Is my perception wrong?

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8 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

People aren't "wrong" when they're explaining their own personal experiences
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If you're truly paying attention to the comments and who is in agreement with whom, you'll notice a trend.

You’re right, there is a trend. That women have it easier. It’s basically you, gemini, and sheep boy on the other side of the fence, maybe Charms? Everyone else seems to be in agreeance that women have it easier in almost every way.

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Oh wait, Charms said she thought women had it easier too in OP. It’s even lonelier over there than we thought.

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What's the men-to-women ratio 🤔

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Ace2587 … I agree with you and I’ll say it” this bs and yall playin if you think women don’t have it easier.. fucj the standards and whateva bs you wana use as an excuse .. the app is fun and I’m lucky enough to not have to depend on it for sex or companionship .. it mainly for fun and experiment .. but for a person (man) whose looking foreal .. I hope u have a rabbits foot in your hand when your looking cause it’s hard for Man to really get lucky.. no pun intended … Call a spade a spade and bs- bs .. We are all adults and it’s no need to pull the sheet over our eyes… also for my experiment I had *** and other eye catching things in my profile and pics … I couldn’t respond to all the msgs.. I toned it down and switched up my appearance .. I mite have got 5 hits for that wk… I’ve takin the *** and eye candy down now and added a recent pic .. the attention is moderate… I get a few hits a day… my point is humans lie and numbers don’t … Ladies I respect the hustle or whateva it is you use to scale how you pick us(men) .. All I’m saying is give the basic guy a shout every once and awhile so we don’t have to talk about this .. say hi… ask him about his day and keep it movin…. They just want some attention like we all do at the end of the day… I try to respond to everyone wether their my type or not… We on here to have fun.. and see what’s out here..not to curve ppl .. cause you can curve in public .. just my $1 and .25 cents worth … Have fun and stay Thirsty… A smile and a “Hey There” does more than no response any day —-Drops Mic—-☺️☺️🕺🏽🕺🏽🫶🏽🥰

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I'm kind of shocked with probably half the comments and read this thread and some reasonably valid points being made that the most obvious ones haven't been touched on first is genealogy DNA there's no denying the effect it has on females and males is completely different women have biological clocks and start ticking they picked men based on their ability to provide and give them *** they have no choice in this it's ingrained in them through their DNA just like every other *** on the planet number two is sure women can be strong and financially secure and independent but look through the profiles look through your life experiences how high is the percentage of women you've encountered had that desire in the bedroom to be submissive my experience has been a very high percentage no matter what they're like outside of the bedroom third point is have a look at our society have a look at the commercials on TV they all tell the women you need to have this you need to have that you need to drive this car you need to have this clothing this purse where this dress these shoes these perfumes advertisers bombard women with unrealistic stereotypes just think about the makeup industry how many pretty girls do you know it's still insist on wearing makeup it's a multi-billion dollar industry annually defense spend that kind of *** on hair products or anything else and of course there are some that do with the vast majority do not this is prevalent in Western Society you won't be successful unless you have this kind of a husband and this big of a house and this and this and that but I haven't seen one comment down here that even touches on that. Of course women have an easier time going out and finding somebody to have sex with but they have a way harder time finding a great lasting relationship or at least as equally a hard time it's ingrained on them did they need to have a husband and *** in order to be fulfilled as women so think about how many women you knew or do know that stayed in terrible relationships for the sake of the *** is what I always hear did not happy they have shitty sex lives There's No Love in the home and all they do is continue the cycle by teaching their *** that that's a normal relationship so the *** then go out and settle for relationships that are not in either persons best interests

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10 hours ago, TMac007 said:

What's the men-to-women ratio 🤔

largely, a myth

the general claim is that in any given circle the number of men seeking considerably outnumbers the number of women seeking.  There's assorted reasons and caveats where getting a true number would be difficult - for example that there is a difference between "being single" and "actively seeking" and that just because someone at any given time is not "actively seeking" does not mean they are closed to the idea.

No one ever presents any evidence - on this thread we have claims that there are 100 men to every woman, yet every available stat would debunk this beyond the occasional outlier (i.e. Ashley Maddison) 

The general truth is; it is hard to find partners - especially when you add requirements, dynamics, kink overlaps, etc. and sometimes there's comfort in believing odds are unfairly stacked against you.  But sometimes this leads to resentment, bitterness, etc. over something which isn't true.

 

 

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On 3/5/2025 at 1:51 PM, BackRubsNBruises said:

I’d argue femme presenting submissives are in the majority in the real world community. But that could be because many clubs and events cap how many single males can attend. Certainly online, I agree with Lsmart938 that the ratio for f:m is skewed on match sites in the female favour.

There's never been a limit on single males at the dungeon  I go to.  

 

I know there's  a limit or conditions  ot local singers clubs for men. But never dungeons 

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Okay I am finding that everything is out of kilter.
I'm getting woman sending me their numbers saying text me. As well as those saying hit me up.

So, I guess lots of men and women are of the same mindset. I'm just not sure what that is.

Don't people want to get to know each other?

I get it. A lot of those women are professionals and that's fine. Just not for me.

No connection, no interaction. At least on a personal level anyway.

It appears that not many women read profiles anymore.

I'm going to go try to figure all this out. I am way to sleepy to try to use reasoning especially if reasoning isn't even part of the equation.

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Thread of mostly men claiming it is easier for women...
So, when you say "women have it easier" what kind of women did you imagine? Because the absolute vitriol flooding the inbox of my plussize,, trans and opinionated friends (the latter being most women tbh almost as if the women who don't share their polarizing values on dating apps are... promoting a fantasy. hmm) - and all those men matched with them first! Just mass swiping everyone. I can see having an empty inbox is depressing - but inbox full of harassment and *** is soul crushing.
Women aren't fleeing dating apps en masse because it is "too easy." You just GOT to open your ears and listen to the struggles of others to have a better chance of finding a way around the problems and into each others arms.

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5 hours ago, Windwolf said:

Okay I am finding that everything is out of kilter.
I'm getting woman sending me their numbers saying text me. As well as those saying hit me up.

So, I guess lots of men and women are of the same mindset. I'm just not sure what that is.

Don't people want to get to know each other?

I get it. A lot of those women are professionals and that's fine. Just not for me.

No connection, no interaction. At least on a personal level anyway.

It appears that not many women read profiles anymore.

I'm going to go try to figure all this out. I am way to sleepy to try to use reasoning especially if reasoning isn't even part of the equation.

You'll likely find a lot of those "women" are sat in a call centre type environment and are out to take you for as much as they can.
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Don't think it's anything at all to do with men and women having a similar mindset - in my experience I've never known a genuinely interested woman to send their numbers and expect calls etc right off the bat.

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9 hours ago, Charms said:

There's never been a limit on single males at the dungeon  I go to.  

 

I know there's  a limit or conditions  ot local singers clubs for men. But never dungeons 

I’m really happy yours has such an equal policy :) my regular club doesn’t, nor do several others I’ve attended. I can only go by experience, but this is exactly why I didn’t say all.

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6 hours ago, BackRubsNBruises said:

I’m really happy yours has such an equal policy :) my regular club doesn’t, nor do several others I’ve attended. I can only go by experience, but this is exactly why I didn’t say all.

Not sure which is your regular, but all of the clubs I've attended in the past year - KTs (Penthouse Playrooms), Xtasia, Liberty Elite and The Annex all have equal pricing for kink events (though are more gendered for swing events) - I was due to go to The Townhouse too and from memory that was equal as well.

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12 hours ago, KiraSecura said:

I can see having an empty inbox is depressing - but inbox full of harassment and *** is soul crushing.
Women aren't fleeing dating apps en masse because it is "too easy." You just GOT to open your ears and listen to the struggles of others to have a better chance of finding a way around the problems and into each others arms.

This 👆 

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19 hours ago, Charms said:

There's never been a limit on single males at the dungeon  I go to.  

 

I know there's  a limit or conditions  ot local singers clubs for men. But never dungeons 

I'd say same; but there are a couple of exceptions. 

So *most* Femdom events are uniform pricing (regardless of your gender or relationship status) some do cap unowned subs (although, that is 'unowned' of any gender) but part of that is because they expect to sell out and don't want an inbalance of a sold out event - some with the cap have released extra submissive tickets when it's closer to the time if there's still ample unsold for the event as a whole. 

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13 hours ago, gemini_man said:

You'll likely find a lot of those "women" are sat in a call centre type environment and are out to take you for as much as they can.
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Don't think it's anything at all to do with men and women having a similar mindset - in my experience I've never known a genuinely interested woman to send their numbers and expect calls etc right off the bat.

You are correct. And all of these things are red flags.