I am new to BDSM. I am a switch by nature. That said, most of the subs that catch my interest have sissy or fem kinks. There are several aspects of these kinks that really get me going; however, I start to have a disconnect when the sub doesn't want to engage in intercourse part of the time. If Read more… this happens, I lose interest in the dynamic. I will actually start thinking that if my physical needs that men can fill are not being met, I would be with an actual woman instead and receive the same thing. The problem is I am not interested in women. So, the root problem I run into is not being about to have both. Suggestions?

I like the idea of a writing task. Thank you for the tip

Please tell me about how you handle over eager subs. I have several "subs" that jump in my dms and start off like a job application. Then while I am trying to get to know them as a person the continue to drag every conversation back to sex. Im inexperienced and just starting out on my journey of Read more… actual self discovery. The only experiences I have involved subs who were consistently begging and it quickly became work not play for me.

I was hoping the type would help me figure out how to figure out what i am looking for better.

This does help alot. It helps me figure out some of the Dom/sub characteristics I have. One problem I seem to run into is most of the Doms I have run into, so to speak, want me to isolate myself while I am getting to know them and my Dom side immediately has issue with that. Suggestions on how to Read more… avoid this problem?

I end up want the opposite in the bedroom a good bit of the time. Like I'm responsible for the complete life of 5 people, I just need to be able to turn it off some times and trust someone to take me somewhere amazing.

Doms not mom's, damn autocorrect

Are there any sub categories of Mom's? I mean after from the master/slave type descriptions

I guess i was trying to figure out if there are sub classes that are necessarily the dynamic explanation