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Types of spankings


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Spankings are not all the same for me. In my mind, they break down to about four types: sexual, subspacey, sadistic, and therapeutic. A spanking might move between these, but I think it’s a good framework to start to think about what you might experience.

Sexual spankings. Should get you  wet, you  might even cum from the spanking alone. This is especially true if it’s mixed with fingering and edging/denial . These are fun spankings. Less intense pain-wise than other types, and they may not last as long either, moving into sex. The goal is to turn you on. These are a act of dominance dominance and control, and they don’t require anything deeper than that.

Subspacey spankings. These are more methodical, building up gradually and paced so you should be able to take more pain. And as it builds, you should end up in that soft, floaty place. You might be aroused but thats not the focus. Everything goes fuzzy, and it’s just you and me and me and energy moving between us. Usually these start over the knee, with a hand or a paddle, after you are warmed up up and moaning softly, they move to something harder. A flogger or belt. The cane. These bring the impact back to the forefront, but only to get you to that next level of endorphin release. The goal is not to hurt you; the goal is to help me surrender.

Sadistic spankings. These can be similar to subspacey spankings in their duration and intensity. The difference is you might not get to the floaty place. You  stay more mentally present, usually because the pace or the intensity of the pain makes it harder to cope with. The blows come hard and fast, and you will be on the verge of yellow at almost all times. With these spankings, I do not particularly care  if you reach subspace. The goal is to hurt you , and your purpose is simply to accept the pain and endure. It’s still about surrender. But fully conscious surrender, knowing your body is property, and I can use it as he chooses.

Therapeutic spankings. Some are pretty good at bottling up feelings and just soldiering on. They tend to fight the tears and try to keep themselves from crying. Even when they know they  need to cry. 

But a therapeutic spanking can be really helpful for releasing those feelings: Some combination of the pain and the quiet, consistent tone of the spanking can help to let go. It might result in a cry through it until there are no tears left. There is something cleansing about these spankings. And for that reason, I tend to think of punishment spankings in this category, too.

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