How to make friends ?

[Deleted Member]

Hi yall! Super new to this community and wanted to learn how to make friends and interact with people if every interaction is limited by having a membership.

Also how should I go about making friends. I’m a very interactive and an extroverted person in my real life but online I have no idea how to start a conversation.

Any tips are greatly appreciated!!

Thanks

[Deleted Member]

hi my name is.....lol

[Deleted Member]

Just start interacting in comments and such. You will eventually have friends on here.

[wE****]

Just go with the flow

[No****]

You can chat in lobby on here. I’ve made some good friends from lobby. It takes time though

[Deleted Member]

I am in similar situation. Recently downloaded the app and just trying to connect with others.

[an****]

Be yaself

[Deleted Member]

It's difficult. Especially with these apps trying to profit off of peoples connections

[os****]

Yeah I hear you mate, it’s hard to shine your true self on these apps. I do try some of the typical ice breaker like «  tell me one interesting fact about yourself. «  start with open ended questions to engage conversation. That will at least open the door and start the connection.

[ge****]

Firstly, stop "trying" to make friends - rather just be your natural and genuine self, get involved in the forums or chat rooms - show people a flavour of you in them, as well as in your profile text and pictures etc.
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Sure you can also try the messaging people you think are a good match route - but be warned it's probably one of the most fruitless options - again be respectful, be considerate, be prepared to take no for an answer, or even no answer for an answer. Be your genuine self and don't try to fit yourself to what you think people want to hear.
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Most importantly though, and before any of the above, know yourself and what you are looking for here - reflect that in your profile, and your communication, show people you've really thought about what kink means to you, and that you know what you're talking about.

[Deleted Member]

Just say hi 👋🏼
I have friends on here that have come from comments and forums and treasure hunts.
They’re fun ways to get to know people without the pressure.
I’m one for building friendships above all else so in my experience, start with “Hello, I’m _______ and I’m looking to make new friends and network” and most people are pretty receptive.

[St****]

What if your new to kink?

[Deleted Member]

Two big issues I keep encountering: People's bio that say they're nearby (25 miles for example), but then they tell me they are 500 miles away, or even In a different state!
The second issue is women that are not here for kink, but are using this as a regular dating app.

[Deleted Member]

I would recommend FETLIFE app, your gonna meet alot of people on there and it's not a bunch of fake accounts.

[Ki****]

Yo who wrote the last message starting off @gemini_man?? Whoever it was I really don't know but what he said was straight up game like real raw truth. U got a know u first and then join in the convos and hit some of the events. I haven't meet anyone personally yet but I just joined and homeboy said exactly what my plan is. But I'm not really on the hunt. But my point was homeboy had straight knowledge I'd follow his lead

[Deleted Member]

Comment on posts that interest you.

Remember that people don't owe you anything.

Inbox filters are there for a reason (I get a ton of men angry at me because they can't message me). 

Don't lead with sexual messages unless you want to be ignored by a majority of women.

[Ro****]

Just chat just like you already have. Get interactive in these and chat

[ey****]

Best way to make friends

time, patience, passive connections

 

 

like - if you start inboxing people there's a lot of a lottery there and even if any chatting does happen - it may be clear you don't wish to be their friend  

online - contribute to forums, you'll find your ***ps over time

in real life - go to munches and events and people will start to filter between "people you say hi to" and people who you, or they, go out of the way to speak to. 

[Da****]

The best way to make friends is in person. Join FetLife. Look for munches in your area. Munches are social vanilla gatherings in public areas. We usually have a meal together, drinks and chat. Dress appropriate for the venue. If you're nervous, contact the host they'll help you. If you're under 35yrs old there are TNG(the next generation) munchies. You can still go to a regular munch if you're under 35.

[Ki****]

20 hours ago, DarkAngel-001 said:

The best way to make friends is in person. Join FetLife. Look for munches in your area. Munches are social vanilla gatherings in public areas. We usually have a meal together, drinks and chat. Dress appropriate for the venue. If you're nervous, contact the host they'll help you. If you're under 35yrs old there are TNG(the next generation) munchies. You can still go to a regular munch if you're under 35.

This is 100% the best advice. If you want to make real connections, go to a munch and meet real people.

[ya****]

thank you for the advice that makes a lot of sense

[po****]

That's not a problem I don't know how to introduce myself into this cuz I'm very new at it in I'm really like an inverted person kind of private but I got all these different urges and finishes I'd rather explore

[Bi****]

What is a “munch” exactly?

[ya****]

I am very interested in attending a munch. Hope that there are some a available as spring time emerges.