I’m looking for a Dom, not a Daddy. Talk to me to find out who I am before having preconceived notions about who or how they think I should be. I am definitely funny and sweet, classy and dedicated, confident and definitive outside of the lifestyle, free thinking but live a conservative lifestyle outside of a dynamic. I have brat qualities with a side of sadistic.
A little over a year ago I found myself in a dynamic with someone abusive. Having been in this lifestyle for over 20 years I thought I’d recognize abuse if it ever happened to me. Looking back, what I have discovered is that it is much easier to see an abusive dynamic when it’s not your own. I was doing great, ready to begin the process of opening back up, when out of the blue he reached out in July and it brought me back to questioning myself and why he had gotten through my radar.
I have learned that I am going to require a Dom/Sadist who is willing to take the time to build that trust and be open to me seeking clarification and guidance whenever I begin to question myself once more. Where once I knew who I was implicitly, I now find myself a work in progress.
Unless you are funny, charming, engaging, and articulate on top of the qualities above, please don’t reach out because I will not engage.
I’ve always used a hand signal when gagged. A simply tap and a held out palm in a stop signal did the trick. The purpose of the gag is to minimize vocal ability. I can see where their frustration comes in.
Only if the offer of tacos comes to fruition
Conversation is always the best starting point.
No such thing.
I was in a long distance D/s for months and for the majority of the time it was beautiful. Daily phone chats and more often than not being led through scenes and given direction. We also enjoyed video calls. Despite the daily contact the lack of physical contact took its toll and we ended up ending Read more… the dynamic while there was still love and respect present. He’s still one of my dearest lifestyle friends.
If after a short time you’re already feeling the stress of the lack of physicality, unless you both find a way to overcome that distance, there’s nothing that will replace what sounds like a need. It’s ok to need physical touch and the majority of people need it to some extent. You said meeting up in person is not completely out of the realm of possibility. Maybe it would be worth exploring to see if it’s a viable option beforehand.
Agree to disagree. The question asked for an opinion.
I reply to every post, even if it’s a no thank you or you’re not what I’m looking for but that’s just me. When I first began here eons ago those reaching out were more along your line and it was easier to respond and pick up dialogue. Lately, the posts are rude. It’s highly probable that your posts Read more… aren’t even being read because of the inconsideration of those that have come before you. Don’t lose heart. Your posts will eventually strike a cord with someone and a dialogue will occur.
Hello luv. I allowed my profile to become dormant as life took on new meanings and the time to spend here became less. I’m still around but less so. The forum is my favorite place to be as the chat seems to have been taken over by the young ones who are still finding their way so I grow impatient. Read more… There seems to be an innocence in there that’s not my jam. I’m glad to see you’re still writing though I miss your older posts.
I think alpha is a trait someone is born with. I think Dom/Dommes are made through education and experience
I had a Dom on here for months until the distance became an issue for me. He ended up with one of my friends, after they both talked to me, and now happily reside together in England. She could handle the distance. They’ve been together over 2 years. It can and does happen.
I think it’s changed but not necessarily because of money. I think a lot of the respectfulness has gone out the window and it’s becoming more of a challenge to find a Ds that honors what used to be the norm. I miss the old ways.
Contracts are not contracts unless they’re legal. Otherwise they’re useless and pointless.
Look at your own statement which says legally binding. Check yourself before trying to make a pointless point.
I’m in law and there is no such thing as a legal contract in my world. It’s not binding on anyone, will not help you in the event of charges, and will not protect you civilly.