Are things like "DD/LG or "Littles" a trend?

[LordMacTire83]

***Please let me preface the following/below by saying that I am NOT trying to do ANY " Kink Shaming" of ANY kind!
This is ALL from a curious and observational standpoint, nothing more!***

With the above being said... Here it goes!!!

In the BDSM/Fetish LifeStyles, back when I first really got into it all, like 40yrs. ago, "BDSM/Slave Contracts" seemed to be all the rage?!
Then came, "Poly Households"... now it seems like almost EVERY Sub/Slave profile you read ANYWHERE, whether it be on here or "FetLife" or wherever... you see a person describing themselves as a "Little". This was usually from females, looking for a "Daddy DOM" type of dynamic, {but also sometimes a "Mommy Domme" if bi, lesbian/queer or transing?!} but I've also seen it from males as well now!


So... like in the past... is this a "Trend"... or is it something else... much deeper?!
WHAT SAY YOU?!

[ki****]

I would say it could be due to the caring nature of a DD that’s attract some to identify as having Little traits. In general we are more emotionally aware and intelligent so identify a certain need to be protected looked after and cared for. That’s just from my point of view not sure about others

[Ar****]

I say no it is not a trend... nor does it have to be anything deeper either.

 

It simply is what it is. There certainly may be an element of people *** it because they feel it is "the thing to do", but that is no different to many other kinks and aspects of this community in the modern era of media saturation - such people are not the majority. 

 

Some people enjoy it, or need it, or feel better satisfied/fulfilled with this manner of dynamic in their life, and that's all there is to it.

 

That said, I think your point about comment about kink shaming shines a light on why it may appear more commonplace now; previously these dynamics were perhaps some of the more taboo ones, indeed there is still often more stigma associated than with many other types. The gradual acceptance and dissipation of shame associated with DDlg and littles is likely why this is more readily and openly embraced/practiced.

[Sc****]

I would call it a trend, or fashionable, perhaps. I think the Internet has been electrifying for kink. Things spread fast, far, and wide.

There is both a evolutionary and a psychological foundation for the phenomena. I'm sure women were calling men "Daddy", in some form, since the beginning of time.

Daddy (her real Daddy) is the first man she falls in love with and is the model for all men that follow. This of course assumes he's around and not a piece of shit, as well.

She's the first man she'll compete for the attention of (against Mom).

She'll come into her own, sexually, in his presence (figuratively speaking).

From an evolutionary perspective, an older and well-established male is an optimal candidate for reproduction. As he is older (modern preference is still around +10 years) the dynamic echoes that of the one with her father, to a degree. Very easily then can that idea of "Daddy" come into mind.

What's interesting to me, is that Daddy in DDlg is played at, but perception of the role as being the real Daddy is absent. Meaning, there is a hint of the taboo, but not in its true form.

Also, for those that get weirded out by DDlg, there is an inverse correlation for those interested in it and those interested in under-aged persons in real life. I've read the research. Still looking for the original work, which I will link in the thread once I find it.

[Yi****]

The word little seems to be a new term. The important thing is that baby girl knows how to genuinely play her role and daddy acts like a daddy it's not about gifts and cuddling afterwards those are nice too we all want that stuff

[Sc****]

I forgot to add this in my first post:

There is a lot of overlap between the role of little and that of bimbo. Both deal with the removal of responsibility and the dehumanizing of the player. This is very much a BDSM dynamic at heart.

[Deleted Member]

Sadly, it is a bit of a trend. Even though it's been there for a while. The difference is that some of them like to roleplay as littles, and are not truly littles that regress for real. If that makes sense. Age regression is a real thing and most of them just want the cuteness of the kink. The most common age regress people are the ones that are on the spectrum. Paired with ADHD. The rest just jumped on the bandwagon. To them, wearing thigh highs, plait skirts, cute pink tops with a colourful picture of an *** and a pacifier is what being a little is all about. And it's not. So, let's agree to call them "hobby littles". 🤭

[Di****]

It’s just a wave of *** hunnys. A lot of sexuality is monetized by USA if at all possible. And for people who don’t know how to fuck right or just want *** and no love or juice 🧃 even. I don’t want to take care of every
One else around me either all the day long. I want to be a sub brat sometimes too. Take me out to dinner and I’ll eat yours and say mines gross. Then while you eat I’ll continue to slam on your food until you loose your appetite. Then we go back to b a n g right and I’ll let you bj me really fast and not receiprokate lol.

[Deleted Member]

Maybe it is a trend in the sense that information about it has become more accessible and more people can learn about it and identify as little or Mommy/Daddy dom

[Deleted Member]

I already left a comment but since apparently a lot of people don't know this, I thought it would be important to mention that "DDLG" means only "daddy dom little girl". So if you're a male little, that's not the right term for you. If you're male and into mommy doms it would be "MDLB". Mommy dom little boy. I still find it shocking how many people use "DDLG" and don't know what it's actually short for. Even my autocorrect accepts DDLG but not MDLB 😂😂

[Sc****]

Agree, I rarely see MDLB, although for sure I would say DDlg is far more common.

I actually like the upper-lower case presentation that reflects the relationship, e.g. DDlg and MDlb.

[LordMacTire83]

Yes I agree and my sincerest apologies for not including all of them. It was not my intention to exclude anyone!
So here are all of them...DD/lg, DD/lb, DM/lb, & DM/lg, also to add... DD&DM/lg, DD&DM/lb.
I hope this corrects my mistake?

[LordMacTire83]

Yeah I too like the UPPER CASE/lower case distinctions!

[LordMacTire83]

Because of MY Personal respect for MY "Slave, *KIRA*... I use upper case with her as you will see if you read things I've written/ said about Her!
I do this ONLY with Her though! 😁

[Deleted Member]

I think bdsm has become, while not mainstream, more acceptable than it once was. Things like 50 shades (as problematic as they are) helped normalise this world. Combine that with improved mental health awareness and less rigid expectations on genders/roles etc… people feel more able to label themselves that way. When I first began my journey, I would never dream of calling myself little. I still wouldn’t, I’m not one. But… I do find enjoyment and rest in some “little” activities. Before I felt free to admit that, I’d burn out quickly. There are trends that social media pushes. Brats were huge a few years ago. So I think that helps with how many label themselves, but I’d like to think most people are more true and honest to themselves than to give themselves a label just because it’s trending…

Sorry, this was a word vomit of thought in no particular order. But it is late and my brain is tired

[ey****]

A trend - nope

Early kink history a lot varies on territory - and yep the whole 'household' idea was often one that was designed to keep communities, especially Queer communities, safe so much as relationships.

A lot of the whole D/s thing also was very much at a peak in the 90s and one big advantage it had was the fetish clubs were starting to become more... tolerated.... but still weren't in abundance.   So the people who owned/ran the clubs made the rules and the rules tended to be D/s based and their versions of it - and of course a lot of the whole contract idea, well there wasn't really websites you could read the rules on as commonplace.

A lot of people ended up into a situation that really wasn't for them; but it was the only gig in town so to speak.

The internet was the biggest driver in accessibility to kink - and one thing it did drive was show there were more ideas than protocol based D/s and people could then be more accepting to their own identities and also learn there were others like them and that they didn't need to squeeze into a structure that wasn't right for them.

Some of the ideas that became less common, well there's now less in the terms of safety requirements for households so they died out a little (mind, with house prices going up some are coming back into fashion to save on rent and bills!) and, while, there's maybe not an abundance of fetish events there are certainly more and they're easier to find - if one near you has terms and rules that don't work for you then it's easier to find others which do even if it involves travelling further.

 

[Daddybrains]

I don’t think it’s a trend. We have words for it now, to describe it and to ask for it, whereas before it was considered more of a personality quirk.

There are a dozen (more, really) different kinds of littles and different related dynamics. Even the word “little” isn’t enough words. It covers everything from role play to dissociative identity disorder to age regression to just not wanting to adult all the time.

[Romany_Master]

It's a trend based on current young adults in society lacking accountability and discipline as ***. 

Instead of BDSM community teaching accountability and mental well-being, the community is teaching that however you behave, it is okay and people need to respect that.... even if they are very poorly behaved.

[Ar****]

2 hours ago, Romany_Master said:

Instead of BDSM community teaching accountability and mental well-being, the community is teaching that however you behave, it is okay and people need to respect that.... even if they are very poorly behaved.

Who in the community is teaching people this, and where?

[jo****]

I've also been around long enough (for more than 25 years in the kink community by now) to have noticed those various shifts or - as some put it - trends.

I would say my take on it is:

As more people become aware of the meaning of certain terms, they will say "hell yeah, I always felt that aspect of myself, but I never had a name for it".  I've seen this happen to me on my journey, too - and I think it's good if we have more terms to describe the roles we identify with. It allows others to understand better what we are - and it allows us to research our feelings in the context of such a term.

I've seen a lot of age play / age regression erotica being written and shared in BBSs and Usenet even back in the 90s. People were into it, they probably just didn't identify themselves with certain labels yet?

It's good that we have more words.  I think 25 years ago I rarely read about people identifying as Brat.  But of course, there were always Subs who would more voluntarily submit than those who like to provoke.

What I do think more of a trend is the trend towards poly-* and specifically polyamory. Back in the day, a lot of BDSM was "independent/non-committed", "monogamous", or "open relationship/marriage".  These days it feels at least like the younger generation (and some of the older ones) has been going completely into polyamory, and it's the new "normal" in the kink community.  I'm happy if that's what makes people happy, and maye we're seeing a longer-term shift in that direction.  Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm grandpa holding to his ancient belief in monogamy and monoamory.

So, summary: I think the DD/lg thing is not a trend, but better awareness/definition... unlike polyamory which really is a shift or a trend.  And I mean trend in a technical term, i.e. a change in some direction.  Not as in "a temporary thing that will subside soon".