Why is it so hard to find and fufill kinks/fantasies

[Az****]

Yes fetlife is great site

[po****]

It's because this place is full of dudes and fake accounts.

[po****]

You're better looking up swinger bars

[Be****]

Actually, all those pay walls are for people who want to get quick access and special treatment. Simply take your time, and please do not treat this app as a dating app. When you are genuine, you will eventually meet with people who are genuine. Also, as i see you look for females thus it will make your search take more time than you expect. There are too many men in the world and too few women in every platform.

[me****]

Yeah same, I know I’m not that bad at chit chat but all these apps are kinda dead? Idk I’m sure living far away doesn’t help people’s interests but shit man I’ll drive.

[Ca****]

Fetlife is a good one. Just have to be careful.

[Lo****]

I feel like it's partly due to dead internet- people too afraid to reach out genuinely because there's more ways to be hurt online than ever. Harder to be Real than it once was.

[Ch****]

You've got a couple factors working against you. One, you're American. That's a relatively small group compared to Europeans and other countries. Two, you appear to be looking for a 🦄. We just checked our profile views, a little over 17000...and would say about 16000 are single guys, a few hundred are couples...then you need to find the percentage of single women willing to take a unicorn role.
To answer your question, you may have to go old fashioned, in person socializing. SLS and other swinger sites can be very good, but also very not free. (Apologies if we got your target wrong, but that is how your profile reads) Good luck!

[Hu****]

I hear you it can be a real *** honestly. I'm pretty open minded though hit me up if you wanna talk

[Mi****]

Reddit is free and full of fun for everyone 🤙

[Ja****]

Yes. Fetlife is a great site and it doesn’t cover pix! lol they have all sorts of forums for learning.
There is a free version that most of us have. The only difference I can see is that you can view the videos

[jo****]

I love the app 3 fun or Feeld

[Rh****]

A lot of folks think they're into things, only to try them, find out it's not their s***d, and they ghost. There's a LOT of kinks, and sadly not a lot of matches for all of them.

[re****]

Find your local munch

[M1****]

Tbh i was excited abt this app but its very pay to play

Thats capitalism tho and seeing as most social places have collapsed, its hard to find any places to socialize

But yea honestly disappointed so far

[wa****]

Just be happy you’re not a male sub looking for a dominant woman.

[Sa****]

I download the app trying/hoping to find ppl to connect with. I honestly didn’t know what to expect or that there was even a pay wall to begin with, I’ve met and talked to ppl alr without having to pay anything. I’m not sure if the subscription is worth it but I do know that it isn’t necessarily needed! There are real ppl on here it’s kinda just hard to do when you have restrictions.

[iw****]

Well, personally i have an idea of what im looking for but i dont project that onto the people i meet and chat with. 0 expectations, just treat them respectfully like a person and let the conversation naturally develop. Youll drive people away if you try to *** them into the box of "what youre looking for"

[Deleted Member]

Seriously tho it’s pay to play and it’s dumb lol 😂. Like I can even message you because you “popular” and like what even is this lol

[Deleted Member]

I can’t^^ even message you ^*

[jo****]

We are all right here now so hit eachother up and have commutation then we can all have what we like

[bc****]

I’ve never met anyone “fake”… there are updates to events that are going on in your area, there are tutorials on rope skills and bondage, you can share your interests like restraints or daddy dom/little girl.. there are seminars that are held in all communities for things like consent, cnc, rope play, even how to safely enter the realm of cutting or *** play and ***********.. (not my thing, but the beauty of the kink community is everyone can have what they like and not be judged.. 🥹)

[bc****]

I don’t even have a Facebook, but fetlife is where all my friendships and relationships are based..

[Deleted Member]

Plura is really great for finding events (in-person and online) and connecting with a much better behaved branch of the kink community. Very useful access without paying a membership fee.
The website will point you to Android & iOS apps.
heyplura*

Edited March 26, 2025 by Deleted Member
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[cl****]

Im here. I dont understand. I dont have that issue