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[TEAPOT]

So I wanna explore my sexuality more.. but every time I've even talked to someone i talk my self out of letting it go past just chatting. Anyone else go thru this in the beginning? Currently still goin thru it? Idk some insight or maybe some words of encouragement to help a guy out. 

[P_****]

P (man): what a cool post! Fire away

[ge****]

Perhaps you need to take a step back and do some self-analysis and introspection first and understand what "exploring your sexuality more" means to you personally.
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As it stands here it's an incredibly broad statement that could mean absolutely anything, so maybe honing in on some detail will help you, because once you have an idea yourself of what specifically you're looking for, you can then use that to find it.
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There are so many things to consider but I'd put these close to the top - whether you're looking for a relationship, and if so is that a monogamous one or not, what your sexuality actually looks like to you, what specifically you want to "explore", is it kink you're looking to explore, if so what kinks specifically....and so much more besides.
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Until you've taken that step of understanding yourself, the uncertainty will continue.

[an****]

Must have been cold !

[kimutu72]

what Ive said to a couple people that I have introduced to this app, be true to yourself and know what you want, there are all walks of life on here alot want different things in different way you need to find what you truely want and if you will find it on here, dnt let anyone sway you from what you decide

[an****]

7 minutes ago, kimutu72 said:

what Ive said to a couple people that I have introduced to this app, be true to yourself and know what you want, there are all walks of life on here alot want different things in different way you need to find what you truely want and if you will find it on here, dnt let anyone sway you from what you decide

I like your advice

[ad****]

I’m Sure there is some thing that Has happened with all of them 🤔A Teeter totter Pointe in which u had flipped. I Would start there. Maybe a journal? write down the conversations and try to pinpoint when it happens 👍and just be honest with yourself. Wen The feeling comes up treat it like a wild *** that just poked its head out of the forest 🌲🌲🌲 too far to interact but close enough to observe. Identify it, give it the respect and time it ( and u ) deserve. And then go from there. 😊 take your time 👌 we’re all rooting for you 🤘

[P_****]

Another thing that is really important is not to put pressure on yourself or feel outside pressures. Maybe start there and only engage in things you know you like. There’s a difference between delving into the wonderful unknown and making yourself do things you don’t want to. You can be your own worst enemy with your own consent. Anybody you explore with should really understand that as a basic.

You might see other people enjoying something and decide that really isn’t for you, that’s fine too. We’re all different!

[Deleted Member]

Currently my problem

[Wi****]

Go and meet up for a social. It can be scary to turn fantasy into reality, so take it step by step.
1. chat.
2. meet for social _only_.
3. meet for social that leads to talk about what you expect from each other.
4. meet expecting to do things.

People seem to think its "chat online then straight to face sitting". Its not. treat this like any other social interaction. Also, go to a local munch and have a drink with the people there.

[su****]

Dealing with this now. I keep trying to reach out or get myself involved in the community or even just talking one on one but every time I actually start speaking to someone I get nervous and convince myself anyone I'm speaking to is a fake account/scam. It's the reason my pictures are censored lol

[tu****]

For me I feel like people are going to judge me for not doing it properly or something

[P_****]

Wednesday at 03:10 PM, subman115 said:

Dealing with this now. I keep trying to reach out or get myself involved in the community or even just talking one on one but every time I actually start speaking to someone I get nervous and convince myself anyone I'm speaking to is a fake account/scam. It's the reason my pictures are censored lol

Maybe try slowing your interactions down a bit? People (especially men) move very fast on apps like this. It’s an instant turn off for me personally.
Showing a kinky side online can make you feel *** as it’s something very personal to a lot of us. But we’re all here in the same boat, all our profiles show a bit of that side so being a kinky person on a kinky app isn’t really anything to feel *** about.
A lot of people have a little phase of hiding their face, I used to. Set standards for yourself and only share that part of you with people you feel comfortable with. Have you considered demisexual? Slow it down, it’s better!

[P_****]

1 hour ago, turnkey666 said:

For me I feel like people are going to judge me for not doing it properly or something

Same here really

[tu****]

7 hours ago, P_and_C said:

Same here really

I had to look up what demisexual is.Yeah, that's great!! Totally on point.
Thanks so much

[P_****]

I don’t know why everybody isn’t! That’s a very demi thing to say I suppose haha

[kimutu72]

On 6/28/2024 at 2:58 AM, turnkey666 said:

For me I feel like people are going to judge me for not doing it properly or something

we all have to start somewhere, if someone judges you then they not worthy of you, but if someone suggests a different way slightly then they are willing to teach you or suggest a way that will help you.

Ive been in this life style for around 10year and Im still learning different thing, limits and to be more open.

Try to enjoy yourself and dnt be so hard on yourself the right person will come along