Solo play

[Mi****]

So for women, does anyone else have trouble getting off? Like it takes hours, vibrators die, when with a partner getting head you feel little to nothing? I’ve been like that my whole life and have no idea why. Internal sex is pleasurable but doesn’t get me off. External just doesn’t do much for me but is the only way I can.

Longest time for me was almost 6hrs.

[ba****]

This fits me to a tee

[co****]

9 minutes ago, babygirl3610 said:

This fits me to a tee

Have you tried a g-vibe yet? Or something that is totally different? Light bondage or sensory stimulation ? How long and good is the foreplay? Have you tried being blindfolded and bejng touched all over your body with different fabrics and textures, temples and shapes? Fubgers and tongue, wet and dry. Sensory stimulation is a huge turn on for many women who may have the same issue.

[Bi****]

Get a wand vibrator that plugs in, not cordless. Try a Doxy… more power than a Hitachi

[Je****]

So I'm a man so I'll keep this short as I can. My 25 year relationship ended last year my ex-wife. I got out there on sites. 1st woman was in Dec I had no issues except I couldn't cum no matter how hard I tried. Next women in April. I dated for a while I could never get there like over the edge. But I could cum. But it was like a lot of work and split sessions and a lot of sweating I thought it was due to porn and only solo stuff for a couple years prior. This month I slept with my Ex wife several times for the 1st time in like 3 years. Well I can cum in seconds if I wanted too! Lol! Idk know what the meaning is? But it's gotta be connection and comfort. Who knew I was gonna need to have feelings and love to cum. Maybe you're lacking the same thing with partners idk

[do****]

Have you tryed viagra? It dose the same as it does to men but it could help with clit stimulation

[ba****]

29 minutes ago, coupleforfun518 said:

Have you tried a g-vibe yet? Or something that is totally different? Light bondage or sensory stimulation ? How long and good is the foreplay? Have you tried being blindfolded and bejng touched all over your body with different fabrics and textures, temples and shapes? Fubgers and tongue, wet and dry. Sensory stimulation is a huge turn on for many women who may have the same issue.

No but I am into sensory titans bondage I like that kinda stuff

[co****]

2 minutes ago, babygirl3610 said:

No but I am into sensory titans bondage I like that kinda stuff

It’s changing the routine

[Mr****]

Not a woman but can say in my personal experience, using the sensitivity increasing gels that aid in making the clitoris and labia more sensitive can really make big difference.
Using more reliable devices like a wand vibrator with a power cable is going to offer practically unlimited running time and sustained output levels. Until the internal motor actually dies or you break the wand head. Best advice is to have toys fully charged and even a back up one that is also fully charged.

Also try some new textures and shapes of non powered internal stimulation devices.
Like glass dildos with exciting bumps and ribs that hit the Gspot and can be used warm or cold too.
Experiment with other sources of stimulation and see if anything helps to increase pleasure.
And relax, being in a relaxed state is half the battle won.

[Si****]

Is it a case of simply relaxing?

[Do****]

Hell, it definitely helps if you know where your G-spot is, but I’m curious about what else gets you off. For example, when you stimulate your clitoris, does it feel good? Do you feel like you’re getting close to an orgasm, or have you actually been able to orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone?

Like I said, it helps to understand your own body and what feels pleasurable to you. When you’re masturbating, have you ever been able to locate your G-spot or notice a particularly sensitive area internally? Have any of your partners been able to stimulate that area successfully?

Every woman’s anatomy and sensitivity are a little different. Some women enjoy internal stimulation, some prefer clitoral stimulation, and others enjoy a combination of both. Some women also find anal stimulation pleasurable because of the surrounding nerves and shared pelvic structures, although that doesn’t necessarily mean their G-spot is closer to the rectum.

That’s why I like asking these questions. The more I understand what your body responds to and what you actually enjoy, the better I can understand what brings you pleasure.

[Ye****]

It doesn’t take long with a vib me but sex doesn’t nothing for me. A lot of the time I just fake it so it ends because it legit does nothing stimulating wise. Never has. I high key hate sex but crave submission. Thought I was the only one honestly

[Deleted Member]

Have you tried switching to your other hand and not stopping til you complete? Try varying s***ds when it comes to how fast or slow you rub your clitoris.

[Da****]

Maybe you’re not getting off because it’s not what you’re into? Have you tried watching porn of something that really turns you on? If you’re not already turned on, it’s definitely more difficult to cum. Women are much more complicated than men in that aspect. The worst thing you can do is pressure yourself. That makes it even harder.

[Bi****]

I haven’t had an orgasm in my entire life till I met the right guy. With him it is so easy to cum, but with him everything that seem impossible before suddenly doesn’t seem so difficult.
What I suggest is that you might need a partner that really meets your vibe.

[Ou****]

But if youve been killing vibrators youve effectively desensitized yourself. Those things feel good initially but destroy your sensitivity. Id stop masterbating for a few months and either try big aggressive real cock or nothing at all. The more you buzz or rub the less chance you'll ever cum again. Im a man and jerking off ruined me for along time. I finally quit for months to regain some sensitivity. Good luck.

[Hypnocurious]

How about an Erotic Hypnosis session. ? When you have tried everything else, use the power of your mind to have the experiences you want.

[Ba****]

It can take me a long time to cum and I have to watch porn. I learned to use my non dominant hand and only clitoral stimulation makes me cum. I’ve never cum from penetration and actually can get in my own head about taking to long sometimes that it kills the vibe. I do find the more relaxed I am the more I can “let go” with someone else.

[DirtyDaddyx]

It’s not just a physical thing - it’s what’s on your head as well.

If you are “getting off” to something that really turns you on and makes you so damned horny and you’re on the right mental space then it shouldn’t take anywhere near as long.

Sometimes I can masturbate for ages … sometimes give up because I’m overthinking it, struggling to settle / focus on the right aspect - but other times something is in my head, gets me so horny and my orgasm rides on the back of it.

[ne****]

as a man, i just want to apologize for all the creeps and unsolicited advice from other men. im not going to try giving you advice because even though ive had a similar issue in the past, anything i say dwindles in significance to what other women can offer you. wish you the best

[Pe****]

Not sure why so many dudes are commenting…. Anyways, SSRIS gave me this effect. I’ve been unmedicated & having incredible orgasms for the last couple years now 🥳 obvs consult with your Dr. to be safe.

[Sa****]

I can't say that it's taken me six hours to get off. One thing I did notice since hormones is that the amount of time it takes me to get off nowadays is much longer. Personally it could take anywhere from 15-25 minutes to get off. Before hormones I was like Mike Tyson and finished in 2 minutes 🤣

[am****]

I havent had shit for relationships or ever a close enuf connection with someone to freely be the sexual weirdo I am...so obv im most often solo, and when im with a stranger or a long time fuck buddy I always have to help myself finish the job. I have never had an orgasm from internal alone...i cant answer that question for myself so I def cant help u there...but for women it is connection....even if its ur head. if ur alone talk out to urself an exotic idea, thought, scene, person, etc....men r built to procreate...we r built to build families, connections and the right arousal (for each of us) gets us to the proper O ;)

[am****]

I’ve found that pelvic floor work helped me alot. Meds definitely make it harder at times. Only had a few orgasms with a partner. For me overall health matters. By myself I can get things done in under 10 if I’m mentally ready. With a man who knows what he’s doing/ creates an environment of safety/ comfort/ and 10-15 minutes of for-play &gotten me mentally ready before hand ( totally separate should happen way in advance especially needed for those with neurodivergent brains in my experience) even then most women need clitoral & vaginal stimulus at the same time to finish.

[GB****]

Make any of yall squirt in my mouth quick