Different dynamics

[pr****]

Me and my gf are in an owner (me) / pet (her) relationship. For us what works best is having her ask me for everything, like when she can sleep or nap, when she can drink juices or sodaa, when she can have a snack, what tasks does she have to do for that specific day, things like that. And when she does something right i reward her (maybe she can have a snack or she can get extra time for her naps) and when she doesn't follow directions i give her punishments (we've been working with giving lines and otp edging bc we are long distance). Sometimes i notice that she will regress into either a puppy headspace, which when that happens i treat it accordingly, but other times ive noticed that she will age regress and its purely unintentional. She seems to go to toddler ages so nothing super young but ive recognized it but she hasn't bc she is new whereas I am not. However I have never been in a mommy/little dynamic bc ive never been with a little before. THAT BEING SAID im thinking about bringing it to her attention and explaining to her so we can try it out but the issue i am having is i don't like kids. Never have never will. But something is pulling at me to be able to try out the cg/little dynamic but i dont know. I just need to know if anyone has experienced this and what they did or even what advice someone more deep in the scene could give me.

[gabi131234]

Does she also ask for permission to go *** and she has to hold it in if you refuse? Even if she's bursting?

[pr****]

8 minutes ago, gabi131234 said:

Does she also ask for permission to go *** and she has to hold it in if you refuse? Even if she's bursting?

Yes but i dont see how this answers my question 🧐

[gabi131234]

1 minute ago, prettyXpuppy said:

Yes but i dont see how this answers my question 🧐

Sorry I was simply asking because I was curious if you do make her little bladder burst sometimes, true it does not answer the question 😅

[Pe****]

i personally haven’t been in this situation but if you want to, i think you could have a conversation. the only way you’ll ever know is if you communicate!

[pr****]

2 minutes ago, PerceptionOfPercie said:

i personally haven’t been in this situation but if you want to, i think you could have a conversation. the only way you’ll ever know is if you communicate!

Yea and i want to and am going to talk to her about it to get her opinions and have that conversation but its like how do i know id be a good cg to a little if in my personal life i truly do not like ***? Is it separate feelings and instances or do they correlate like im js confused

[bi****]

The 2 are separated given to the fact that your working mind knows that your littles age is not that of what they regress. 2 and as such, you can differentiate as far as discussing it, just like everything else in this lifestyle. You have to communicate clear communication up front lessons, any issues later on. And it sounds like you already have a puppy master relationship. So be groundwork is there to subtly laterally change it. Hopefully this helps

[pr****]

44 minutes ago, bigcalcouple said:

The 2 are separated given to the fact that your working mind knows that your littles age is not that of what they regress. 2 and as such, you can differentiate as far as discussing it, just like everything else in this lifestyle. You have to communicate clear communication up front lessons, any issues later on. And it sounds like you already have a puppy master relationship. So be groundwork is there to subtly laterally change it. Hopefully this helps

Literally thank you sm! I always wanna get as much info as i can so ik im solid that way if she has any questions ik i can answer them. That really helps a lot 🙏🏾

[bi****]

That's what we're here for. If those of us who have been in the lifestyle longer, do not share our knowledge as a collective, those who come after us, or have these questions are doomed to stumble over the same issues. We did in the dark

[De****]

All dualities (Dom/sub, Masc/fem, etc…) are rooted in the base energies and stem in some form or another from the archetypes of the Father/mother.

That thought makes people uncomfortable because of any perceived association they believe it may have with individuals who occupy those positions in the real world and any traumas that may come with it.

But without getting into too much detail on this specific subject; I will note that the formation of these archetypes happens prior to us becoming sexual beings and are instead rooted in aspects like safety, nurture, control, etc…
With time, the information is condensed and direct associations are removed in the process until all that is left is a blueprint.

My point is: while pet play and cg/little are two very different activities; their source is the same so it isn’t entirely out of the realm.


I say this to you because respectfully; you are young and I assume your partner is too.
There are aspects of yourself you are beginning to become aware of because you are ready but your partner may potentially have trouble processing.

So I would advise you to explore the source of your own feelings first, familiarize yourself with the psychological components involved and guide them through the conversation delicately.

I will say that I sense there to be the potential for this to be very healing for the both of you but then again I don’t know either of you and it’s more a feeling.

I hope this is of some help.

[pr****]

16 minutes ago, DeepRootedUrges said:

All dualities (Dom/sub, Masc/fem, etc…) are rooted in the base energies and stem in some form or another from the archetypes of the Father/mother.

That thought makes people uncomfortable because of any perceived association they believe it may have with individuals who occupy those positions in the real world and any traumas that may come with it.

But without getting into too much detail on this specific subject; I will note that the formation of these archetypes happens prior to us becoming sexual beings and are instead rooted in aspects like safety, nurture, control, etc…
With time, the information is condensed and direct associations are removed in the process until all that is left is a blueprint.

My point is: while pet play and cg/little are two very different activities; their source is the same so it isn’t entirely out of the realm.


I say this to you because respectfully; you are young and I assume your partner is too.
There are aspects of yourself you are beginning to become aware of because you are ready but your partner may potentially have trouble processing.

So I would advise you to explore the source of your own feelings first, familiarize yourself with the psychological components involved and guide them through the conversation delicately.

I will say that I sense there to be the potential for this to be very healing for the both of you but then again I don’t know either of you and it’s more a feeling.

I hope this is of some help.

Yes okay and ive looked into it and done a lot of research on different dynamics and also people that i know personally who are in the cg/little or pet play dynamics because i wanted to know like background as well as real world experiences. And im learning ab myself that i always naturally take on that kind of "mother" role in a sense while also noticing certain things within my gf that she hasnt yet. So when i go about the conversation like how should i approach it from a more informational standpoint or personal one or a little bit of both like idk. I really js wanna be AS KNOWLEDGABLE as possible before i even approach a conversation and even if she is like no thats not for me i still want to be able to have the info yk

[De****]

1 hour ago, prettyXpuppy said:

Yes okay and ive looked into it and done a lot of research on different dynamics and also people that i know personally who are in the cg/little or pet play dynamics because i wanted to know like background as well as real world experiences. And im learning ab myself that i always naturally take on that kind of "mother" role in a sense while also noticing certain things within my gf that she hasnt yet. So when i go about the conversation like how should i approach it from a more informational standpoint or personal one or a little bit of both like idk. I really js wanna be AS KNOWLEDGABLE as possible before i even approach a conversation and even if she is like no thats not for me i still want to be able to have the info yk

I think you have the right idea, it’s clear that you’ve given this a lot of thought. Trust that.

The fact is you have a responsibility to her as their master, friend and lover.
To train them, to nurture them and to help them develop.

This can sometimes mean change.

You could convey that in part you feel limited in your ability to fulfill their growing needs in the current dynamic and that there is something you would like them to try.
If this is something you feel.

More importantly, you aren’t taking this lightly and you trust each other.
That’s a solid place to start for any conversation.

[wa****]

I like that

[pr****]

1 minute ago, DeepRootedUrges said:

I think you have the right idea, it’s clear that you’ve given this a lot of thought. Trust that.

The fact is you have a responsibility to her as their master, friend and lover.
To train them, to nurture them and to help them develop.

This can sometimes mean change.

You could convey that in part you feel limited in your ability to fulfill their growing needs in the current dynamic and that there is something you would like them to try.
If this is something you feel.

More importantly, you aren’t taking this lightly and you trust each other.
That’s a solid place to start for any conversation.

Okay thank you sm im gonna take what you say and like literally lock in youve answered my question perfectly 🙏🏾

[De****]

2 minutes ago, prettyXpuppy said:

Okay thank you sm im gonna take what you say and like literally lock in youve answered my question perfectly 🙏🏾

🙏🏼