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By and large, the people on the recieving end of a blow job prefer their partner to swallow their semen. This isn't a universal truth, of course - pretty much nothing is! But it's a solid rule of thumb in almost all cases. Plenty of blow-job-givers love the act of swallowing as much as the other side of the equation enjoys watching it, and for some - particularly submissives in BDSM-style relationships it can be a fantasy and a huge turn-on. If your partner doesn't like the idea, though, you mustn't press the issue, there are loads of valid reasons not to want to swallow someone's ejaculate, and just not feeling into it is absolutely one of them! It's possible to learn how to enjoy it if it's something they'd like to be able to do, but there's absolutely no reason anybody should feel obliged to try if they're just not into it.

Probably the single topic most often raised in the magazine's agony column is threesomes. Whether they're your hottest fantasy, your weekly reality or something that you reckon would turn you right off, they're big news - and they certainly have plenty of fans! The trick to finding a threesome is not to force it - these things happen naturally, and you're unlikely to be able to engineer a situation with a stranger or online that works out to your satisfaction. The trick to enjoying one, on the other hand, is to make sure everyone's feeling included and to try and spend roughly as much time 'giving' as you spend 'getting'. This is a good rule of thumb no matter what kind of sex you're having, but when there's more than one other person involved it can be hugely beneficial to give it some conscious thought!

Threesomes aren't the be all and end all of more-than-two sex, foursomes and moresomes are also common in some fetish clubs and sex-positive social circles, and sex involving four or more people is often referred to as 'group sex'. There's more than one form of group sex - there's the gangbang, for example, where a group of people are all focused on one individual, and there's the orgy, which is more of a free-for-all. People of all and any sexualities and gender identities can enjoy group sex in the right context, and it's a great way to live out some of your deeper and darker fantasies. Safer sex is even more important in group situations than it is in most others, as there's a far higher chance of picking up something you didn't want when you have more partners at once. You should also have consent negotiations before, during and after--it's vital to make sure that everyone is happy, comfortable and on the same page.