No strings attached. Is it still a true dynamic?

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I literally sent a text to a former (non BDSMer in training; he couldn’t handle it)… that same thing… you can come over and hang, no strings attached. That’s open and honest and willing to start vanilla with him… I get the denial answer, “I just want to be a good guy, work, and take care of my daughter”. BOY! The hint is the key was the text… you need a WOMAN to not “fix” you but make you comfortable to explore what you like, the fact that is sometimes just got to be lust, to then get them to realize that want uncomfortable. I have up. I’m 4K years older but in human years 3…. Do the math 😆. So my answer is you sometimes have to train slow for you want them to be into it even if they say they’re not… which is the best.