Nick - Similar you, I had BDSM fantasies at a very young age, and it wasn't until I got access to the internet (internet did not exist until I was in my 20's). that I learned many others had similar fantasies. I dove deep into the BSDM porn which super charged my fantasies. Fortunately I Read more… eventually discovered the female led relationship (FLR) lifestyle. It took awhile, but overtime I discovered that my BDSM tendencies were driven by a desire to serve women (as opposed to just the act of being dominated). By then I was married and my wife was not dominant. As luck would have it, she was open to the idea of FLR. Long story short our marriage transitioned to a FLR. Over time I learned that focusing on serving and obeying her and making her life better was much more fulfilling that just focusing on my BDSM kink, Our FLR incorporates domination and kink, but my devotion is focused on making her live like a Goddess. For me, this change in mindset added meaning to "the need to be dominated," and I was no longer chasing kinks that were fun but unfulfilling.

In the beginning, there was no crossover, but over the years, as my submission matured and my wife has trained me, my submission has become a part of every day life. I find that I am always looking for ways to support and uplift women. It has become natural for me to yield to women in general, so Read more… long as it is appropriate and they are respectful.

Leather gets my attention. Leather skirt, leather pants....I can't help but look. And if my wife puts on leather or latex fetish wear I am putty in her hands.

Absolutely love it! I enjoy it better than sex. My mind turns to mush and goes blank.

Today there is so much more information and education about fetishes. People are more open to talk about them and it seems no matter what you are curious about, there is a group or forum about it. When I was younger, fetishes were taboo and kept quiet in most circles. I had a strong desire to be Read more… dominated and controlled by women, but never understood it and was too embarrassed to talk about it. It wasn't until after I was married, that information about fetishes and FLR was available on the internet. It was then that I discovered so many other people had similar feelings and desires as I did. Overtime I felt less embarrassed about my desires and I also began to better understand them.

I love when she pins my arms by my side with her legs when she queens me. I love when she is rough with me when I give her oral sex and I struggle to breathe. It is super hot when I can feel her foot or leg pressing on my back during oral.

Being used as her footstool.

It's not a fetish for me, but definitely think upskirt pics are super hot. Love it when girls post videos of themself in public wearing a skirt and giving a quick flash of their panties.

Perhaps take a mindset that you exist to please the dom. So while he/she may be indulging in your sub desires, you partner is getting pleasure out of it also, or maybe there is something you can do for you partner as a form of appreciation for domming you.

This approach I took was to just start doing things for her that she likes. My wife loves pampering so I started offering to give her massages and baths. After a few weeks of this I talked to her about wanting to serve her and explained how it would benefit her. I also gave her a book about FLR to Read more… read. That was 20+ years ago and we are still in a FLR . I took it very slow in the beginning to allow he to learn and enjoy the experience. I think too many guys rush to all he kink and hardcore stuff, which often turns off women

I absolutely love erotic hypnosis. It’s a total mind fuck if you find the right hypnodomme. I’d be afraid to meet one in person because there’s no telling what I would do under her hypno power.

Yes, I think that is a good punishment. Wearing a plug makes me feel very submissive, so I think that would help with the ego. Also, it becomes a bit of a nussiance to wear over a prolonged period. A week may be a bit much if he is never worn a plug before. One or two days may be sufficient. Read more… Taking it in and out is a bit annoying so if you really want to punishment, make him take it out and put it in a few times a day.
As far as size goes, I would just start with the smallest one. They do sell training sets with various sizes that he can work up to. I will say the largest size in the set is tough. I've never been able to do it without it hurting. However, overtime I switched from the the silicon plugs to glass ones. The glass are more firmer and harder to take, but for me were a way to step it up without going to a large size.

I agree with others that Queening/face sitting is a great dominate/submissive dynamic. I love when my wife Queen's me. A few times she has bound me with wrist & thigh cuffs and then Queened me. Being *** beneath her while she rides my face is amazing! I also feel super submissive when I am Read more… between her legs and feel her heel on my back, pressing me into her or when she uses her hands to push my head tight against her. Occasionally after she has an orgasm when I am giving her oral, she will squeeze her thighs around my head, forcing me to remain just inches from her sex, while she calms down. I can do nothing but stare at her pussy and inhale her scent, until she releases me. I absolutely love this as it makes me feel completely dominated and at her mercy.