Vanilla sex

[welshslaveboy]

Got me thinking the other day, and I guess this more for those who’ve got partners, do you ever have vanilla sex? Or is it every time you have sex there is an element of kink involved?

[TheBookCollector]

Kink doesnt have to be involved in sex,i know at least one couple where sex isnt even a feature of thier relationship.

[Ca****]

Hi
I think it depends on what he mood, the place, time, and how well you know your partner… for me I like to have a little bit of everything start with some vanilla the throw some kinkinees and play with the timing lol.
I feel that is not necessarily to be kinky all the time jst play with the roles lol
I think 😁

[Hu****]

Sometimes you need to be quick and or discreet… if time is no limit… test the limits🤷🏽‍♂️ a pattern of vanilla can possibly leave one or both desiring more over time. Communication is always🗝

[Sm****]

Vanilla is so plain. Looking for something interesting their is nothing to gain. I'm highjacking the crazy train. Right after I snatch up Jane

[No****]

Never had vanilla sex with my Do’/boyfriend of 2 years

[Sm****]

10 minutes ago, SmokingIce said:

Vanilla is so plain. Looking for something interesting their is nothing to gain. I'm highjacking the crazy train. Right after I snatch up Jane

Get it vanilla is plain.
So I'm ***ing plain Jane and using the crazy train

[Fu****]

"Vanilla" is a mindset. Doing freaky sh!t isn't what separates it from kink. You can limit me to missionary, oral sex, a $15 plastic vibrator, and my next-door neighbor's wife. The LAST word she will use to describe the experience will be "Vanilla" 😆 🤣 😂

[al****]

36 minutes ago, Fun_ToyZ said:

"Vanilla" is a mindset. Doing freaky sh!t isn't what separates it from kink. You can limit me to missionary, oral sex, a $15 plastic vibrator, and my next-door neighbor's wife. The LAST word she will use to describe the experience will be "Vanilla" 😆 🤣 😂

I agree with this statement, as a pleasure Dom good standard positions , the right energy, mindset can create mind-blowing kink induced experiences. That same environment where you are checking a box, the dynamic is off, and you are left feeling wanting more is what I describe as vanilla. I even consider some acts I need my subs to perform on me vanilla. But it has its place, helps me sleep, clears my head before a business deal, ect so....yea I take vanilla.

[Ka****]

I think its important to recognise vanilla is different for everyone, as is kink. What is level 10 for you might be someone else's 4. What is vanilla for you might not be for someone else.

In my journey to kink I've actually realised I haven't had much vanilla experience which was interesting. When it comes to kink I think laying the foundations is important unless in very specific circumstances because going all in on a first time could very frightening, confusing, overwhelming.

In fact it turns me off when I get messages here going right into tie ups, roughness, impact play etc all of which I'm actually okay with but it just screams 'I don't care what you want because I'm a Dom'. It basically sets the scene for me that the so-called dom doesn't care about my comfortableness or even is concerned with discussing my boundaries, nevermind adhering to them.

I like the coffee metaphor - you can always add more sugar, but you can't take it out. So if you overdo kink before your partner is ready you could seriously traumatise them, make them *** you and all sorts of negativity. Your partner (or you) can always ask for more but it's much harder mentally to ask for less, especially in the beginning phases.

[Sm****]

5 minutes ago, Kaserai said:

I think its important to recognise vanilla is different for everyone, as is kink. What is level 10 for you might be someone else's 4. What is vanilla for you might not be for someone else.

In my journey to kink I've actually realised I haven't had much vanilla experience which was interesting. When it comes to kink I think laying the foundations is important unless in very specific circumstances because going all in on a first time could very frightening, confusing, overwhelming.

In fact it turns me off when I get messages here going right into tie ups, roughness, impact play etc all of which I'm actually okay with but it just screams 'I don't care what you want because I'm a Dom'. It basically sets the scene for me that the so-called dom doesn't care about my comfortableness or even is concerned with discussing my boundaries, nevermind adhering to them.

I like the coffee metaphor - you can always add more sugar, but you can't take it out. So if you overdo kink before your partner is ready you could seriously traumatise them, make them *** you and all sorts of negativity. Your partner (or you) can always ask for more but it's much harder mentally to ask for less, especially in the beginning phases.

You make a good point

[Ma****]

I LOVE vanilla sex with partners where there is a deep romantic as well as sexual connection. Kink is amazing and allows for so much exploration and sensation. AND the kinds of physical connection that comes from gently going down on a partner or shared genital sex can seem quite bland in comparison but it is a different experience. For me kink is the focus of riding the “edge” it’s the extreme sport of physical connection. Vanilla sex is the profound walk in the woods.

[an****]

I have both vanilla and kinky, it depends on my partner and her comfort level on that occasion. I would never put her into a position she was not comfortable with at that time. We both enjoy both but I feel it’s me into kinky a bit more.

[Ma****]

Of course! 😆

[Ma****]

Vanilla, or kinky. Like most things, depends on mood, avalable time, energy level, etc. Though there is probably kinky elements that sneak in, pehaps a hand on a throat, or a ***d orgasm here and there.

[Do****]

Both, for sure! Sometimes, u just have time/energy for a vanilla sex!

[Ki****]

Eventually, vanilla sex becomes another kink.

[Ro****]

Kink must not be involved in every relationship you have but just in those that are ready for it .

[Ur****]

There always kink Involved vanilla sex just doesn't cut it no more for us well my friend and I

[Deleted Member]

I think people make the mistake that assuming all sex that doesn’t involve extreme kinks or pushing limits is vanilla. But even slow deep missionary can be mind blowing as it’s all about mental and physical stimulation, For me a vanilla experience could be kinky to someone else, but then my kinky sex could be someone else’s vanilla. But what I do say is there needs to be some vanilla thrown in as it can allow reconnection and act like a palate cleanser to enjoy the kinkier experiences

[Fr****]

I agree with you @Tattooedcurvybrat I really enjoy it when my pleasure dom brings us back to into each other after hours in bed in a slow deep missionary mind blowing position. We take each other’s breath in as we look into each other‘s eyes with heavy passion and connection for each other as I soak him while he fills me up at the same time.

[cu****]

I just miss having sex!

[ca****]

I kinda put the words...Kink and Vanilla to one side and then ask the question .. have you ever 'enjoyed' vanilla sex ? (whatever that means to you) and then possibly have you ever 'been able' to enjoy vanilla sex ?

I have enjoy great vanilla sex   (physically, mentally and emotionally)

[Fr****]

@curious798008 well why haven’t you had any? *spank*

[Ma****]

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