Welcome to FET: Your First Steps in Our Kinky Playground

Welcome to FET, the world’s most trusted BDSM & Fetish community. If you’ve just signed up, chances are your curiosity has already led you down some very exciting paths. But now that you’re here, it’s time to really dive in.

Whether you’re a total beginner or a kink connoisseur, starting out on a new platform can feel a bit overwhelming. So we’re here to guide you through your first steps, introduce you to our most popular features, and make sure you’re set up to meet like-minded Kinksters in no time.

Spanks: Let the swiping begin

Think of Spanks as your kinky radar. It’s where you swipe through profiles and send a little signal that says “Hey, I’m into what you’re offering.” When someone Spanks you back, boom—you have crush. That’s when the real fun can begin.

Using Spanks is simple: swipe right to show interest, swipe left to pass. It’s casual, low-pressure, and a great way to browse the community. Everyone swipes at their own pace, whether you’re looking for your next play partner, a kinky friend, or someone to explore fantasies with for the first time.

On FET, you’ll find Spanks right in the main menu under 'Search'.  Tap the Spanks icon on the top left to open the swipe view. When tapping on a user that pops up, you'll have access to their complete profile description. Each profile comes with tags for kinks, limits, orientation, and relationship status—so don’t just swipe on the photo. Read the details. We’re a community built on consent, communication, and shared interests, after all.

Feeling adventurous? Start exploring and you might just find a fellow rope bunny, brat tamer, or latex enthusiast just around the corner.

Search: Get specific, Get connected

Want to find someone in your city? A Dom who speaks your language? A switch who shares your love of foot play? Missed out on giving Spanks to someone specific but remember their user name? That’s where the Search feature comes in.

The Search tool is built to help you narrow things down and get more intentional about your connections. You can filter by:

• Gender and orientation
• Roles & Archetypes
• Age
• Location and radius
• Kinks and fetishes
• Relationship status
• Online status
• Profile verification and more

It’s more than just finding someone hot—it’s about finding someone right. If you’ve got specific needs, hard limits, or just want to skip straight to people who match your energy, Search will become your best friend.

You can also sort your results—by last login, age, distance, or who has a verified profile—so your feed is always tailored to what you’re into.

Find Search in the navigation bar and tap on 'Kinksters'. Pro tip: save your filters so you don’t have to start from scratch each time.

Live Chat: Keep it real-time

Now let’s talk about how to connect. Once you’ve matched or found someone intriguing, you’ll want to slide into their DMs. That’s where our Inbox and Live Chat come into play.

Your Inbox is your private messaging space. You can send messages, pictures (if the vibe’s right), and see who’s replied. But here’s where FET steps it up: Live Chat. It’s our real-time chat room feature where you can talk to multiple kinksters at once, then whisper to someone privately when the chemistry clicks.

Want to test the waters? Drop a message in a chat room and see who bites. Ready to get more intimate? Whisper and get personal—just the two of you.

The Live Chat can be accessed right from the Inbox. If someone’s active and online, you’ll see it. It’s a fun way to be spontaneous and start building connections instantly.

Don’t forget: Verify and customize your profile

Before you go too far down the rabbit hole, make sure you’re setting yourself up for success. Verified profiles tend to get more messages and matches—and it only takes a minute to do.

Head to Settings > Get Verified to upload your verification photo (you + your username + today’s date). It won’t be shared—just a way to show others that you’re real, and ready.

While you’re at it, complete your profile. Add your favorite kinks, your limits, your relationship status, and a few good photos. It’s not just about how you look—it’s about how you connect.

And remember: our platform is built on SSC—Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Being upfront about who you are and what you want is sexy as hell.

Explore Even More

Now that you know the basics, don’t stop there. FET is packed with other features:

• Photo Challenges to express your creativity
• Kinky Ads for stating your desires clearly
• Treasure Hunts to spice up your journey
• A BDSM Test to discover your playstyle
• Kinky Gifts to surprise and delight

Every tap, swipe, and message brings you closer to new connections, new discoveries, and new ways to enjoy your sexuality.

The Final FET

No one becomes a dungeon master overnight. So give yourself the space to explore, learn, and grow. The first few days on FET are all about feeling things out—what excites you, what doesn’t, who makes you feel seen.

Swipe with curiosity. Search with intention. Chat with confidence. Most of all, enjoy the ride.

Welcome to FET.
Keep it kinky,
Your FET Team