Da**** Posted January 16 Assuming anything at all about anyone when first meeting up is the surest path to disappointment. Contraception is definitely not an assumable standard unless you're at a large event.
No**** Posted January 16 Don’t ever assume anything, especially with someone new. You never know what goes on inside someone’s head. Communicate your concerns and confirm with them what their status is with contraception, health, protection, all of the things.
Se**** Posted January 16 I’m sure it wasn’t your intention but this question screams entitlement and male privilege (I’m aware this sounds snarky, it isn’t my intention at all). It’s NEVER solely the woman’s responsibility. No assumptions should ever be made. You don’t want a child (or an STD) use a condom. I’m not sure why there’s an assumption or feeling that women should fill their bodies with hormones which have HUGE affects on them in order to prevent procreation when a man can simply wear a condom (and yes, trust me, given my profession I know that accidents happen) that has nowhere close to the same side effects. [Unless the woman specifically wants to take hormonal contraceptives]. I’d hope that anyone who gets to the stage of sexual relations has been upfront and had a full conversation about birth control, possible implications (and STDs). In short - don’t assume, always ask and take self responsibility. The only 100% certain way to prevent unwanted pregnancies is abstinence (because even vasectomies aren’t guaranteed). And apologies again if my reply seemed rude, it wasn’t my intention.
Sw**** Posted January 16 Why wouldn't you confirm?! The consequences of your assumption being wrong are potentially life changing
Deleted Member Posted January 16 Probably better to double check. Also why would you want to risk it on a hookup?! Seems a bit reckless. Many ladies have various reasons for not automatically being on birth control. Bad reactions, med interference, controlling family, religion, personal choice, or expenses. I was unable to use birth control for yrs due to bad reactions so I had to run a bit risky for awhile. This is actually my first year on one because I finally found a dr that found a birth control that didn’t upset my system terribly.
Deleted Member Posted January 16 I always ask if the woman is on bc and if they want me to use a condom or not.
Sh**** Posted January 16 Are you serious.? Never assume anything when it comes to this lifestyle especially birth control.
Sm**** Posted January 16 As I'm fixed is not something I concern myself with as all excursions will result in a cream pie.
Jt**** Posted January 16 Never assume because you may end up with child support payments down the line
Deleted Member Posted January 16 The arguments for and against are well known. At the end of the day those involved have to do what feels right for them.
Deleted Member Posted January 17 (edited) 3 hours ago, SmokeyJ said: As I'm fixed is not something I concern myself with as all excursions will result in a cream pie. Hopefully you talk about this to everyone beforehand. And you and any body you are going to have sex with is tested for STDs. People don't realize how common STDs Edited January 17 by Deleted Member Add more clarification
Sh**** Posted January 17 Should always confirm... I've almost never been on birth control and also don't let men cum inside me.
fa**** Posted January 17 You really need to ask? With birth control rights being taken away, rise of stds. Read the room. Smh.
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