Change my mind, opinion please

[Ca****]

8 minutes ago, DuchessFeuille said:

Blank profile? We’re not talking. Haven’t read my profile? We’re not talking. First message is a one-word wonder? We’re not talking.

Don’t want to make an effort because “it might not pay off”? Fine - but we’re *definitely* not talking.

In short… I agree, RL ☺️

Yup. But, devil's advocate, for someone like me who avoided interaction because interaction was usually negative. It can be hard to break the ice with a complete stranger, let alone someone who's essentially words and pictures. I try, I'm just not well practiced at STARTING conversations.😆 But yes, "Hi" doesn't start a conversation. A vulgar pickup line, would you say that to her if she was standing in front of you? I mean, in my drunken soldier days we had a game we'd play to that effect trying to get our buddies slapped so they'd have to buy us drinks, and in certain situations it shocks em enough to peak their curiosity.😂

[Ca****]

2 minutes ago, DommeDelight said:

Yeah I avoid the ones that have hardly anything on and no photos. Even if was chatting, I can’t chat with no photo as I’ve no idea who I’m chatting to.

The anticipation can be exciting, but yeah eventually you want that reveal to continue the conversation.

[sardonicus87]

Absolutely no effort profiles affect my interest... as in I won't bother with them.
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If they put in no effort, then maybe they don't know what they want. Or maybe they put no effort because they aren't serious and are just window shopping. Or whatever, but no effort means they aren't actually looking for whatever reason.
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Also, if their profile doesn't give you anything, how are you even supposed to start a conversation with them? You pretty much can't say anything more than "hello", which everyone complains about.
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Furthermore, if they do respond, I bet it would be like pulling hen's teeth to get them to converse, and I'm not about that, especially if I, as a man, have to "prove myself" or whatever. No, I am not putting in all the effort, f-- that, you'll meet me half way or not at all.
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As a result, that's why I have nobody to talk to, nearly every profile is bare and blank near me.
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And if a minimal profile person reaches to me first (never happens, nobody ever reaches out to me first), I ignore them.

[sardonicus87]

Plus, if the profile is blank, how do I even know I want to talk to them in the first place? Like, what's supposed to attract me to a blank or minimal profile? Duh, come on.

[Ca****]

1 minute ago, sardonicus87 said:

Plus, if the profile is blank, how do I even know I want to talk to them in the first place? Like, what's supposed to attract me to a blank or minimal profile? Duh, come on.

What?! You're not so desperate for connection that you talk to ghosts? Weird...😂

[Deleted Member]

Bare minimum profiles lead me to believe the individual probably already assumes they aren’t attractive enough for the person they’re reaching out to but wants to shoot their shot. The convo is usually poor in my experience or they expect you to be interested just because we’re here on the app. I think profiles help weed people out, the ones who pay attention to them seem to go further with success here.

[Du****]

6 minutes ago, sardonicus87 said:

Plus, if the profile is blank, how do I even know I want to talk to them in the first place? Like, what's supposed to attract me to a blank or minimal profile? Duh, come on.

Exactly. And then they say “what do you want to know?” Of course the answer is nothing, because I didn’t start the conversation and they still haven’t given me a reason to be interested!

[Deleted Member]

1 minute ago, DuchessFeuille said:

Exactly. And then they say “what do you want to know?” Of course the answer is nothing, because I didn’t start the conversation and they still haven’t given me a reason to be interested!

😂😂😂 this accuracy is insane. Then they get mad and say unnecessary things

[NoLeashKitten]

Absolutely!

[Ca****]

2 minutes ago, DuchessFeuille said:

Exactly. And then they say “what do you want to know?” Of course the answer is nothing, because I didn’t start the conversation and they still haven’t given me a reason to be interested!

Right. But apparently "Tell me about you" is the wrong answer, too.😆

[Va****]

I agree about minimal profile details minimal effort. I filter out those who don't even have a picture. And those who just say hello I usually have give me a fun fact as a way to start a proper conversation.
I've realized at least 80% of the men I talk to it usually leads nowhere.
And honestly if a man ain't trying than I don't want him.
Also constantly looking at my profile but not saying anything. Like boo Im not gonna chase you and message you even if we've messaged before
Im the prize. You have to keep my interest and message me first. And continue to message me. That shows you're actually interested and I'm not wasting my time.

[Ca****]

3 minutes ago, fort-waynelabia said:

😂😂😂 this accuracy is insane. Then they get mad and say unnecessary things

Or get mad cause you don't respond, so they make a scene in your comments section like a child. And you wonder why they're not responding.😄

[Deleted Member]

Agree, loses me almost right away. Plus the lying of age and location is another thing that loses me. Hate when they get mad when you call them out on it too. Especially drives me nuts when they don’t read my profile and then ask me questions that are answered in my profile.

[sardonicus87]

Honestly, I wish they would require 1,000 words or something for a profile and it would need approval (so no profiles that are full of nonsense just to meet the minimum, must be substantive or gtfo).
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Site would die really quick if that were the case.
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To be honest, I hate the internet and being online. At this point, I am convinced everyone on the internet is THE WORST of the worst kind of people in any arena. Niche hobby forums, social media, all of it.
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I would quit it all if I had literally any other way to potentially meet people IRL, but NOBODY goes anywhere anymore, at least not here.
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I wish I could move out of this dump hole. My last friend died over 10 years ago now, one of the only friends I ever had. I'm horribly lonely and e-"friends" don't do it for me, I need IRL real friends, and all these sites with all these no effort people just make me feel that much more alone.
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Seriously, I wonder if the next to 0 chance is even worth me staying on here, because it's already a lot of effort for nothing, just like everything else, and I am so damn sick of it.

[Deleted Member]

I think some have the misconception that all women want to hookup with all men. It doesn’t matter the details…. I think porn has warped some brains a little

[Deleted Member]

2 minutes ago, CasualPlay said:

Or get mad cause you don't respond, so they make a scene in your comments section like a child. And you wonder why they're not responding.😄

Omgggg this! It’s like they feel entitled or something

[Du****]

5 minutes ago, CasualPlay said:

Right. But apparently "Tell me about you" is the wrong answer, too.😆

Yeah, if a blank profile opened with “tell me about you”, I’d decline. The first thing I want to know is why they’re messaging me in the first place: what is it about my profile that’s caught their attention? What’s made them think we’d click? Or is it just that they’re trying every single profile on the off-chance that 1/1000 will respond? Because if so, once again - we’re not talking.

[Ca****]

5 minutes ago, ValentineWitch2 said:

I agree about minimal profile details minimal effort. I filter out those who don't even have a picture. And those who just say hello I usually have give me a fun fact as a way to start a proper conversation.
I've realized at least 80% of the men I talk to it usually leads nowhere.
And honestly if a man ain't trying than I don't want him.
Also constantly looking at my profile but not saying anything. Like boo Im not gonna chase you and message you even if we've messaged before
Im the prize. You have to keep my interest and message me first. And continue to message me. That shows you're actually interested and I'm not wasting my time.

Now there have been MANY times I've wanted to leave a comment or reach out but couldn't because I don't pay for the app. When I keep going back to a profile, it's because I really like what I see, but can't make contact, so I hope it'll draw you into connecting so I can finally talk to you.😅

[Du****]

3 minutes ago, fort-waynelabia said:

I think some have the misconception that all women want to hookup with all men. It doesn’t matter the details…. I think porn has warped some brains a little

“I’m not interested.” “But why not? You’re a domme, I’m a sub!”
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Oh honey. No. 🤣

[Va****]

2 minutes ago, CasualPlay said:

Now there have been MANY times I've wanted to leave a comment or reach out but couldn't because I don't pay for the app. When I keep going back to a profile, it's because I really like what I see, but can't make contact, so I hope it'll draw you into connecting so I can finally talk to you.😅

I also filter by distance and age and I also filter out trans as I'm not interested. So even looking wont change things in that aspect

[Ca****]

5 minutes ago, fort-waynelabia said:

Omgggg this! It’s like they feel entitled or something

That's this damned country in a nutshell, isn't it? Jus because you say hi, doesn't mean they have to drop what they're doing and talk to you. Get over yourself! You're not as big a deal as you think you are!😆

[Ca****]

7 minutes ago, fort-waynelabia said:

I think some have the misconception that all women want to hookup with all men. It doesn’t matter the details…. I think porn has warped some brains a little

Fact!

[Deleted Member]

5 minutes ago, DuchessFeuille said:

“I’m not interested.” “But why not? You’re a domme, I’m a sub!”
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Oh honey. No. 🤣

RIGHT!!!!!!! Or I saw you looking for a Dom, what do you like? “Ummm no the Dom I’m looking for hun” and they’re 5000 miles away when your profile says no cyber/online play 🙄 the internet makes it easier for them to have the courage

[Ca****]

8 minutes ago, DuchessFeuille said:

Yeah, if a blank profile opened with “tell me about you”, I’d decline. The first thing I want to know is why they’re messaging me in the first place: what is it about my profile that’s caught their attention? What’s made them think we’d click? Or is it just that they’re trying every single profile on the off-chance that 1/1000 will respond? Because if so, once again - we’re not talking.

Noted, thank you. Most of my past interactions have been in person, and I don't make a habit of telling beautiful women that they're beautiful. They usually know already.😂 I'll have to give that some thought.

[Ca****]

8 minutes ago, DuchessFeuille said:

“I’m not interested.” “But why not? You’re a domme, I’m a sub!”
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Oh honey. No. 🤣

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