these same people, frequency with one partner also has the same effect (or serves the same excuse) where being with their one partner many times or frequently also makes it less valuable to them.

This is honestly a kind of epidemic in the bdsm lifestyle where many have been conditioned to treat others, toys, kinks, and other elements of the lifestyle like things or materials (see materialism) and fail to establish or preserve a sacred space for their practice and their partner(s).

[ju****]

Body count is not important.

[Deleted Member]

I think as long as you have good communication, are enjoying yourself with your partner, and are happy/ satisfied with what they have going on. It shouldnt matter. Unfortunately, we live in a day and age where people tend to judge because to them it comes off as gross or wrong. Like they cant get it out of their head type gross.

[JeepGuyGTA]

Short and simple - No

[fe****]

I don't care who many or who my partner has been with before me. It was the past and his past experiences is what makes him who he is today.

[MN****]

Judgement about body count is about jealousy of a partners life experience over your own.
I get jealous when my partner is having lots of randome hookups when im not so popular with the folks I would like to hear back from. But as long as I feel priorized how i want, then its fine. Sometimes its me getting all the attention (not really these days). But yeah. Jealousy is the work we do in open relationships

[Ki****]

Never mattered, if anything is a bigot way to judge a person character.

[Da****]

I don’t care really - I haven’t asked any of them either .
I just like to be honest about safety aspects of it . Nothing more .

[Or****]

Why should it matter? Only people that are bothered by high number of past partners are creeps in my experience.

[Un****]

Not really. Their past is their past, and I’m more interested in who they are with me now. What matters to me is honesty, trust, sexual health, respecting boundaries, and whatever agreements we’ve made within our relationship. A number by itself doesn’t tell me whether someone is loyal, compatible, or capable of building something meaningful with me. I’d rather judge the person and the connection we have than keep score of what happened before me.

[so****]

Nah, it doesn’t matter.

[Jo****]

Fuck no

[Bo****]

Look, I stopped counting after I hit 4b digits. Who cares. So long as you get regularly tested. It just means more experience and opportunities to learn new things.

[Ki****]

Body count should matter regardless

[Mi****]

It matters! It depends of the context cause if it's from an sex addiction, it says many things to you.