Hair Pulling

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For all lovers of hair pulling

Hair pulling is one of those actions that can be highly irritating. Anyone who accidentally traps a strand of hair in a bobble and pulls will know how unpleasant it can be. However, during the heat of the moment it can be extremely sexy. An act that can show both dominance and passion, hair pulling can work both ways, Dominant and submissives can both enjoy it as part of primal, sexual play after all it’s called rough and tumble for a reason, right? Tugging and pulling on hair is all fun and games but make sure it’s all completely consensual.

 Is hair pulling in sex considered kinky?

As with everything, some people love it and some people hate it but it is seen as a way to add a little kinky fun to sex. If you want to incorporate it in play make sure you ask if it’s okay first as some people really don’t like it.

How is the best way to pull hair?

The best place to grab the hair is at the base of the neck, anywhere higher or lower can be much more painful but also it is the best place to grab to control movement. Make sure you grab a good chunk of hair too, as it’s more painful to grab a few strands and much easier to just pull the hair out of the head – not what you want at all.

Does it make me submissive if I enjoy having my hair pulled?

It can do, especially if you see it as being an expression of your partner’s power and control over you. However, it doesn’t have to be. Hair pulling can be quite primal and even dominant partners can enjoy it in part of rough sex, especially if they enjoy their partner fighting back a little bit.

How do I ask my partner to pull my hair during sex?

It can often be good to ask before you get into a sexual situation so you can discuss all aspects with a clear head. You could say you’d seen something on TV or on the internet or read a scene in a book that you found hot if you need a place to start that conversation. Share those with your partner and ask if they’re willing to give hair pulling a try. But remember if they say no, respect that. Consent is key.

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