Need BDSM friends to talk to/Wanting to learn

[Unicorn_Pri-9203]

Hey, guys! I'm new to the game, any tips or advice or even good stories you wanna share would help out tremendously

[ey****]

there's quite a few "I'm new" posts and a lot of the general advice is the same.

What is your question?

What do you mean by "the game" what are you looking to "win"

other than, some key tips would be to ignore any guys that come on the thread going "DM me hun xxx"

[Unicorn_Pri-9203]

I'm not really sure myself what I'm looking to accomplish, but I don't really have anyone to talk to about my desires and my gf is quite vanilla and she just wouldn't understand what I want to do to her and pretty much how to go about all this I'm a total noob

[Rednax-1927]

1 hour ago, Unicorn_Princess said:

I'm not really sure myself what I'm looking to accomplish, but I don't really have anyone to talk to about my desires and my gf is quite vanilla and she just wouldn't understand what I want to do to her and pretty much how to go about all this I'm a total noob

Try with the small stuff, that's how my friend get started. Little things like plugs or beads to start, then work your way to a ball gag :) basically, just ease her into it. You might find she is more into it than you think!

 

[ey****]

4 hours ago, Unicorn_Princess said:

I'm not really sure myself what I'm looking to accomplish, but I don't really have anyone to talk to about my desires and my gf is quite vanilla and she just wouldn't understand what I want to do to her and pretty much how to go about all this I'm a total noob

Okey - this helps already :) So I'm guessing you have some rough ideas of what you'd like to do to/with your girlfriend - but afraid she's too vanilla and not sure how to raise it.

Sometimes it can be easier to put the question to her and ask them if they have any fantasies, or fetishes, so on - and then when it comes back to you you can obviously say you do.   It may well always be easier to start small and work way up (in more definitions of small than up than one...) 

You can show her examples of porn that you really like and obviously there's reasons not to copy (the joys of selective editing) but it can give a rough idea of what you'd love to do with her.

A conversation is quite daunting because a lot of people are afraid to hear a 'no' - well, while you don't ask, it's already a no.  It can't make things worse.