I’m going down the rabbit hole, not looking back and enjoying the ride.
I am a submissive in a 24/7 monogamous relationship, please don’t message me asking to Dominate you- it’s not my thing and Sir doesn’t share any bit of me!!
Hmmm, I have strong desire to be watched and wanted, to tease and to titivate....
Fantasies.... they are all coming true!!
I am also very fortunate to be in the type of relationship you have described and it’s womderful and it can happen.
As already stated, be clear about what you want. Start out with talking/ dating and see if you like them first. Shared value and shared approaches all mean you will begin the Read more… relationship on the right footing.
Follow your instinct- if it doesn’t feel right or you have a question that cannot be answered - be brave and step away. As soon as sex/ kink involved pulling away will be harder.
The right one will be patient/ Understanding and a good Dom will want to know all about you but also- make sure you know all about him.
A D type may look at sound like a Dom but be careful he isn’t domineering (big red flag). Spending time reading and asking questions like you are doing is the best approach.
A munch/ meet up sounds like a great idea- maybe find someone on here in your area who you could go with as friends.
In the meantime, watch videos, learn what you like- what those things are called, experiment and have fun!
“It has become apparent I’m of no interest” “others constantly try to change me”
Q, you came to this community asking for help advice and direction. You were given hours and hours of time by people who wanted to help you. It’s clear by your comments above that you haven’t recognised that advice Read more… and by saying you are of “no interest” is disrespectful to all the people who took the time to advise you.
I hope you do find someone who you can share chips with and call kitten whether they are kinked or not is another matter.
Eyem’s advice above is the advice you have consistently received over the months you have been here.... which is find what makes you tick/ do something fun/ find an interest.
Essentially until you find yourself you won’t find anyone else. And to be clear that doesn’t mean anyone is “constantly trying to change you” it means focus on you in a positive way.
You have to find your soul, mate before you find your soulmate.
This advice has been given by people who have been on that journey and can reflect on their experiences and in turn share them with you. This has been a privilege afforded to you and you haven’t recognised it. Which in turn leaves people frustrated with you as it appears you haven’t listened. If you haven’t understood that’s a different matter.
As always I wish you well and hope you get to share some chips one day with someone.
It’s something I’m new to but love. Sir has massive hands which circle my neck and I know he has the knowledge to do this safely and is something we have done quite often. I love the floaty feeling of being about to pass out- my limps drop loosely by my side as my body seeks to conserve energy and Read more… the head rush of the blood flowing back in afterwards feels like revival. For me relinquishing power is fabulous and for Sir asserting control is fabulous so it’s a win win for us!
This is such a brave and insightful post Saphy. The cause and effect elements of our experiences causes me endless interest ...... some more palatable than others. Emotional resilience is something that humans specialise in and I think that kink supports this very well for those of us with such Read more… inclinations. Opening up some of the challenges we have faced enables others to consider their journeys and what they have experienced.
Its not always easy to speak about negative times but until those things are exposed and their importance is diminished they will weigh us down.
I’m so proud of you in this step you have taken to open up and share.
Some might ask what this has to do with kink but those people are yet to reach the depths that you are exploring and I feel are imperative for personal growth and emotional fulfilment.