BI**** Posted July 20 Real doms have self discipline. They work on their resume. They work on their body and they own things. A simp paying for women to fuck him is not a Dom at all. You finance her entire life (provide) when she lives with you and not before. Books and TV have made everyone think they are a sub when they absolutely are not and a Dom when they absolutely are not. Subs are definitely not promiscuous bops with sky high body counts. That's just a bop using you for ***. Freaky people are just freaky people that now all try to categorize themselves as doms and subs when really they are just promiscuous people that like to have sex. More power to them. Sex itself is just a fraction of being In an actual sub/Dom relationship. There's no such thing as a Dom who isn't in the gym. There's no such thing as a sub who isn't trying to look her feminine best. You can't teach and discipline if you don't have any self-discipline yourself. If you don't practice tantric ect. Nothing. Wrong with being any of the other things but it's kind of hilarious what I see out there. Before a relationship even starts you would be getting and going over the bounderies and expectations of the relationship. Dudes that get winded on the way to the mailbox trying to have sex with young women are definitely not doms.
bo**** Posted July 20 Tinder is full of young fems who think a daddy is the same as a sugar daddy, alarming how many message me on there. I tend to put them straight about things in a very blunt way.
ra**** Posted July 20 4 hours ago, KiraSecura said: Must be the economy + people learning kink from online spaces instead of having any IRL friends to talk to. Lots of misguided tiktocs going around while actual bdsm educator content gets censored out. Same thing encountered with younger male little/slave/subs LF mommydomme wanting a literal mother to move back in with taking care of ALL their needs. Whereas I as Dominant want power exchange - not existing power imbalance. Servitude from submissive and not being a slave to a bratty bottom. Then again there is no set rules, just what participants feel comfortable with. Just like how OP includes sex in their play while I generally do not. Neither is right or wrong. But communication is a must, as I mentioned so many strange posts going viral online making people curious but unfortunately it's always the most outrageous stuff that goes viral, not educational or thoughtful posts Oooh, I love this so much ❤️ I definitely joined the party a lot later in life than most, but I came into with what I believed were realistic expectations based on conversations I’ve had with people I know who have been active in the lifestyle for many years. People can identify with a role and claim they have knowledge and experience, yet when you ask questions you would assume anyone who is confident in that role would be able to answer, their responses miss the mark by a long shot. I’m not even claiming to know what I’m doing, but I’m an intelligent woman who understands the fundamental basics of a power exchange dynamic. Sooo…why does it seem like I know more than others? Because it’s exactly what you described. There are a lot of people who are just looking for something for something they saw on TikTok. A chance to do disrespectful things with someone who has no respect for themselves 🙄😂 I do know what I’m looking for and the reasons why I’m looking for it. So no, I’m here to rack up my body count just hoping one of them is actually capable of helping to guide me through the things I’m looking to gain from this process.
ra**** Posted July 20 I would’t trust that anyone has the same set of rules about anything. I can wholeheartedly respect anyone who is confident enough in their knowledge and experience to identify with a certain role, but as someone who doesn’t have a ton of experience myself, I’ve found I’ve had to ask questions to clarify my expectations in a d/s dynamic. In my mind, a FWB is not the same thing, but it gets thrown out there a lot and I’m not sorry for saying I don’t f**k my friends, so we’re going to have to discuss this a little bit more to see if we’re on the same page. I don’t like labels in general. Especially ones that seem to come with more unspoken expectations than ones both people are in agreement on. So; let’s talk specifics about what you want and what I want so we can see if there’s enough in common there to work with 🤷🏻♀️
Te**** Posted July 20 I identify as a sugar free Daddy or Diet Daddy… slightly ironic given I’m a bigger guy. 😂
Dadbod-7035 Posted July 21 Been wondering this too been very big influx of people who don’t understand the site and basically just wanting followers or *** or both for only fans
Ro**** Posted July 21 A Daddy Dom is still a caring Dom with or without *** involved. It is up to the persons involved. A sugar daddy is what these are seeking. Then there are scammers who are only in it for the hustle. If you do not have the means, then feel free to walk away. If you do, please do so carefully. Regardless of the type of dynamics, make expectations clear regardless. As a submissive myself, I prefer clear, transparent communication in expectations.
57**** Posted July 21 In a relationship of daddy dom and sub the dom is fully responsible for health of their sub..including financial for their health. But in a fwb daddy and sub is not the same..
Ka**** Posted July 22 12 hours ago, 57precious said: In a relationship of daddy dom and sub the dom is fully responsible for health of their sub..including financial for their health. But in a fwb daddy and sub is not the same.. Perfectly said!
Da**** Posted July 22 Sunday at 11:36 PM, Teddy_Dom said: I identify as a sugar free Daddy or Diet Daddy… slightly ironic given I’m a bigger guy. 😂 I am a zero sugar daddy. Lol
ki**** Posted July 22 2 hours ago, RedFoxUK said: What exactly does '...financial for their health' mean? Could be to stop them from buying harmful products and/or if they have a spending problem the dom will have control
ey**** Posted July 22 3 hours ago, RedFoxUK said: What exactly does '...financial for their health' mean? Obviously a lot of dynamics differ I, for example, would disagree that a Dominant is responsible for the health of their sub (though, responsible for not doing anything bad for their health) but for others in their dynamic that works Some Dominants do take on a fiscal control for their subs. Like, everyone goes wild on the ideas against Findom, but if a Man ran the household budgets and let a sub know how much she could spend on herself (from her own ***, since she's contributing to the household budget) no one would bat an eyelid.
ne**** Posted July 22 I dont look for financial support from a Daddy Dom. I want more emotional support and a daddy who gives me self help and self care tasks through out the day. And of course Dom in the bedroom.
ki**** Posted July 22 7 hours ago, neonfoxtail87 said: I dont look for financial support from a Daddy Dom. I want more emotional support and a daddy who gives me self help and self care tasks through out the day. And of course Dom in the bedroom. Same
Ma**** Posted July 22 For me daddy dom is a specific thing. I want something and to get that I need a partner who wants to be with older guy, dominated and used as he sees fit. However its contracted...safeword, play withing defined guard rails..... for example you like your guy to slap your face, twist your nipples, whip your c*nny or anal you without warning then these things need to be agreed up front so both parties know where limits and boundaries are.
Ca**** Posted July 23 I'm a daddy to my little, when we play. On all my social platforms I let people know Yes I am a daddy, not yours.
Te**** Posted July 23 Some people don’t seem very focussed on the caregiver element of being a good Daddy Dom. Regardless of whether your submissive is a little, there needs to be a desire to take care of them akin to how you would your own child… caring about their welfare and whether they’re eating/drinking/taking care of themselves etc.
Ha**** Posted July 23 31 minutes ago, Teddy_Dom said: Some people don’t seem very focussed on the caregiver element of being a good Daddy Dom. Regardless of whether your submissive is a little, there needs to be a desire to take care of them akin to how you would your own child… caring about their welfare and whether they’re eating/drinking/taking care of themselves etc. Yes and that doesn’t have to mean funds are given to do that. You can ask and remind someone without giving them $$$… my Daddy acts more like a conscience at times when I forget to take breaks while I’m working. He’ll say “you deserve to focus on yourself” and give me suggestions on meditation and such. That’s care with no $$$ exchanging. Folks just need to be more mindful during vetting and financial support. And if someone gets offensive about it, then you know what their intentions are
RedFoxUK Posted July 24 8 hours ago, HappyFatLady said: Yes and that doesn’t have to mean funds are given to do that. You can ask and remind someone without giving them $$$… my Daddy acts more like a conscience at times when I forget to take breaks while I’m working. He’ll say “you deserve to focus on yourself” and give me suggestions on meditation and such. That’s care with no $$$ exchanging. Folks just need to be more mindful during vetting and financial support. And if someone gets offensive about it, then you know what their intentions are I quite agree. If a Daddy wants to buy his Little Girl a gift now and again, that is one thing. If a Little expects constant financial support and endless presents, we'll that's something else entriely. A DDLG relationship is about care, protection, encouragement. A true Daddy and his Little Girl fulfill a need and desire in each other.
ne**** Posted July 24 I consider a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship different than a dom/little relationship though they can cross over.
Re**** Posted July 30 If my Daddy can’t take care of all my needs—even the financial ones—then I might as well just have a normal relationship with someone basic. I think we’re forgetting how precious it is to have the privilege of being in a DDLG relationship. In order for me to enter subspace, feel carefree, and truly safe, I need all my bases covered: emotional, financial, and mental. Only then can I fully let go, be dominated, and learn from Daddy how to take care of him. You can’t have one without the oooother 🎶 Thats also not to say I can’t take care of myself financially-but to me it’s a privilege to see my raw innocence and so being well taken care of in ALL ways wouldn’t upset the perfect daddy for me.
Te**** Posted July 30 5 hours ago, Reybee said: If my Daddy can’t take care of all my needs—even the financial ones—then I might as well just have a normal relationship with someone basic. I think we’re forgetting how precious it is to have the privilege of being in a DDLG relationship. In order for me to enter subspace, feel carefree, and truly safe, I need all my bases covered: emotional, financial, and mental. Only then can I fully let go, be dominated, and learn from Daddy how to take care of him. You can’t have one without the oooother 🎶 Thats also not to say I can’t take care of myself financially-but to me it’s a privilege to see my raw innocence and so being well taken care of in ALL ways wouldn’t upset the perfect daddy for me. 🚩 for me there. You're merging a sugar daddy and a daddy. Bear in mind that often it's people who are in high pressure, positions of power/responsibility day to day who need a D/S relationship as a form of escapism. For many that will be people in senior management positions in companies or business owners etc. Equally on the flip side, a Dom will often be someone who feels they lack control in their day to day life and are seeking a submissive that they can make decisions for, praise, degrade, reward or punish to satisfy that need to feel in control that they don’t otherwise have in their daily lives. Not all D/S relationships need to have a financial aspect and that’s why a Sugar Daddy is specifically named differently. Just as not all D/S relationships are DD/LG relationships either. For me the moment a submissive starts asking for financial support it’s a no from me. I enjoy doting on my submissive and I enjoy choosing things to buy them as treats and rewards or perhaps even just because I enjoy the control of choosing what they wear for me because I will enjoy seeing them in it. However, in an era of Insta and OF making people rich, I sense there’s a level of entitlement that has been embedded into many people’s culture that I find extremely narcissistic and emotionally immature by proxy. For me it’s important that anyone I connect with is choosing me for me and not simply because I can provide for them financially because they do not want to themselves. The sentiment of your last comment feels incredibly emotionally manipulative and egotistical to me. The privilege in any relationship should be balanced. Not stacked in favour of the submissive who they always gets brownie points for being who they are. The Dom provide a need for the submissive as much as the submissive provides a need for the Dom. They are privileged to have each other. It’s an exchange of control and care in both directions.
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