Be**** Posted September 11 I think putting all of your eggs in one basket can only end badly for you in this day and age of dating, but the best way to combat it is to push yourself to reach out to different people. If you wait for ‘the one’ to come around, I *** you’ll perish before you manage contact.
Ro**** Posted September 12 4 hours ago, NotFran said: For me, it's mostly an ADHD-thing, so it's not really like I consciously obsess over that person... more like a song you got stuck in your head and can't get out no matter what you try, so you have to listen to it on repeat until you brain has had enough of it lol Same! It’s an OCD trait too but I can recognize when it happens at least so I try to keep a few ppl to talk to or other things to do to distract myself bc it’s frustrating when I can’t shake them out of my main focus.
Cam150 Posted September 12 I have a type and I might hyperfixate for a day or 2 but its tough to get past that point without a sign of mutual interest. Apps are pictures and words and without that vibe being established i tend to lose interest rather quickly. It also tends to be extremely hard, at least for me, to get the "in" and get comfortable and actually start to vibe through text.
Deleted Member Posted September 12 But it doesn’t dictate my feelings. It’s more of that first time meet feeling that slowly wears away.
Da**** Posted September 12 There have been lots of people throughout history who have experienced this same type of fixation, they are called "serial killers."
li**** Posted September 15 I am this way too! I have to tone back my intensity once my sights are set on someone but it’s so tough to do!
hu**** Posted October 6 Yes all the time. I’ll see one or two girls that I’m absolutely obsessed with. They know who they are….
li**** Posted October 23 On 9/11/2026 at 7:55 PM, Roobaebee said: Same! It’s an OCD trait too but I can recognize when it happens at least so I try to keep a few ppl to talk to or other things to do to distract myself bc it’s frustrating when I can’t shake them out of my main focus. I was thinking it was ocd too. I had something happen to me years ago and I realize it is probably something to do with an addiction for me. But, I went to a 12 step meeting and someone commenting at the meeting I talked to briefly several times over a couple month period. But, I had this incredible feeling around her but never asked her out. It was more than lust too. It must have had something to do with physiology. I still get this feeling but have learned to manage it. The hyperfocus is an emotional attachment. I have ADHD and OCD and probably a bunch of other stuff.
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