Rough Sex

For all kinky people into rough sex

What is rough sex?

Is having rough sex okay?

How do I have safe rough sex?

Is rough sex just for Doms and subs?

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For all kinky people into rough sex

There's a lot to be said for slow, sensual sex, of course, and romance certainly has its place - but sometimes you just want to get down and dirty with someone who's as rough as you are. Rough sex isn't always kinky, it could be just a rough kiss, but for many BDSM fans, it forms a vital part of their sexual lives and relationships. The beauty of it is that it usually doesn't need a lot of planning or equipment; you can rough your enthusiastic partners up pretty much anywhere, anytime and anyhow. Just remember to play with a safeword, as people don't need whips and chains to reach their limits or realise that they need to call for a time out.

What is rough sex?

Soft sensual love making has its place, but sometimes you want it rougher. Rough sex incorporates pain with pleasure, with biting, slapping, spanking, punching, chocking and other ways of combining pain and sex.

Is having rough sex okay?

Yes it is! Be sure to trust the person you’re having this kind of sex with, don’t start out with choking on a one night stand! But there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a little pain with your pleasure if that’s what you want. If you feel bad before, during or after the session then talk to your partner or a friend to work out why. You shouldn’t ever feel ashamed or guilty of enjoying sexy fun.

How do I have safe rough sex?

Arrange boundaries, discuss hard limits and agree a safe word with a partner before starting a session. This way the action can be stopped if there is any problem or either person changes their mind. Make sure to research safe areas to hit, bite and pinch and only try things you are confident with to avoid serious injury.

Is rough sex just for Doms and subs?

Anyone can enjoy a bit of rough sex, it’s not just a D/s dynamic. It’s a way to spice up any kind of sexual activity. You don’t have to decide who’s top and who’s bottom, just have fun and get in touch with your primal side.

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Torture, S&M and other bondage ideas

Bondage is one of the most famous and best known aspects of S&M and BDSM play, and not without reason. Being tied up is a glorious sensation for the right person, and the control inherent in being the person doing the tying can give a dominant partner a heady rush. Ball gags are also commonly used. Sometimes bondage is there primarily to enhance a roleplay scenario; sometimes it's almost an art form, especially when it comes to rope bondage. Other times it's just to make clear the dynamic and have some fun with each other. Whatever your reasons for indulging, make sure you're doing so safely. Learn some knots that don't tighten under pressure and always keep a pair of shears to hand in case you need to release your partner in a hurry.

Safety, consent and respect for boundaries

There's more than one 'official' definition of what the letters in BDSM stand for, and plenty of people don't agree on their exact usage! However you use the term, though, it's a catch-all way of describing a whole bunch of kinks and fetishes that are more common than many people imagine: bondage and impact play, sadism and masochism, domination and submission. Safety, consent and respect for boundaries are all key in the practice of BDSM, and it's vital to negotiate properly with your partners before getting into anything heavy-handed. Thankfully it's not so hard to learn - most places around the world have their own BDSM communities that are only too happy to take in newbies and help them learn the ropes.

For lovers of sweet pain

Pain isn't just painful - it can be sexy, too. Masochists are the most obvious example of this; they're people who find pleasure in receiving pain, often in quite large quantities. You don't need to daydream about welts and bruises to enjoy the sexual benefits of pain, though - light spanking, gentle scratching and other milder forms of sensation play can provide even the most nervous of newbies with an introduction to the feelings and help them figure out what they are and aren't interested in trying. For anyone with a little more of a feeling for it, a wide variety of implements are a fantastic way to explore your boundaries and figure out what gets you going.