Is bdsm a sexual orientation itself?

[lancet79]

Hello guys I am just curious is bdsm an orientation itself? I am very confused of my orientation, as i felt that i am only aroused by certaim bdsm activities with the same sex. But other than that i simply cant picture myself to be with the same sex in the future, or engage in any other sexual activities with them. But strangely I didnt have much sexual feelings for people of the opposite sex either. Although I did find them attractive, but the sexual arousal just isnt there. Is this normal? Should I be looking for men or women for relationship? I am a guy by the way. Thank you for the help

Edited December 3, 2018 by lancet79

[BigPolly]

Quite simply ‘look for what makes you happy or turns you on’ Don’t label yourself or what you want. A fetish is often there until the moment we cum or are distracted then it stays in that box for another day. BDSM doesn’t have to be about a ltr or about sexual activities nor is it written in a book how it should be followed it is simply a guide to categories of what others find taboo. When I was a Domme I didn’t find it as sexually arousing as I do being a sub but it was far more thrilling in a different way. We take different pleasures from different things so just go with what makes you tingle & don’t get hung up on it. Fet clubs are a great eye opener for activities which might help.