Is it wrong?

[ab****]

15 minutes ago, rengo69 said:

I always ask for an STD test and I show mine to the other person as well. I know that the other person still can be positive and show negative, but at least I feel a lil bit much better and secure.

Yes, some people get offended, and that’s fine. But, most of the people are here to hook up, you can’t be playing with your health.

If that person feels offended, well, NEXT! Just like that. Remember, probably you gonna have a good moment, but some STD stays forever

I agree thank you! It’s nice to know I am not the only one that feels the same way.

[ey****]

just a bit to debunk and help with stuff

I think the first step is of course anyone's boundary is fine, if you want to see any form of test results before you will engage with someone that is your call - but I think also a lot of trust and common sense should be applied.

Some stuff might vary a little bit by territory but... in the UK

We have a lot of private clinics but the kinda tests start at around £300 and get very expensive depending on how many swabs you need (so you pay per swab for rectum and throat) 

But testing is available on the NHS - but the service provided can vary wildly via home testing, family planning clinics and dedicated sexual health clinics.  

The priority for treatment and testing is always with those who have symptoms.  Symptoms for a lot of STIs are 2-3 weeks, but stuff like HIV is 3 months.

You can request asymptomatic screenings also but the NHS only has finite resource and while these are free - how often they can see you depends on the clinic and their resources with some being pushed to 3 months, some to 1 month.

In filming, the standard is usually that you should only do certain things (PIV, OWO, Anal, etc) if you have printed evidence (so has to be a clinic, not home testing or GPs etc) and within 28 days of the date on the certificate. Some do ask for 14 days.  However of course common sense can often apply - for example I know a guy turned down a shoot because while it was within 28 days he had done a lot of filming/work and I've seen people accept dates that have passed as long as it is pointed out that they have passed and it's not someone trying to pull a fast one.  Again it might be common sense.

So obviously when you are looking as of if someone has been tested - you need to apply common sense here on things like dates and how active you think they might have been (easier if it's someone you trust cos they can just tell you) 

Personally I think even if you are not asking for tests - if you are going to be sleeping around or having multiple partners etc then get yourself done every few months for peace of mind.  

[Wi****]

There are ways to ask and suggest that I think most wanting to see STI tests fail to accept. Instead of demanding a test result, try making conversation and end up asking "do you know you can get these tests now, I'm getting one, do you fancy doing the same" kind of thing. I'm sure most people would want to delcine because they don't see the need, and that's fair they can be persuaded to get one anyway once you make some effort to show them how easy and trouble-free it is, the others who vehemently decline... they probably don;t have the attitude you wanted anyway.

[Bo****]

People that are offended are not realistic and/or have something to hide 🤷🏾‍♂️ c’mon folks … this is grown people business and should be done RESPONSIBLY … even alcohol  warnings/advertisements advise you to enjoy/consume their products responsibly… why should this be any different?

[Deleted Member]

Just because we all are freaks doesn’t mean I’ll will f*** anyone without a condom. But it’s been a while that I’ve had sex with a woman, and when I do have sex it’s my ex cause she’s the bomb, but would love to find someone just like her.

[Ti****]

7 hours ago, king_blaxxx said:

People that are offended are not realistic and/or have something to hide 🤷🏾‍♂️ c’mon folks … this is grown people business and should be done RESPONSIBLY … even alcohol  warnings/advertisements advise you to enjoy/consume their products responsibly… why should this be any different?

Hmm you do realise that most people don't pay attention to those 'warnings', right 😂😂? Same with the warnings on gambling. Truth is you are either already responsible, or you aren't. The advisements and warnings probably don't make a difference haha. People tend to opt to learn the hard way instead 🤷‍♂️. So I actually forget what point you were trying to make 😇😂

Edited May 11, 2022 by Tickler101

[st****]

@gemini_man has made such a valuable observation - that seeing a clean test result doesn't mean someone's clean! All any of us can truly do is protect ourselves to the best of OUR ability. We cannot trust that someone has been honest about their sexual health, even if we see a clean test result. Be safe, not sorry. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Aq****]

I always ask for safety it's a great lil insight for me

[Ra****]

Exactly for me too

[Ar****]

I dont do sex with strangers so i dont need to ask but if they asked me id be happy cos it shows that person has a healthy self respect , therefore will respect me as well.

[Charms]

Asked master the question if I'd of asked for a sti check of him would he of done 1 he said of coures he would of.

 

He will remind me iv got to my *** test appointments I hate needles

[Da****]

I toke some of my exes to the clinic myself before we have any physical interaction

[My****]

I don’t think it’s either wrong or right. It’s about what makes you comfortable. There’s nothing wrong with asking and explaining why it’s important to you but there’s also nothing necessarily wrong with them saying no. If that’s sometjong you can’t compromise on, then just be upfront and move on

[lesdevon]

Surely  playing  safe  using  condoms  would solve  some  of these  issues

[ge****]

33 minutes ago, lesdevon said:

Surely  playing  safe  using  condoms  would solve  some  of these  issues

Whilst it offers a level of protection - it depends how far you take it - all of the main STIs can be passed on through oral for example, so unless you use condoms or a vaginal dam for that you're not protected against them.
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Some STIs (herpes and HPV) just need skin contact and unless you wore a whole body condom you'd not be protected against them.
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So to answer your question while using condoms offers a level of protection, it does not "solve" the problem.
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The only solution is either abstaining completely, or being monogamous with a partner who is also monogamous, or accepting you cannot rely 100% on others to take care of their sexual health so taking responsibility for your own with regular testing and being aware enough of the risks to decide which ones to take.
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Of course having open and honest conversations with potential sexual partners about sexual health, so you can assess how seriously they take it, helps - but there are ways and ways to do that without putting people's backs up.

[ey****]

30 minutes ago, lesdevon said:

Surely  playing  safe  using  condoms  would solve  some  of these  issues

yes and no and a lot on context.

I mean, yeah - a man practicing in NSA has a responsibility to wear a condom regardless - because he has the potential to get multiple people pregnant here.

But even with a condom - it's not risk free.

Granted - my one and only STI was from unprotected sex - a large amount of people I know who've had an STI have only done protected sex.  

But also... in the UK there has been an outbreak in throatal gonorrhea which is caused from men doing OWO - and no one really wants to wear a condom during a blow job so it's certainly advisable for men to get tested if they're going to see multiple partners. 

[Charms]

What's OWO 

I'm due ***s this week an had other tests at Dr's.

***s aren't done at Dr's.

I have to have regular tests due to  lady problems an other health issues.

 

 

[ge****]

3 hours ago, Charms said:

What's OWO 

I'm due ***s this week an had other tests at Dr's.

***s aren't done at Dr's.

I have to have regular tests due to  lady problems an other health issues.

 

 

Oral Without (a condom)

[ey****]

yes, sorry - so OWO is basically a man having a blowjob without the use of a condom (Oral Without) 

Obviously it has no risk of getting someone pregnant - but does carry the risk of passing on STIs and there has recently been an increase in the spread of gonorrhea via this method