It's all about perspective. There is nothing bad or wrong about a dominant wanting to please a submissive. In fact, I would argue that it is an exceptional relationship when this exists. The method in which she pleases him or achieves self worth is just different than in a traditional relationship. Read more… For example, many subs (including myself) love to be teased and denied, so putting the sub through an intense tease and deny session is enjoyable and exciting for the sub. Buying a sub a gift for his outstanding obedience and devotion is another example.
I am happiest and more productive when I am under the strict control of my wife and so her dominance is a gift to me in the same way that my submission is a gift to her.

My wife uses me as a footstool on a weekly basis. She will watch TV or read a book while she rests her feet on my back.. It's one of those things that really surprised me at how much I liked it. It always puts me in a submissive mindset and makes me feel owned by her.
Also, for sex, I am to lay on Read more… my back and remain perfectly still while she mounts me and rides me. I am not allowed to orgasm. Often times when she orgasms, she will immediately get off of me and walk away and say I am done with you. I feel completely used, like a sex toy. It is a total mindfuck and I absolutely love it!

Nick - Similar you, I had BDSM fantasies at a very young age, and it wasn't until I got access to the internet (internet did not exist until I was in my 20's). that I learned many others had similar fantasies. I dove deep into the BSDM porn which super charged my fantasies. Fortunately I Read more… eventually discovered the female led relationship (FLR) lifestyle. It took awhile, but overtime I discovered that my BDSM tendencies were driven by a desire to serve women (as opposed to just the act of being dominated). By then I was married and my wife was not dominant. As luck would have it, she was open to the idea of FLR. Long story short our marriage transitioned to a FLR. Over time I learned that focusing on serving and obeying her and making her life better was much more fulfilling that just focusing on my BDSM kink, Our FLR incorporates domination and kink, but my devotion is focused on making her live like a Goddess. For me, this change in mindset added meaning to "the need to be dominated," and I was no longer chasing kinks that were fun but unfulfilling.

In the beginning, there was no crossover, but over the years, as my submission matured and my wife has trained me, my submission has become a part of every day life. I find that I am always looking for ways to support and uplift women. It has become natural for me to yield to women in general, so Read more… long as it is appropriate and they are respectful.

Leather gets my attention. Leather skirt, leather pants....I can't help but look. And if my wife puts on leather or latex fetish wear I am putty in her hands.

Absolutely love it! I enjoy it better than sex. My mind turns to mush and goes blank.

Today there is so much more information and education about fetishes. People are more open to talk about them and it seems no matter what you are curious about, there is a group or forum about it. When I was younger, fetishes were taboo and kept quiet in most circles. I had a strong desire to be Read more… dominated and controlled by women, but never understood it and was too embarrassed to talk about it. It wasn't until after I was married, that information about fetishes and FLR was available on the internet. It was then that I discovered so many other people had similar feelings and desires as I did. Overtime I felt less embarrassed about my desires and I also began to better understand them.

I love when she pins my arms by my side with her legs when she queens me. I love when she is rough with me when I give her oral sex and I struggle to breathe. It is super hot when I can feel her foot or leg pressing on my back during oral.

Being used as her footstool.

It's not a fetish for me, but definitely think upskirt pics are super hot. Love it when girls post videos of themself in public wearing a skirt and giving a quick flash of their panties.

Perhaps take a mindset that you exist to please the dom. So while he/she may be indulging in your sub desires, you partner is getting pleasure out of it also, or maybe there is something you can do for you partner as a form of appreciation for domming you.

This approach I took was to just start doing things for her that she likes. My wife loves pampering so I started offering to give her massages and baths. After a few weeks of this I talked to her about wanting to serve her and explained how it would benefit her. I also gave her a book about FLR to Read more… read. That was 20+ years ago and we are still in a FLR . I took it very slow in the beginning to allow he to learn and enjoy the experience. I think too many guys rush to all he kink and hardcore stuff, which often turns off women

I absolutely love erotic hypnosis. It’s a total mind fuck if you find the right hypnodomme. I’d be afraid to meet one in person because there’s no telling what I would do under her hypno power.