Dominant Level Unlocked

[ge****]

Two weeks ago, if you'd have told me I have a dominant side, I probably would have laughed at you, as on the odd occasions in the past when I have tried to be dominant with someone, it's felt uncomfortable and stilted to the point of it being neither satisfactory nor fulfilling for either myself or the other person concerned.
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And yet, a little over two weeks ago, I had a coming together with someone (from another site) who was also submissive, where a hitherto unlocked level was found that is my dominant side.
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I'm not talking here about role-playing or me adopting a mantle for a scene to satisfy another, but a natural and instinctive dominance, one that consumes me completely and takes control.
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It's blown my mind a little if I'm honest, as I said above, I truly did not believe I had it in me, especially not as naturally and instinctively as it has been.
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I'm not even sure that the dominant level could be unlocked with just anyone, more it's been a symbiotic thing with the person concerned, where a very specific connection and chemistry have aligned to make it happen.
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I'm completely comfortable in this new found role, in this specific dynamic, but also very aware of my own submissive side and don't want to lose sight of that either, and am lucky enough that this new partner is both poly and happy for me to continue to explore my submissive side, in fact positively encourages it.
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What's driving me I'm not sure, possibly my submissive instincts to please others and it's that which is coming to the fore in shape of dominance. Possibly my personal belief that in life we all have those we're submissive to, and those we're dominant towards as well as those we're equal to, and in this particular relationship I'm naturally more dominant to this lady.
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Whatever it is though I'm not about to change my profile to be switch, as I said further up, I'm not sure I could dominate anyone else but it just seems to work in this particular instance.
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I'm not dwelling on it too much though, and am embracing the fact I've unlocked another side to my sexuality and as long as we both continue to enjoy it long may that continue.

It does all go to prove though that you can teach an old dog new tricks!!!

[AKA_Copper]

Eh hmmm, I think I said this a loooong time ago and you pooh pooh it 🤣

[ge****]

1 minute ago, CopperKnob said:

Eh hmmm, I think I said this a loooong time ago and you pooh pooh it 🤣

Dammit I hate it when you're right CK!! 😂🤣

[AKA_Copper]

1 minute ago, gemini_man said:

Dammit I hate it when you're right CK!! 😂🤣

I hope you're having fun with it, and it just proves my point really, it's all about the chemistry between people that brings out different responses

[ge****]

2 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

I hope you're having fun with it, and it just proves my point really, it's all about the chemistry between people that brings out different responses

Exactly that - has just knocked me for six a little is all

[Ar****]

I love this for you SO MUCH!! Thank you for sharing the news - enjoy 🤗

[Deleted Member]

Aaah enlightenment. Hopefully you’ll consider future other doors with less insistence they aren’t for or part of you. 😉

[Se****]

10 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Exactly that - has just knocked me for six a little is all

Same thing happened to me when I uncovered my dominant side with one person. It’s crazy and weird and, for me at least, felt bizarre (tbf it still feels bizarre) but it also feels natural. I totally get what you mean about it being person/relationship dependent - I’m not a Dom or a switch and I can’t imagine having this with anyone other than the current person.

Very happy for you Gem xxx

[ge****]

18 minutes ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

Same thing happened to me when I uncovered my dominant side with one person. It’s crazy and weird and, for me at least, felt bizarre (tbf it still feels bizarre) but it also feels natural. I totally get what you mean about it being person/relationship dependent - I’m not a Dom or a switch and I can’t imagine having this with anyone other than the current person.

Very happy for you Gem xxx

Thank you 😊 xx

[Co****]

Thankyou for sharing, it all sounds like you're having fun.
It's good to hear Happy News 😊
I guess we should all expect 'The Unexpected ' .......X