How rough is rough?

[Deleted Member]

For those of us who enjoy rough sex, how rough do you let it go? How hard do you slap and where? Biting? Hair pulling etc. I’m up for pushing the boundaries a bit further - never done any face slapping etc. just wondering about others experiences on this and whether it was enjoyable or becomes Unenjoyable after a certain point? (Obviously all completely consensual)

[QXX666]

It’s personal and everyone is different. Depends your *** threshold…could start from a simple spanking up to kick in pussy…

[Deleted Member]

Hard, to the point of ***, to the point of tears! But always what is wanted and begged for!

[lion872020]

Discuss what you are wanting to try with your partner beforehand. Agree on a safe-word that either one of you can use to bring everything to a halt. Then start off slow and see how far you want to go. For example, face slapping: start with it being very gentle and see how you BOTH feel, knowing that either one of you can halt it at any moment. The moment it becomes unenjoyable, use the safe word and stop and discuss it with your partner. Communication and is essential. Hope this was helpful. Enjoy.

[Galen66]

That all depends on what is negotiated during the initial phase. Everything should be talked about and agreed upon before anyone touches a partner.

[ChristySub]

I love rough and haven't found my limit yet but I do give my dom signals if he's getting too rough for me. For instance a little shake of my head if he's choking me and its too tight and he will release a little. I also have our safe word which I know will stop play

[ra****]

I go as hard as the other person can handle, unless there's a different agreement. If she tells me that she wants me to make her cry, then I'll make her cry.

[Da****]

12 minutes ago, Galen66 said:

That all depends on what is negotiated during the initial phase. Everything should be talked about and agreed upon before anyone touches a partner.

I disagree.. if this 8s something that comes up after the relationship has start because they want to try and push limits then it may not have come up in the beginning.. but still needs to be discussed before trying...

[Da****]

As a Dom, I like pushing my subs limits but if we are trying something new then the communication becomes even more important. Your limits are you limits no else's. Have your partner start slow and go from there.

[Sa****]

That's what safewords are for...

[Deviant_Ric]

Rough can be taken as far and extreme as those involved are comfortable with and consent to.
However. Before going anywhere near extreme behaviour, you must know in your own mind at what point is too much. And then very clearly (in words of one syllable) communicate this to whoever you are going to enjoy this with. And it can be incredibly enjoyable for all involved; powerful, emotional, mentally and physically challenging, but also mind-blowingly pleasurable.
Lots of checking in with each other is vital - for the inflictor as well as the recipient - and safewords to allow for adjustment/change of pace as well as a stop now signal.
If anything is a possibility in the heat of the moment then it must be considered and agreed beforehand; CNC can be a serious headf**k and one of the most intense sexual experiences, and also sheer unadulterated, raw sexual pleasure.
Play nicely. Be honest. Have fun. Repeat.

[Da****]

28 minutes ago, Waterman75 said:

Hard, to the point of ***, to the point of tears! But always what is wanted and begged for!

I disagree... to me it sounds like there is little regard for the sub and their limits.

[th****]

There isn’t a set limit for these things. Everyone’s *** tolerance and enjoyment level for *** is different. You should be starting low level and working up. A traffic light system is good for this. It also depends on the persons build and where you are impacting. I’ve played wlth people who preferred to be hit with the buckle and those that a hard hard slap would have been too much for. In addition to that, I don’t think you should be going full *** the first time you play with someone. It required trust and confidence that a sub will speak up if it starts getting too much. The last thing I would want is a scene to end and then find out you had crossed a limit

[DarkArts1066]

Hi Kittycat….
That is a discussion for the parties involved… and honesty is crucial here. Talk about previous experiences … and how they made you feel …. What you want to experience …..
how you have arrived at your journey so far - is it fantasy or internet based ? …. Have you watched porn and thought “I’d like to try that…” without understanding the possible ramifications ?

Escalation is always the key here. Don’t go hard for starters - or prepare to go home !!!

[Deleted Member]

Clearly there needs to be a discussion prior to set boundaries and limits but it's better to come up with a few safe words for example harder is ok or too hard right now ease off etc. Effective communication is vital to enhance both parties experiences. Easing into things through soft play is a good idea.

[li****]

Hair pulling, not too hard and ruff sex continuing to pound away.

[su****]

Depends on the person receiving.

[li****]

26 minutes ago, surrey664 said:

Depends on the person receiving.

True

[na****]

I let it get pretty rough. Slapping and whipping. You name it!!!

[Deleted Member]

Literally as hard as she want’s honestly. It’s as much about her as it is about me

[Deleted Member]

Rough is until the safeword.

[Sa****]

It depends on the person. A lot of my partners loved hair pulling. And Sam loved slapping only on the a**. You got to make sure your communication is clear and that they are open to eat. I’ve also had some woman that didn’t like anything except for choking. so you gotta check with her and communicate your needs and her needs before moving forward safety is key 

[Be****]

If I don’t have bite and claw marks after it then it wasn’t rough.

[sw****]

I like bruises on my inner thighs butt boobs and lower stomach it all depends on the person just go at your their pace ask them if they want it alittle harder or softer it's really the only way to explore the limit.

[Deleted Member]

To me rough is when it causes permanent damage, only then it reaches the limit (*** isn't rough if you're gonna take care of your pet's scars later) . But permanent: That's too rough to be rough.