Mine or yours????

[Pe****]

Tuesday at 08:32 PM, indyindyindy said:

Why you meet them in the white van in the secluded woodland of course! Bonus points if they offer sweeties or puppies

Yesss!! Haha!!

[Pe****]

Tuesday at 09:11 PM, gemini_man said:

Gaff? No gaff needed...now just help me get this sofa into my van, I'm struggling with this arm in a cast 🤣😂

Hahaha!!! Will you pass me the lube errrr I meant lotion?😂😂😂

[Pe****]

Wednesday at 02:12 PM, eyemblacksheep said:

my favourite is the kinda guys who can't host, can't put in for a hotel

but want to meet up asap for kinky fun

Gotta love those ones 😂😂😂😂

[Pe****]

Tuesday at 11:24 PM, AshadeOfGrey said:

I might start a convo with a short hot scenario to get your attention but yeah outside of that… I gotta get to know you before we meet or start a session. I’m a cautious person as we all should be. And I’m not going to disrespect a woman and assume that just because she’s on here, means it’s a green light 10 words in. 🤷‍♂️

Starting a convo with a hot short scenario is even a total turn off for me haha!

[Pe****]

Tuesday at 09:00 PM, DommeDelight said:

You need to chat first and get to know what each other wants, see if the connection feels right. Then I go into WhatsApp so I have a phone no and a real person, then arrange to meet. I would struggle as a female sub. But because I’m a Domme, the male subs come to me. I’m safer in my own home and they’re trusting in a woman. The dynamic is completely different with us to with a female sub and male Dom.

It was a sub who suggested it 😂

[Pe****]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I can't remember if I've told the story on here before, or not

But when I first joined fetlife 10 years ago I joined a few groups, particularly around splosh - and I had a whole bunch of guys message about play, doing something together whatever

and, like. I don't really play with guys at all.  But, I was lay in bed and I thought, you know.... I know how hard it is and if someone just wants help, and to try, then maybe I could - providing I wasn't largely inconvenienced.

I think there was 3 different guys I was actually talking with and every one had the exact same things in common

1) they couldn't host (1 lived with their parents. 1 lived with their girlfriend, who I dunno if they'd raised splosh with but it was going to be behind her back - I dunno about the other one)

2) they were unable/unwilling to put costs in towards a hotel (yep, even a £30 travelodge was a no/no)

3) they were unable/unwilling to put costs in towards the stuff to get messy with

4) I think there was a mixed bag on availability but I'm sure one for example could only do during the day during the week cos they were going to pretend they were going to work

and it's all like.... hold the fuck up

you want me to take the day off work to either (a) book a hotel at my expense (b) host in my place, meaning they'll likely fuck off without doing the cleaning up and buy stuff in at my expense - in order to help you, a stranger, with your fetish... umm, what do I get out of this?!

and to be honest. they wouldn't have met anyway.  one was very much pushing the "what will we do" angle suggesting he was wanking off to the thought of it, without having to even do it.

and while this is anecdotal.  the whole thing ties in with so much else i've seen over the past decade. 

I take it you hosted at yours then, cleaned up and bought all the stuff?? 🤣🤣

[ge****]

1 hour ago, PervyPenelope said:

Hahaha!!! Will you pass me the lube errrr I meant lotion?😂😂😂

Does it have to rub it on his skin? 🤣😂

[Puppy6411]

On 7/25/2023 at 9:32 PM, indyindyindy said:

Why you meet them in the white van in the secluded woodland of course! Bonus points if they offer sweeties or puppies

Extra bonus for no mobile signal lol

[MisstressStorm]

Preach 👍🖤⛈

[MasterDarcy1979]

If I received such a message, especially an initial message, it would be met with a hearty dose of Casper.

[Pe****]

4 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Does it have to rub it on his skin? 🤣😂

Yes haha!!!

[Pe****]

2 hours ago, MasterDarcy1979 said:

If I received such a message, especially an initial message, it would be met with a hearty dose of Casper.

Haha!!! I normally do, but I couldn’t resist educating him 😂

[An****]

Some people also like to play “Abduction”. Not my kink, but if you want to risk going to prison or getting shot, who am I to kinkshame?

[do****]

35 minutes ago, Anansi69 said:

Some people also like to play “Abduction”. Not my kink, but if you want to risk going to prison or getting shot, who am I to kinkshame?

If you know what you are doing and know who you are doing it with that is not in the cards. I have not been shot, shot at, or arrested for abduction or CNC. Just saying

[MisstressStorm]

44 minutes ago, doubletrouble129 said:

If you know what you are doing and know who you are doing it with that is not in the cards. I have not been shot, shot at, or arrested for abduction or CNC. Just saying

Just cause you haven’t been arrested or shot at , yet, doesn’t mean that particular kink isnt fraught with peril - esp as a man. In any sort of interaction I have to justify what I’ve done … to the Police or a Corners court in the worst case …Kinda clarifies the degree of consent required. You might be happy in your actions but pick the women who isn’t consenting fully….and you’re not cognisant… Best of luck ⛈

[An****]

6 minutes ago, MisstressStorm said:

Just cause you haven’t been arrested or shot at , yet, doesn’t mean that particular kink isnt fraught with peril - esp as a man. In any sort of interaction I have to justify what I’ve done … to the Police or a Corners court in the worst case …Kinda clarifies the degree of consent required. You might be happy in your actions but pick the women who isn’t consenting fully….and you’re not cognisant… Best of luck ⛈

I agree, hence the aversion to this type of play.

[do****]

17 minutes ago, MisstressStorm said:

Just cause you haven’t been arrested or shot at , yet, doesn’t mean that particular kink isnt fraught with peril - esp as a man. In any sort of interaction I have to justify what I’ve done … to the Police or a Corners court in the worst case …Kinda clarifies the degree of consent required. You might be happy in your actions but pick the women who isn’t consenting fully….and you’re not cognisant… Best of luck ⛈

I'm not refuting that it doesn't happen. I just didn't want it to be generalized like that is always the outcome

[MisstressStorm]

4 minutes ago, doubletrouble129 said:

I'm not refuting that it doesn't happen. I just didn't want it to be generalized like that is always the outcome

I’m quite risk averse - despite my Domme kink. As a Dominant I gauge and minimise risk of harm to my submissive, that they haven’t consented fully to. That particular kink could cause significant harm, maybe not to you but the sub is *** and under your control. It’s not always the case but I don’t like playing roulette with peoples psyche unless I’m convinced they are full on board. Trepidation and head fuckery are all valid ….. in the right circumstance for the right sub ⛈

[do****]

7 minutes ago, MisstressStorm said:

I’m quite risk averse - despite my Domme kink. As a Dominant I gauge and minimise risk of harm to my submissive, that they haven’t consented fully to. That particular kink could cause significant harm, maybe not to you but the sub is *** and under your control. It’s not always the case but I don’t like playing roulette with peoples psyche unless I’m convinced they are full on board. Trepidation and head fuckery are all valid ….. in the right circumstance for the right sub ⛈

True. We are in agreement. Everyone is not cut out for it no matter how much they say they are. Psychological assessment is mandatory. Trial run RPs are also effective

[Deleted Member]

Neither. It is so hard to connect and gain interest by messaging. I try to put effort in to mine so I can then get to have a social