Daddy Kinky Date dates in your area

Hi, I've been lurking on here for a bit, and I wonder if I belong here. Kind input would be appreciated 🙂 I'm mostly interested in the daddy dom little dynamic, as a lifestyle and not just a kink. I'm not a little as in kid but largely inexperienced with xxx (even at my age and due to my gender complexities) and I have a playful kiddish personality (think young adult like). I don't have BDSM experience except in my writing, but I know I love daddy doms and being a sub. I love praise and guidance, but I'm shy and not like most people my age.

However, I find many people just want (1) tons of kink experience, and (2) short term hookups play.

And yet, in talking to a BDSM guy with 20-plus years experience, he said that true BDSM does not really work without trust and stability in a relationship. I totally agree with that idea, but it seems really hard to find. So my questions are;

1) Are there any caring doms that actually look for a long-term relationship (because I would need that to trust and gain xxx experience)?

2) If not here, where should I look for that?

Thanks 🙃