Fucktoy questions

[SubSlut11]

What tips would you give a sub about being a fucktoy?

I want to please my Sir in the best ways possible, but it is hard for me to have in my mindset that I am disposable, at this time.

[MrOver]

Just remember you love your master and think if him when your being used as a fucktoy.

[Serinidipty]

That is all you ever think is about your Master 24/7 and that you are showing others what your Master has think that is the ultimate for your Master to be pleased with you as a fucktoy.

[Deleted Member]

Since you're asking this fucktoy question, it is clear that neither you, nor your master, are very experienced. An experienced master would know how to train you, and you wouldn't need to be ask this. You'd be too busy learning what your master is teaching you -- of course, I could be wrong. But it's rare that I see the sub of an experienced master asking such questions. So to answer your question: thinking yourself "disposable" is a horrible way to be a good fucktoy or sub. To think yourself disposable implies you have no value as a slave. That, in turn, is an insult to your master whom you claim to worship. Do you think your master would waste their time with a disposable bag of skin and bone, no. But not only that, it is an insult to yourself. You are sacrificing your time to please this person. You are sacrificing your control, free-will, and frankly, your emotional safety to this person. I know there are hundreds of bdsm porn videos, articles, and parties that give you the impression that there are hundreds of slaves and masters out there to choose from. But the truth is, it's not that simple. They're still people. And their lives: be they master, slave, sub, pet, cuck, or toilet, are precious. If you want to please your master, tell yourself that you are valuable and special. Be honoured. Realise that in choosing you to be their slave, they are recognising you as special and what they perceive as the ideal person to fulfill his needs. It's easier to push yourself for the sake of gratitude, than it is to adopt the ridiculous mindset that you're somehow "disposable." This mindset can damage you psychologically in the long run, and if your master doesn't offer the adequate aftercare, nor does he make it clear he appreciates you, you're better off finding somebody else and  not being a fucktoy. 

[ey****]

the thing is - do you want to be (or feel like) a fucktoy?

sometimes... my wife likes it - I mean, really she knows she's not disposable and I'm going nowhere etc.

but, sometimes - in the moment - for me to just go to her "I want to cum, time for you to be of use" or call her a cum rag, or cum bucket - or just walk out the bedroom after sex.

It's all contextual and wouldn't work every time.

Buuuut - she is into it.

If you're not into it - then, do you really want to pursue being a fucktoy?

[SubSlut11]

Its because I am a disposable  fucktoy to him. He has made that clear.

I have had the opportunity to have a wonderful discussion with another Dom on here who has confirmed my suspicions about my current situation. 

Its great to have the chance to speak with others on here with various experience levels in this world. 

[ey****]

yeah - you know, some people do like the idea of being disposable.  others don't.

If you don't - then definitely don't pursue this.   You'll spend too long worried it could end at any moment.

[Deleted Member]

I played fucktoy to an occasional lover for a while, but it's a role I think you really need to want to play or at least explore. If feeling used and un/under-appreciated is something you find you don't want, it may be time to move on. I did it as part of exploring my masochistic side,  sort of masturbating with my emotions. I enjoyed the strong and conflicting feelings I got from it, but that's me. Even I eventually moved on.