To message or not to message

[Deleted Member]

Okay...so there's this guy, not like anyone else on here. He's interesting...to say the least. I'm terrified to talk with him tho. I already know we're going to clash , he's definitely an Alpha male. I don't really fall into either categories, I'm not Sub or Dom. I don't know why this guy is so interesting to me tho ...but something is off about him. I've talked to other people before, just as friends. They never made me feel like that tho... scared but in a good way... I think. It's bad when someone can intimidate you by just a bio. So do I contact him or not? Any thoughts?

[Deleted Member]

Follow your instincts unless you like the fear factor and they really intrigue you. Then you have at least checked and there is always a block button to keep your sanity before you fall to far down the rabbit hole.

[4R****]

I say go for it. What's the worst that can happen? He's either going to talk to you or he's not. If he does, he's either going to live up to your impression of him or he isn't. You might get along, you might not. If you do then you might become friends, best friends or possibly might meet the love of your life. 

Wouldn't life be boring if we knew all the answers?

My advice is, jump in and see what happens.....

[Ba****]

If you're not 100% then go with your gut. If something seems off it probably is

[dj****]

Message his ass and do what you think is right

[Ma****]

I always ask myself, “will I regret not doing this?” “Will I always wonder what it was about that person?” “If I don’t do this, will it keep nagging at me?!” Lol. You may contact him and through that connection, someway, somehow learn something about yourself; maybe more about what you like or don’t like. Just be yourself, genuine- you’ll be just fine. Anyways, curiosity leads to discovery which can lead to new beginnings!!

[el****]

Yeah message him. A girl making a move is literally the hottest thing in the world imo 🔥

[Deleted Member]

Okay, I know this isn't high school but I'm nervous,what if he doesn't find me attractive tho....he could think I'm ugly. I know I'm a overthinker...

[Da****]

Yes message him…I wish more women would get out of that mentality that guys should be the ones to make the first move. You will never know if you don’t give someone or something a chance.

[ti****]

Go for it girl! Life is too short to sit and wonder

[4R****]

12 minutes ago, ErzaSixxx said:

Okay, I know this isn't high school but I'm nervous,what if he doesn't find me attractive tho....he could think I'm ugly. I know I'm a overthinker...

Yes you're overthinking, but lets indulge it for a second.....
What if isn't attracted to you? What if he does think you're 'ugly' regardless of how unlikely that is? 
If he is so shallow that he bases his judgement on your looks alone then is he someone worthy of you investing your time and energy in him? Would you want to?

Attraction is a very singular thing, what's attractive to one may not be to another and vice-versa but attraction is rarely based on looks alone. And my experience of people is that very few people go around actively thinking people are 'ugly'.

Rather than focussing on the negative and catastrophising, maybe centre and ground yourself and remember what an absolutely awesome person you are and remind yourself how lucky he would be to have you in his life.

[4R****]

14 minutes ago, ErzaSixxx said:

Okay, I know this isn't high school but I'm nervous,what if he doesn't find me attractive tho....he could think I'm ugly. I know I'm a overthinker...

Oh and I'll let you into a little secret - in comparison with the number of messages women get, blokes rarely get approached on sites such as this - so just by dropping him a message you are probably 75% of the way there. I still say go for it, what harm is it going to do? 

[Deleted Member]

Thank you guys, I really appreciate the input. 💜

[cu****]

Do it!!!

[Da****]

I say go for it.. like people have said there is always the block button. Don't let fear run your life....

[ge****]

Ultimately what have you got to lose by contacting him? Right now you actually know nothing about him other than what he has chosen to reveal on his profile, and the rest is your brain filling in gaps and to an extent fantasising.
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The only way you'll truly find out is to contact him - now he may live up to his profile, he may not, but unless you take that step, you're unlikely to find out unless he contacts you, which again may or may not happen.
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Drop him a note, doesn't have to be anything more than a "Hey, saw your profile and it intrigued me" along with an introduction etc
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Yes you have to be prepared that he may not be all he seems, or that he's not interested, but unless you take that step you'll never know.

[li****]

I would say stick to the middle lane for now. Don't give him a yes or a no yet. If you think something feels off then that is your gut trying to tell you something. There could be danger with him. And not the good kind of danger that we all might enjoy.
Find out all you can about him first in terms of his full name where he lives etc. And if you go and meet him tell a friend where you are going and give them a picture of what he looks like etc.
I am all for crazy adventures with this stuff but you also have to be a bit careful

[Driver0143]

Go for it

[theCobbler77]

Remember real alphas understand those who submit have all the power so embrace your fear and go and enjoy your feminine instincts and intuition a women knows deep in her soul who is her real alpha.

[Ma****]

You will keep wondering until you do, that is obviously playing on your mind, so like others say, go for it, if it doesn't work out at least you've tried,

[Ca****]

It sure seems like you just stated there are no interesting people on FET other than this guy?!? That’s a bit insulting don’t you think. I truly hope you have some better interactions with people here, because the level of fun and cool people here is pretty deep in sure! But, if you’re into this guy, let him know. Couldn’t hurt.

[Wisdomm]

Hi E6. I agree with the consensus. It doesn’t hurt to approach this guy, but go in with all your spidey- senses on high alert. If you get a bad vibe for any reason- he might be degrading, expectant, push you to do things, whatever, so if it makes you even the slightest bit uncomfortable you’re best walking away, ignoring him and blocking him if necessary 
If you decide to meet then be very very careful. Feel free to reach out on a chat topic about some suggestions and precautions you should take, or feel free to drop me a dm if you want. Either way your safety is the most important element at all times. 
Other than that, go for it. You’ll never know if you don’t try …. And don’t worry about making the first contact, that’s fine  

W.

[Puppy6411]

He may be nothing like you're reading into his profile, or exactly what you think.
If you don't contact him, you'll never know.
If you become uncomfortable, end the conversation.

[Deleted Member]

Go for it. Life is short and you can always block him if things aren't right for you. Just don't provide any real world contact details until you are comfortable.

[Co****]

Sooo, there's no harm in messaging him......a chat . You ll probably find out early on, why you have these feelings.......
So far, you ve said you feel scared in a good way..., intimidated , something is off.....you feel like you may clash.........and hes really interesting.

All arousing .........apart from the off feeling.

Maybe you ll have one big arousing row!.....😄Xx