Navigating Kink as a Switch

[Deleted Member]

I’m curious to know how others navigate having different dynamics as a switch?

I am both the:
- Impact top and the bottom
- Domme/Goddess and the submissive
- The sadist and the masochist

After being dominant with someone I often find it hard to switch that off and return to my Owner as a Good Girl and vice versa…

[Sk****]

In my head I’m all I just haven’t found my partner in crime 😆

[No****]

For me it really depends on the energy I get from the partner I interact with... I'm naturally more on the bratty side, so if they can hold up against that, I might be nice, or at least more willing to submit 😇🤭
If they can't, that just turns into full dominant mode 😆😂

[Fr****]

Honestly I've been struggling hard. Everyone i meet want the same. They see me, large, decently in shape viking vibes. They want me to bare my teeth and take control. Its almost impossible to be a switch looking like me because I dont openly act submissive. Im very high energy and a bit more dominant in public. Im trying to get into the life more but I cant seem to find good play partners. Who enjoy a proper pet and who can make someone submit using a bit of grace intend of just belitting and acting tough

[do****]

i can do naturally so i struggle understanding it. but my girl normally struggles we do activities that kinda steers the setting and mood. she normally stuck in whatever mood or role.

but if she wants to be dominant she will normally baby me brush my hair with her hands maybe spank, in most cases do aftercare like things. and i have to watch it because if i take lead or start doing similar things she will become little. also thats how i help her in little space i ask her to do things give ton of affection kisses hugs spanks, rubs just about anything sexual and loving.

[Juggarnaut11]

I’m definitely more sub and would enjoy finding a domme

[ia****]

I enjoy very much being a switch, married to a switch. I love the slight competitive nature. The role play of batting his new scenes and then getting to beat his game the next time we switch. 😋 It's lovely. But I don't switch with other partners.

[Deleted Member]

Yesterday at 05:25 AM, NotFran said:

For me it really depends on the energy I get from the partner I interact with... I'm naturally more on the bratty side, so if they can hold up against that, I might be nice, or at least more willing to submit 😇🤭
If they can't, that just turns into full dominant mode 😆😂

I understand this soooo much

[Deleted Member]

Yesterday at 05:53 AM, FrekiTheWolf said:

Honestly I've been struggling hard. Everyone i meet want the same. They see me, large, decently in shape viking vibes. They want me to bare my teeth and take control. Its almost impossible to be a switch looking like me because I dont openly act submissive. Im very high energy and a bit more dominant in public. Im trying to get into the life more but I cant seem to find good play partners. Who enjoy a proper pet and who can make someone submit using a bit of grace intend of just belitting and acting tough

That is so sad 😞 I’m sorry your experience is like that. I am a switch but when dominant I find it rather fulfilling for a very masculine presenting man to submit to me

[Deleted Member]

I feel this to my core

[Jdubbs143]

I’m having a hard time also. Im trying to figure this out. I’m generally a dominant personality but really love when I can submit. Problem is when I test the waters they all submit and then I look at them like a failure maybe even pathetic. Not sure how to explain. I don’t want a hard dom. I need help