Hi there. I’m not super sure where to start, so here I go. I am an inspiring author and avid reader of sapphic romance, which often includes a heavy dose of smut. I’m divorced with two kids. I don’t watch much TV, but I absolutely love music, audiobooks, and podcasts, and I enjoy making playlists.
I'm not looking for a FWB. No shame if that's your thing, but the only benefit you get from my friendship is my quick wit and compassion.
That's not to say I'm not looking for something more than friendship. If we click, I am cool pursuing a relationship. However, I need an emotional connection and safety before my brain goes sexual. So keep in mind that it may take me a while to get there.
When I trust you, I'll be your biggest supporter and a total golden retriever, but until you earn some trust, I'm more like an alley cat with an uncertain human. I’m a pretty open book, but I am shit and offering information about myself unless it’s pertinent to the conversation. (It’s a trauma response I’m working on, so if you want to know about me, you may have to ask.)
As a person, I'm silly and occasionally deep, and I try not to take things too seriously. I'm very nurturing and easygoing, and I enjoy supporting those I care for, whether it's listening to an info dump or doing an activity together. And would also appreciate someone who’s willing to do those things for me in return, because making me feel heard and like you want to get to know me makes me feel safe.
As a Domme, I do my best to communicate my expectations clearly. I will never expect perfection, only that you do your best, and if things need to be modified, so be it.
If you are looking for someone to Domme you right out of the gate, I’m not the girl for you. I need a foundation of trust, and I need to know you are a person before I feel comfortable in the Domme role. Because showing my dominant side is a major vulnerability for me, as such I need to feel like I have earned your respect (and vice versa). After all, if I don’t know you, how can I meet your submissive needs? That's not to say I don't want to be challenged, I do. I only want the challenging nature to come from a place of compassion and respect.
I fall into the soft Domme camp, meaning I am more likely to offer a carrot than a stick. As a result, I am just as happy with a brat to wrangle, a princess to spoil, or a pet to train. That doesn't mean I am a push over, I also enjoy giving and getting pain as the occasion calls for it. In casual conversation, I’m not an overly sexual person. However, for the right person, I can go from totally wholesome to a filthy animal with one well-placed word or phrase.
Put simply, I do not want a D/s relationship right out of the gate. I want to earn your trust and submission just like you will earn my trust and dominance because, most importantly, I want a partner. Someone who will challenge me and hold my feet to the fire but also someone to talk to and support me. If you can, I will return all of that in spades.