Distance

[Pa****]

So many amazing people so very far away.
How do you cope with the distance?

[ge****]

Depends on the distance involved and the connection made - but generally speaking I'm realistic enough to know that I am unlikely to meet someone who lives in another country, so accept that though there may be a connection it will likely remain on a platonic level.
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Those in the same country as me, from where I am located most of the country is within a 3 hour maximum driving distance for each of us if we meet half way, so don't discount meeting, but would have to be a strong and mutual connection to do so.

[Je****]

I often wondered this when i started on here. For me it depended on how far exactly they were.
I am in northern ireland, part of the uk, and i met someone from england. and even though they are 300+ miles away, maybe 400, we just took turns flying back and forward every couple months, regular phone and video calls. It worked for us, it's been over two years together now. We have a relationship, not really a dynamic, we leave the switchy stuff for when we are together and in the bedroom. Theyll be moving in with me soon, so itll make it so much easier and less expensive for travel etc cut own, and a dyanmic can be worked on between them and me now well see each other every day. Once we have that settled and sorted, we are opening ourselves to exploring with more people, together and seperately, we will be primaries, but we are poly so itll all work out and much fun to look forward to <3
LDR can and do happen on here, some successfully, some not so much but it's a learning curve on what and who you% want from life/relationships.

wishing you best of luck

[Deleted Member]

Accept that you are in an asexual relationship, and that sapio and demisexuality are more important.

[Cheekysub247]

Long distance has never worked for me so i avoid it now.
I think we should move all the kinky people to at least one end/corner and the vanillas the other end. Or make our own little kinky island where travel is no more that an hour away, or teleport would be good 😁😁😁

[ey****]

one of my regular play partners lives the other end of the country

so we have sorted seeing plans around seeing each other and it's just a case of making the time together valuable and worthwhile

sometimes distance relationships have a different feel to them because you are seeing each other and it's almost like a "date" each time without having to worry about stuff like who is washing the dishes and household bills 

[Erebus]

1 hour ago, Cheekysub247 said:

Long distance has never worked for me so i avoid it now.
I think we should move all the kinky people to at least one end/corner and the vanillas the other end. Or make our own little kinky island where travel is no more that an hour away, or teleport would be good 😁😁😁

So what happens when a vanilla turns kinky? Would they have to move?…. It’s a wonderful idea all joking aside…. Long distance can work but as for me I am predisposed to being with a partner that is within a certain distance from where I live for the reason that sometimes you need a physical connection I’m not 24/7 but If I am travelling to see a partner I like to spend a few days with them but I also I like the ability to have my own life and let my partner have their life as well so I guess what I’m saying is it will always come down to what best works for you and your circumstances. The key component with finding the ideal dynamic is and always will be communication.

[Zela]

Agreed, slim picking in my area 😢🥺

[Sl****]

The only best people I have ever met are people thousands of miles away. I get very defeated when I find this out haha

[Cheekysub247]

@Erebus of course they have to move, it shows commitment to the kink lords 😂😂😉

[Pa****]

1 hour ago, Zela said:

Agreed, slim picking in my area 😢🥺

I know the feeling.

[Deleted Member]

People the furthest away always seem to be the nicest.

[Erebus]

2 hours ago, Cheekysub247 said:

@Erebus of course they have to move, it shows commitment to the kink lords 😂😂😉

LMAO 😂😂😂

[Af****]

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[Ch****]

Master used to live 30.ish minute walk away or 10 mins tops by car.

Due to personal reasons master down graded to a 1 bedroom flat.

Fount 1 a few streets away from me. He did ask if I was OK with him living so close and I said YES PLEASE.

We see each other as much as we can but we still have our seprate lives to.

I love having him so close because if I go home  after we've had play time an I'm suddenly feeling sub drop even though master as given me awesome aftercare I can go back to his for more after care

 

[so****]

That is the primary issue with this site, FetLife & the internet in general. Finding local people lol I've made several long-distance friends on here, but realistically, there's not much you can do besides Skyping.