Is there such thing as a sub that’s too tall?

[Yt****]

I’m 6’7 switch leaning towards sub, and I have a hard time finding the courage to find dom girls, mainly because anyone who has wanted me like that mainly goes for my height and wants me to dom. I never really asked to be fair but should I ask more?

[un****]

i’m gonna keep it quite simple you are never going to find what you want out of a relationship sexual or otherwise if you don’t start actively advocating for yourself so start asking because the odds its just going to get dropped in your lap are slim simply because the world is never that easy

[Deleted Member]

It never hurts to communicate your needs in a relationship. In fact, I think being more forthcoming with your sexual preferences will bring out the kind of woman who’s into what you like!

Kinks, fetishes, and sexuality in general really, it’s all about communicating your needs and exploring them in a safe, trusting way. Without that safe space (aka, consent and the inclusion of safewords) it’s just sadism or masochism

[Du****]

I like submissive guys, and I adore tall guys. I don’t discriminate based on height because I don’t want to be shallow like that, but I will admit that a gentle giraffe is probably my favourite. Or a giant cuddly teddy bear.

Height is not a factor in submission/domination, or it shouldn’t be, any more than weight or hair length or any other feature. Your conduct, your attitude, your intuition, they make you what you are.

[Deleted Member]

If you want something, you need to communicate it, or you will never get it.

Personally; I love being able to make a big strong man lay on the floor crying all curled up, and quivering at my feet.

Everyone likes different things.

[Astickman]

I think a lot of the time your sexual preference of being dom or sub is a mirror of what you are day to day. Powerful at work/bossy/big physically in life so sub in the bedroom. Shy / meek/pretty/delicate so powerful or dom in the bedroom. Not always but definitely a trend. In the end it doesn't matter. Do what you want. You'll find people that suit you. Ask and you shall receive. That being said .. I don't find who I want but that's my problem, not yours lol you'll be fine. Go get em

[Mi****]

The taller the better. Love a big sub.

[Fi****]

I really prefer tall Subs 💁🏼‍♀️

[Fi****]

Absolutely any sub that's taller than you it's too big to be a sub in my opinion. I personally don't mess with anybody that's taller than me. Unless there's some long ass legs

[Br****]

I think its nice to have a tall sub, easier to manage, slap and fill to the brim with all sorts of toys~!

[Deleted Member]

So I personally am a dom and I've been a lil insecure about my height because of that. I'm really short and I hate having to look up all the time when talking to people. But you know, if I'm already in a dom/sub dynamic with a pretty tall person I could for example make them kneel which feels maybe a bit less awkward for me. Also just sitting down while having a conversation helps with anyone.

Technically, it would be somewhat of a turn on for me to be dominant with someone that's shorter than me but I won't go look for people who are specifically even shorter. But thennnn, on the other hand if I look at someone who's tall and built like a pencil, I'll probably find them really attractive 😂 So in my case I have reasons to like someone that's taller than me or someone that's shorter than me the same.

If anyone likes you just for your height or even just started talking to you just for your height... Run away tho? Or if you get into talking with them and once they know you're taller/shorter they're not interested in you...

I know there's people who either think a couple where the woman is taller than the man is "embarrassing" or other people who's ego just can't stand it if their submissive partner is taller than them but maybe don't listen to them.

[Da****]

You should definitely ask. A "true" dom can work beyond height. Haha just joking but seriously, no harm in asking love. You'll find your matches with open communication~

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, FilthyMcNasty417 said:

Absolutely any sub that's taller than you it's too big to be a sub in my opinion. I personally don't mess with anybody that's taller than me. Unless there's some long ass legs

I'm pretty sure the guy that posted this topic was talking about femdoms and malesubs. If every femdom would go for short men and every malesub for tall women... We'd all be pretty limited.

[Xa****]

I totally understand your ***. 6'5" sub male here. And yeah everyone i meet thinks I'm dom & top and it feels like being typecasted. Granted, I look dommy af, and I'm like suuper stoic and spooky looking. But just from how I described that anyone can plainly see thats.. erm.. not the case.

[Co****]

NO! is the blunt answer your question. Preference will be personal to different people as you can see from the comments here.
As the saying goes “ if you don’t ask the answer will always be no” communication is the first step in finding your compatibility with someone.

There are many creative a play scenario that can be had with height differences with the right dynamic.
As other dommes there is nothing more pleasurable than having a tall sub forever on their knees during play…

[Fi****]

Hey I responded to this while doing way too many things at same time. I definitely wish I had waited to respond. What I said was simply an opinion that truly has zero relation to anything other than my preference in another if I'm pursuing for my personal taste. I typically do t date ladies taller than myself.
Now as far as height applying to any dom/sub relations with me or anyone it's totally irrelevant.. There is no reason whatsoever why a 3ft dwarfs couldn't be a dom of a 7 ft sub. The size of person has nothing to do with the roles each has in the the relationship. Even outside of the kink community. A persons height has no direct relations to who they are and what they are capable of. Lol. I have known some bad ass short guys while in school. I have also seen them just destroy another guy during a highschool fight. The bigger fella appeared to be the stronger in situation. But all he hit was ground. You can never judge another without by height weight or anything visual. Simply can't see the *** hiding under that skin suit. My first response should be considered jibberish..and I apologize. Actually going to see about removing it

[ki****]

I worry about that sometimes. I'm a sub-leaning switch and I'm 5'11"😕

[ey****]

I mean; people can have their preferences for sure

but for the best place I doubt most people actually care

 

[Ro****]

I've realized there is someone with a preference for whatever it is you bring. I always thought being a masc male sub would make it hard for me to find any partners, but it isn't as bad as I'd thought. I still think it would be easier if i was more of a twink/femboy/sissy, but it hasnt been impossible like i had originally ***ed. And if you're out of the ordinary, it means less competition. If someone is specifically looking for a too-tall sub, you will fit their fantasy perfectly.

[fi****]

Rockford.... Where have you experienced luck.. I'm newly single.. always been into it, but always as a customer...

[MotherKult]

I'm an equal opportunist. Tall or short is fine, but people do have their preferences.

[Mi****]

Bringing a talk guy to his knees is pretty damn hot

[Ro****]

19 hours ago, fishers525545 said:

Rockford.... Where have you experienced luck.. I'm newly single.. always been into it, but always as a customer...

Ive met 4 dommes here on Fet and another on fetlife i still talk to and do things with 2 of them. I tell people up front i dont pay to play, and that seems to help with avoiding the attention of *** and at least some of the scammers.

I see you're mostly into trans women. Ive had a lot of luck on grindr, actually. At least i know that everyone there is looking to hook up with a guy.

[Deleted Member]

Typically for me I normally only look at height of my subs after I've formed an attachment, and then it more for curiosity.

[Ki****]

I’m only 6’5” and yeah. I’m about 70/30 Bottom/Top