It’s not really a deal breaker i dont know it’s just not as important as it used to be. Penetration is mainly my preference if you eat great you don’t oh well. Now guys who don’t like getting oral is a dealbreaker.
I get off on pleasing other people, verbally and physically. I like pleasuring my partner and don’t want anything reciprocated. Just sit back and let me do all the work.
I’ve been “slut shamed” for my kinks and likes, I’ve never have anyone leave me. I haven’t been in a relationship in 9 years.