What does Power mean to You? What is a truly powerful person?

[Deleted Member]

I think it’s the ability to mold an individual. Make them unable to hold back more primal desires. To truly change a person. It’s not a dom that you sub to because these are “roles” you agreed to. This person truly owns you.

[Je****]

Power is an illusion. It can be stripped as easily as it’s untainted. It comes with a huge cost in responsibly and trust. Those who have power have usually been given it by those who don’t want to have that level of responsibility and trust or at least want a break from it.
I love being submissive to powerful women in my scenarios as an example because in the vanilla world I’m an apex alpha male with little *** or conscious. As a sub I get to turn that side of me off for a while.

[Deleted Member]

29 minutes ago, JerseyDmat said:

Power is an illusion. It can be stripped as easily as it’s untainted. It comes with a huge cost in responsibly and trust. Those who have power have usually been given it by those who don’t want to have that level of responsibility and trust or at least want a break from it.
I love being submissive to powerful women in my scenarios as an example because in the vanilla world I’m an apex alpha male with little *** or conscious. As a sub I get to turn that side of me off for a while.

I can see what you’re saying. I suppose the power I seek is a woman who just…has a presence that I literally want to worship. I could be sub to many women but how many do I see fit to worship?

[Deleted Member]

45 minutes ago, JerseyDmat said:

Power is an illusion. It can be stripped as easily as it’s untainted. It comes with a huge cost in responsibly and trust. Those who have power have usually been given it by those who don’t want to have that level of responsibility and trust or at least want a break from it.
I love being submissive to powerful women in my scenarios as an example because in the vanilla world I’m an apex alpha male with little *** or conscious. As a sub I get to turn that side of me off for a while.

I agree with some of what you say. I like to think of power myself as something of an aura or presence that does not ever disappear. When I think of worship, I think og powe. I worship powerful women but I only sub to women because it’s kinky or something less extreme.

[Ra****]

Power is a given emotion/state of feeling. I believe no one is born with power but over time either power is earned or gained through legend and folklore.

Confidence, gravitation, knowledge, skill, the ability to sway thoughts and feelings, and the ability to heal and defend all constitute power. Once those prerequisites are fulfilled a powerful person [or thing] is created. As long as we celebrate its power/reality that's how long that hold will remain on us.

[QXX666]

“If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room.”

[Je****]

I’m in no position to agree or disagree on anyone’s POV. That’s the point, it’s whatever works for you when it comes to balance of power. The reason I became part of the BDSM community is for my own balance, well being and survival. Some people rely on family, therapy or religion to find their balance. In my case none of that worked for me in the vanilla world . I get too single focused on going after what I want without concern for others or *** of consequences. Before BDSM and surrendering my power I had a reputation of being cut throat, demanding, unfeeling or caring. For the last 20 years I have made it a point to practice my own form of consensual goddess worship were I surrender my power and encourage the woman I worship to use and *** me anyway they want physically and mentally. When I first started this it was difficult to get women to really allow themselves to take my power and use in that way. For years most of it was mainly foot play, boot worship and feet worship with some light verbal *** . I took a break a recently became more active. Now it seems everyone wants a sugar daddy, in my case it would be a sugar bitch I guess. I’m constantly approached by women in their 20’s which is not who I want. I prefer late 30’s early 40’s. The younger women who I have worshipped not only have no hesitation about taking power and control they are actually worse then some of the vanilla men I know who use women. These young women are frustrated and angry with how they are being treated in the vanilla world because their needs are not being met. The *** is very different as well with the goddesses demanding much more oral satisfaction and instead of attention or ***, I’m mostly dehumanized and ignored until I slow down or take a break when I’m usually slapped or have my head pushed back in place. The goddesses spend most of their time on their phones watching vids and texting.
Does it do the job for me … yes. But I have to admit I was not prepared for the real frustration, anger and apathy I experience now. Interesting turn of events for me personally.

[Deleted Member]

When my sub is devastated by my disapproval/rejection.

[Th****]

I believes when a sub sees your Dominance without you trying to be Dominate, and yurns to submit to you without having to be Dominated is true power.