Phone Sex

The fun of phone sex

For people in long-distance relationships, phone sex can be an invaluable way of keeping a sexual connection alive. It's also a great thing to do when one of you is away - you'll be able to get off no matter where you are, all without needing to find anyone new to do it with!

Of course, phone sex isn't solely the domain of people in existing relationships. While they're less common than they used to be, phone sex lines still exist - and they can be a fun addition to an evening in on your own. In many cases they've been replaced by cam girl culture, but if you find a hotline that works for you it can be a lot of fun.

Is phone sex classed as cheating?

If you are doing it behind your partner’s back, it’s cheating. It doesn’t matter if it’s physical or not, when you keep secrets from your other half then you’re cheating.

How do you give good phone sex?

You might be a little nervous at first but just go with the flow. A little laugh could help break the ice after all. Just say what you’re thinking. Describe a scene or even just describe what you’re wearing, how you’re touching yourself. If you’re masturbating at the same time try to remember to keep talking…until you get to the point of climax then it’s totally fine to just moan or scream!

How do you initiate phone sex?

Remember, consent is always key. Ask the person you’re on the phone with if they want to have a little sexy fun, don’t just leap off into describing what you’d like to do to them. That’s just creepy.

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Sex chat and all that

Here at Fetish.com, we've written before about the joys of sexting and cyber sex. Done anonymously with strangers online, it can be a wonderful way of exploring your kinks and figuring out your boundaries before taking the risk of translating things into real life. Used as part of an already-existing relationship it's an opportunity to spark up a little passion, keep things boiling over and help you feel connected to each other. If you're in a new relationship, these sexy messages will help you figure out what they're into and make the sex you have when you're physically together better than you could have imagined.

Can you be vanilla and kinky?

Simply put, vanilla is the opposite of everything we're about here at Fetish.com. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing, though - quite the opposite! All kinds of sex are fantastic for the people who desire them, and the best way to run your sex life is exactly how you and your partners want to. It's also important to bear in mind that just because someone has kinks and fetishes doesn't mean they never want good old vanilla sex. Sure, there are those amongst us who need a little kink all the while to keep it feeling good - but there are plenty more who crave a little vanilla every now and then and find the experience one that promotes intimacy and builds trust.

Go fast in the backseat!

Adults often sexualise the things that were important to their developing sexuality when they were teenagers. This means a lot of grownups are turned on by schoolgirl or cheerleader outfits, but it also means - particularly in America, where driving from a young age is commonplace - that just as many are warmed up by the idea of revisiting car sex! Once it was your only option, but now it's a luxury and a bit of a naughty pursuit - so get your nostalgia on and enjoy the ride. Just beware, having sex in the car is probably a little more cramped and uncomfortable than you remember now that you're so much older and wiser!