I’m definitely not an expert on BDSM, even from just watching 50 shades and doing some research. However, I think that BDSM could benefit my boyfriend and I’s relationship. We’ve been dating for a year and 3 months. He’s my first true love and our relationship is great. He took my first kiss, my
Read more…virginity, you name it. He’s had a bad past with both relationships and family. He easily gets moody and can yell over the littlest things. He once admitted after sex that his ex girlfriend was so controlling in the relationship, that he isn’t used to having control in a relationship. I am not a controlling person at all, so I kind of let him have control in different aspects of our relationship. Some of the dates we go on, in the bedroom, etc. Although, if it’s something that I absolutely don’t wanna do, then he accepts that. I think that if BDSM was introduced into our relationship, it would benefit him. And me. I never fully came out and spoke about the topic with him. I’m too nervous he’ll find it weird. However, he spanked me before, called me naughty names, and ordered me around in the bedroom before and I actually really like it.. But anyway, do you think BDSM would benefit our relationship?? TIA ☺️
I told him Read more… how I felt about it and why I wanted to try it. To be honest we've had more honest conversations since I brought the subject up then we've ever had in the last 7 yrs we've been together.
BDSM is about honest communication .
So go somewhere with him that makes you comfortable and talk to him upfront about it
Be warned though not all guys (or girls) can be Dom/Domme, so there might be some trial and error involved You could say the girls at work were talking about it, or you read an article , if you could let him think it was his idea that would be brilliant , maybe say something like , loved the ice play do you want to try more or something else ?
Be warned though not all guys (or girls) can be Dom/Domme, so there might be some trial and error involved