Distance, how far is too far?

[Le****]

If it is right, it's right. There's no bounds to keep me from achieving something great.

[li****]

Long distance just means they're cheating

[Th****]

I am in the UK and my partner is in Texas we have both visited each other. Once you get beyond a certain distance it is less about the number of miles and more about whether you can stand being apart.

[Deleted Member]

If there is a strong connection long distance for a short period with enough contact in between visits would be acceptable. But if the connection isn't strong enough even if they are just down the road, meeting up would still be an issue

[ge****]

7 hours ago, little_baby said:

Long distance just means they're cheating

How do you figure that one out? There are many reasons as shown in this thread why people might meet long distance and none of them anything to do with cheating.
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Whilst it *could* be a sign of cheating in *some* cases, it isn't automatically the case that they are.

[ey****]

I think trust is one of the big factors for distance relationships.   But even then it's only an issue if you both expect complete monogamy.

Other than I can't offer a monogamy - in a hypothetical distance relationship, it'd be easier if the other person also didn't just have a relationship with me 

[Ar****]

13 hours ago, little_baby said:

Long distance just means they're cheating

Would you cheat in a long-distance relationship?

If no, why on earth would you automatically expect different from others?

If yes and you therefore expect the same from other people, that is a reflection on you - not the rest of us.

[McGraw]

I travelled from north Ayrshire  to Newcastle upon Tyne last week (~200 road miles) to meet someone whom I spent the day with and was back up the road that night. Fuel prices and individual availability are the only things preventing me from doing it more often. Any further south than greater Manchester and I’d be looking to spend the night if I was driving. I know someone that got the first flight down to from GLA London to meet someone and was on the last flight home and I’m more concerned with the carbon footprint than anything else there.

Edited June 21, 2022 by McGraw

[ey****]

for one off play

I've done some miles.

Within UK - places like Bristol and Hampshire amongst my furthest points (I did managed to do Hampshire and back in one day but wouldn't recommend that! Bristol tends to need an overnight) outside the UK - I've done Berlin and Bucharest to meet up for play - and am hopeful of possibly Prague.

I kinda get the concept on things like Carbon Footprint but these were trains or planes that were making the journey anyway.   

[En****]

I need to meet a person IRL to even consider starting a relationship but I would be willing to meet them halfway amd some cases more if I felt we got along. Not sure what that would mean distance-wise but I know I would want to see them at least once a week more often than not.

[Deleted Member]

depends on you really. I found a quality man, once I drove 1 1/2 hours to see him. He thinks we live too far apart for anything meaningful though. I know people that have relationships multiple states or countries away yet they make it work

[Si****]

I maintained a casual long distance relationship for years. She lived about 5 hours away so it was definitely weekend getaways but for something more serious I’d like to be close enough to spend less than an hour traveling to hang out.

[Li****]

I'd like someone a bit closer to me within an hour to be precise, because I have traveled a couple times to meet guys and I found that I was exhausted after no sleep. Another time I went to the Poconos it took me 3 hrs to get there and once I was there he practiced rigging, Shibari, bondage, sex tape with a ball gag, etc. He was so selfish and pathetic. So I stayed up all night and he sent me home without sleeping for another 3 hr ride home at 8:00 am!! I was bruised and my mouth was cut and swollen on one side plus I went through depression for a while. Never again !! Be careful who you meet on these sites because they sometimes come off as benign when they can be very abusive and hide behind kinks and being a Dom and accidentally take your life ! Don't fall for it !
At least closer to home you can get help and they know there's people close by that know you.
For any type of relationship to work there needs to be boundaries established and understanding between the two.
If one person doesn't like the distance or anything in the beginning they'll probably not want it in the end. It ends as it began !!

[Pi****]

Personally, distance doesn't matter to me if the vibe is right. I'd drive 5+ hours in a heartbeat if I was really that into it. So, admittedly biased, distance is barely a factor for me, unless we're talking a day or more of travel.

[ma****]

Also referred to as the 'bone zone'. I think of it in terms of miles. If you selected it as a core criteria it requires tremendous discipline to uphold.

[ma****]

15 hours ago, LisaLeigh7777 said:

I'd like someone a bit closer to me within an hour to be precise, because I have traveled a couple times to meet guys and I found that I was exhausted after no sleep. Another time I went to the Poconos it took me 3 hrs to get there and once I was there he practiced rigging, Shibari, bondage, sex tape with a ball gag, etc. He was so selfish and pathetic. So I stayed up all night and he sent me home without sleeping for another 3 hr ride home at 8:00 am!! I was bruised and my mouth was cut and swollen on one side plus I went through depression for a while. Never again !! Be careful who you meet on these sites because they sometimes come off as benign when they can be very abusive and hide behind kinks and being a Dom and accidentally take your life ! Don't fall for it !
At least closer to home you can get help and they know there's people close by that know you.
For any type of relationship to work there needs to be boundaries established and understanding between the two.
If one person doesn't like the distance or anything in the beginning they'll probably not want it in the end. It ends as it began !!

that's not a distance issue that's a screening and qualifying issue. That unfortunate *** that regrettably took place could have been 3 doors down from you or 30000 miles away from you.

[ey****]

2 hours ago, macNmiller said:

that's not a distance issue that's a screening and qualifying issue.

I'd say, yes, but

someone who lives a distance away is always going to be more difficult to screen.   

If you do also run into problems locally - you know more people in the area you can turn to for help, you know the area, and it's not as far to get home.

[di****]

I’d say for me probably within 100km is acceptable

[Deleted Member]

For most of the women on this site I would have to travel halfway one day, rent a hotel room and travel the other half the next day

[Na****]

I was driving 201 miles one way to see my ex. I would stay a couple days to a week at a time.

[Deleted Member]

I've done that Nikki... Which is why I'm limiting myself with travel nowadays

[Na****]

13 hours ago, aaron_qld_au said:

I've done that Nikki... Which is why I'm limiting myself with travel nowadays

Guy I’ve been kinda seeing off and on recently from here is 97 miles. And sometimes I’ll just see him for overnight 😅 It’s freaking farther than I want to drive, but… uh… worth it 🫢

[Si****]

7 hours ago, NaughtyNikki33 said:

Guy I’ve been kinda seeing off and on recently from here is 97 miles. And sometimes I’ll just see him for overnight 😅 It’s freaking farther than I want to drive, but… uh… worth it 🫢

Similar scenario here. I drove 70ish miles today to hang out for a few hours. It was our first meet up. Very worth it for the experience of getting a glimpse into her life but costly with gas prices trying to hit $5 a gallon.

[Bt****]

I usually stay within 15 miles, 5 preferably. It takes a really f**king hot woman to get me to drive further than that.

[Si****]

6 hours ago, BtrSexyUnicorn said:

I usually stay within 15 miles, 5 preferably. It takes a really f**king hot woman to get me to drive further than that.

Lol. If I stayed within 15 miles I’d have to settle for farm ***s.