Can you imagine my plight for a minute. I'm submissive, I'm a masochist. How do you think these things go down with the rest of my generation. As a man, I'm expected to be strong. To be assertive, to take charge and, yes to be able to be violent when my country asks.
The life I wish that I could Read more… lead gas only just become available to me after 60 years of yearning. And I have some up start trying to tell me still. THAT MY FEELINGS DONT COUNT. HOw ignorant are you. How little empathy you have fir yhe people around you.
Once again all trademark signs of a narcissist and a psychopath.
Do your college thing and do your research.

I'm worried about you. I bet your parents are too. 99.95% of people want you to be happy within yourself. 99.95% of people feel for and don't mean you any harm what so ever. But think of this. Your saying your non binary because you don't fit societal norms. Do you relate to a 1% bike club member. Read more… Or to a Vietnam veteran. Do you think that you're the only one who feels that they live outside of society. Do you know that both veterans and bikers respect each other.
You show no respect for anyone but yourself.
Again, text book narcissism.

So another words narcissism. You expect the whole world to change for you, without giving any information. 99.95% of people don't need this stupidity to get on in the world, yet you think it's reasonable.
Creating drama where no drama exists
Enjoying the drama.
That is the clinical definition of Read more… narcissism.
I don't except that premise either.
Yes they are biologically diverse, for sure. But your not talking biology, your talking psychology. Is the English language your second language or are you using a translation device. If not you truly don't understand the English language.
You should get yourself an Oxford or Webster dictionary app for your phone so you understand that words have specific meanings, nit just what you feel like they should mean. It's what is great about the English language. You seem to struggle with the actual meanings.

Last comment then I'm done.
If we were at a party and there was an academy award winning person there and un be known to us they were describing to a group of people how they would play a lion. We walk past, I say great lion mate, you say great non binary. Which do you think they would recognise as Read more… a compliment.
The academy award winner was both performing and immersed in their character.
But they would wish that you recognised that they were trying to emulate a lion, of course.

Let me explain this simply to you. Or better still,
I have a question for you.
What physical attribute does a non binary person have that indicates to a passer-by that that person is non binary.
This is the issue. And this is the reason that im calling you narcissistic. If you can't give me a Read more… definitive answer, all your doing is creating drama where none exists.
I'm sorry, but who or that are you at this moment because unless you describe yourself in writing then I don't have a clue what your supposed to be.
Do you like being a nothing??????

No that's not true. I literally think more of you than nothing.
In this D/s dynamic that we are talking about, let's say that tour a switch. In the dynamic their is no room for non binary. In that moment, you're either a dom oflr a sub. You have decided who you want to be at that Read more… moment.
Correct?
So ss non binary. You tend to switch. Which is fine, but how does everyone else know that your non binary. If you present as a man, woman, pet, slave, whatever, that's how you present yourself at that moment. And to respect YOUR choice at that moment the person in front of you addresses you how you that way.
That's what I mean when I say that I think more of you than binary. I think of you as exactly who you present yourself as.
That's respect.

Non binary, is narcissism. Not who you are, but what you are. Your here simply for the drama, not the kink.

I don't accept that, I'm sorry. You are who you are or you are who you choose to be. How can you be a dom and not know who you are. I don't care who you think you are. I deal with the person in front of me. Or is calling you a person insulting too.
This is the 3xact difference between performance Read more… and immersion. Thanks for that.

I'm sorry, but I don't understand your logic here .
If you are a trans woman and I have assumed you are a woman. Isn't that acknowledgement of who you believe you are. So why is it an insult, instead of a compliment.

Your profile picture is of a woman. I don't run into many trans people. They are a very. Very small part of the population. Forgive me if it's something that doesn't even cross my mind. I mean no disrespect by this. It's just the way it is.
You are right. It is important to do due diligence. Read more… Especially when someone resorts to personal attacks as a means of winning an argument. It proves that you know nothing about the people that you want to dominate.

Yes, you're absolutely right. I am a fantasise. That's because I can't find a lifestyle Mistress. Yes, I'm begging for attention, but only the right type of attention.
You still sound very vanilla, jumping head first into the dynamic, without first establishing the dynamic. I call these Read more… weekender. Jump in get what you want and jump out.
O completely understand the paradox that a woman has to deal with inside her own mind. Do you upstanding the paradox of the male/sub mind. From your comments, you don't.

I'm sorry to say this, but as a sub, you and Andrew sound like you are lazy Dom's who think that the dynamic means that you don't have to take the responsibility for the dynamic. A bratty sub is one that's trying to find out if you're paying attention or not and if you're willing to en*** your Read more… needs over theirs.
I've only met one women who was sadistic enough to en*** her will. But then she wouldn't commit to the relationship. Without both of these things you may as well be vanilla. I'm not saying this to be abusive, just pointing out that a sub is not a sub until it submits and commits to the relationship and a dom is not a dom unless they commit and en*** what they want from their sub.
As a sub I have ask a potential dom to write an essay on what a sub gets from the dynamic. Most of the time the dom says that it's not my place, but the true Dom's can answer this with little effort. Separates the wanna bes from legitimate doms

A sub only instructs its dom, when the dom isn't engaging with the dynamic. It's a sign that the sub isn't happy with yhe way it's going.

It seems that your expecting everything for nothing. If your not engaging and doing your part in the relationship, then the sub won't feel wanted and won't want to emerce themselves into their role. Submitting voluntarily doesn't let the dim off the hook,rather, makes the dom responsible for the Read more… subs actions. Schedules, rules, protocols and procedures, stop micromanaging, and gives the sub the structure it needs to remain in subspace with little effort from the dom once the dom has decided how they want their life be and to look like.
For instance,
Sub is to be up naked and serving the doms cofffe at 6.00am.
Coffee, white two sugars medium strength
Upon waking, some sort of gratitude that makes its dom want to dominate during the day.
Once coffee is served the sub gathers the Dom's clothes for the day and lays them out.
Dom goes and makes breakfast for its dom.
Dom kneels beside its dom while the dom eats and continplates what specifics are required for that day on top.if what's on the schedule.
The schedule guides the actions of the dub without the need for daily instruction.
The structure is what allows the dom to not have to micro manage and allow both of them to get what they need out of the relationship.
This is the Dom's job, a sub is not allowed to persume.
Anticipation then becomes the hall mark of a sub who believes their efforts are being pleasing to its dom.

You may as well asked what's the difference between game play and lifestyle.

Just read your profile. Daddy brains. It's telling that your the first dom replying to this. It's also telling that on your profile you mention ***. To ve honest, I don't know what straight male Dom's have to put up with.
I have one line to someone making excuses why they think having a sub is Read more… expensive.
I'm financially self sufficient. I do not want or have a need to be a financial burden on any dom. I do exp3ct to be welcomed, have a feeling of ,belonging, and trust the dom explicitly.
The mere mention of ***, is a no from me......