Solo play

[le****]

Get your testosterone levels checked, prolly a hormone thing.

[me****]

I read that the largest and most powerful sex toy, is the brain.

[xX****]

I get like that sometimes and it usually means I have to switch up what I'm doing. Usually find something new to fantasize about. But from what I'm hearing you either have a nerve issue or maybe just happen to not be very sensitive. If you're going for stimulating your nerves I've heard a sucking toy does wonders, but I personally only use vibrators because they're my favorite.

[Ba****]

Try the rose

[Bethy-4543]

Ever since I was young and had Bell’s palsy, it screwed up my nervous system. Like tingle/numb feeling in half my face some nights, arms to fingers, and legs to my toes going numb - like neuropathy. The most feeling I have is clitoral and that’s the only way I can get off. Penetration can be pleasurable, but just enough to keep me wanting more - nothing to even get me close. But when I’m using external toys, if it’s too much vibration or suction, it just causes me to become numb. Most wands tend to be too powerful even on the lowest setting. I ended up buying a lemon and the second setting is amazing. I get off within a minute. I had my man slowly F me while I used my lemon (kinda hard missionary, btw), and it was the first time I ever squirted since I was in my early 20’s. I didn’t know I could do that anymore 🤣

[ha****]

Same here unfortunately. I thought it was either hormonal or desensitization from years of using toys.

[da****]

So for solo play no for like when I’m actually having sex i do not cum I’ve fucked for over 7 hours straight and the girl had to take short breaks just cuddling me but never got off but by the time we where done she was exhausted

[Co****]

Wow yes this is almost identical to my experience though if the vibrator is powerful enough it doesn't take quite so long

[br****]

Minute to Win It Ladies...buy womanizer liberty 12 s***d. Sucking vibe toy. It is the most popular one for women at sex toy shops.

[Ki****]

I have masturbated for hours and run down batteries and vibrators, and still not get off it is very frustrating. I think it has something to do with being sexually ***d when I was young. It made me have a hard time, relaxing, and being able to enjoy it because of thinking about the *** makes me feel weird.

[Co****]

8 minutes ago, Kimber469ing said:

I have masturbated for hours and run down batteries and vibrators, and still not get off it is very frustrating. I think it has something to do with being sexually ***d when I was young. It made me have a hard time, relaxing, and being able to enjoy it because of thinking about the *** makes me feel weird.

This is my reasoning 🥺 I've never been able to relax or get off during oral because of it

[wi****]

Sometimes it does for me

[Dr****]

Rule number 1, remove any distractions. Turn off/down the tv or have something peaceful going. relax. Take deep breathes before you go there. Check your pulse if you need to. From there, let your mind wonder. For me it helps to think of something taboo/naughty to give me that “oh I shouldn’t be doing this” or “you shouldn’t be don’t this to me” feeling but to each her own. I sometimes will go in my backyard because I enjoy the sun on my skin and feeling of getting caught. Arousal is heavily dependent on our mental/emotional well being. Another thing is to love your body. I have a mirror that I will wear something I feel sexy in front of. It’s exciting to walk around doing chores and catch glimpses of my ass/pussy/tits hanging out of my clothes. You can do this for hours leading up to the time you’re ready to please your self. It sounds like you might be over anticipating or about anxious so these tips can really help. As someone with anxiety/ADHD I had a difficult time as well but once I made these little changes, it got so much better for me. Remember sometimes you have those days where it just doesn’t happen for you but as long as you prioritize yourself, you deserve to feel these wonderful sensations. Good luck!

[G0****]

I will say I thought solo play was elite until I actually had a dom talking me through it and now it’s not as satisfying 😭

[Mikemart26]

I have that problem. I can stay hard but its hard for me to cum...

[da****]

1 hour ago, Mikemart26 said:

I have that problem. I can stay hard but its hard for me to cum...

Ive had the opposite solo play no problem it’s when I’m have actual sex that I can’t bust

[ru****]

If you’re taking anti depressants it might have something to do with it. I’ve noticed that SSRIs can get in the way.

[Mi****]

Friday at 05:23 AM, BigJohn1964 said:

Get a wand vibrator that plugs in, not cordless. Try a Doxy… more power than a Hitachi

Fair but I like the suction ones not the wands 🥲🥲🥲

[Mi****]

Friday at 05:34 AM, doncaster24561 said:

Have you tryed viagra? It dose the same as it does to men but it could help with clit stimulation

I haven’t. Idk how I’d even get a hold of that. I’ve brought it up to my dr but they said “it’s normal”

[Mi****]

Friday at 05:30 AM, Jephenie44 said:

So I'm a man so I'll keep this short as I can. My 25 year relationship ended last year my ex-wife. I got out there on sites. 1st woman was in Dec I had no issues except I couldn't cum no matter how hard I tried. Next women in April. I dated for a while I could never get there like over the edge. But I could cum. But it was like a lot of work and split sessions and a lot of sweating I thought it was due to porn and only solo stuff for a couple years prior. This month I slept with my Ex wife several times for the 1st time in like 3 years. Well I can cum in seconds if I wanted too! Lol! Idk know what the meaning is? But it's gotta be connection and comfort. Who knew I was gonna need to have feelings and love to cum. Maybe you're lacking the same thing with partners idk

Nope I’m 5 years deep and love them to death. I do have body image issues tho

[Mr****]

Not a woman so I'll keep this short; but as a dominant personality, it could be that your head space isn't fully engaged in your activities (as in, "having a submissive" and "submitting someone" and "feeling empowered and dominant" and "dominating the situation" are all different things, and likely some combo of them is your trigger).

This happens for me in situations where I find myself quite happy with someone but the relationship has "gone on long enough" unbroken that I've burned my emotional candle to the wick (I'm solo-poly and fraysexual, preferring to orbit others' lives as a consistent comet rather than a planet in my own right—certainly never the local star).

I'm happy to speak further on this with you if you'd like.

[69****]

I would say it's common....not normal. I'd get a different doctor that'll listen n help get to bottom of issues. But you may be the type that needs more than anything physical. Need a different type of stimulation to get you there. Maybe hypnotherapy or meditation are routes you should try

[x-****]

Yes, never went for 6 hours, just gave up. Never got off with a partner. I have intimacy issues. That said eventually I found a toy that does it for me very quickly.

[Ch****]

Had a friend like this in uni, and she swore by this "clit sensitising" oil or cream and her rabbit? I assume it's widely available, but couldn't say more about it. But she would regularly vent to me about any guy who wasn't willing to use it and toys on her during sex because she couldn't enjoy it otherwise.