In the mood

[Quil-7717]

My girlfriend’s kink comes in waves but I think she just expressed interest again. Any thoughts on text or words to put her in the mood?

[DarkArts1066]

Firstly, make sure you never pressurise her in any way.
Secondly, pay close attention to words and phrases that you use when you play, that excite her in the moment.
Men tend to be more visual as a rule… if a woman reminds you of - or suggests a repeat of a scenario which you as a male have enjoyed … boom.
‘Pavlovs Dog’ usually does the rest!

However women as a general rule seem to be wired differently. Set the scene, tell a story.
There are three or four scenarios which usually hit the spot for my sub without fail. I know her. What excites her.
Sometimes I send a text which just starts “remember when….”
And then I remind her of something we have done - or she has experienced…..you will soon know if you approach is the right one. If not, consider changing tack.

And if that fails …. She simply isn’t in the mood right now.

Good luck.

[Leisa]

Communication. After a particular scenario that you noticed worked, ask her what made it exciting for her and build on it. This woman is about communication. Words matter.