Missed the perfect sub

[Joe_Essex]

Pulse and Cocktails, Witham
Thursday 9th July

Was speaking to a beautiful woman in the Adult shop near myself earlier today.

Stunning woman, who worked as a midwife.

We got to speaking for 15 minutes, she was a sub, i am a learning Dom, and like myself pretty new to the lifestyle, she had been in it for 12-18 months.

The whole time we were stood there talking all I was imagining was tying her down, and edging her for hours.

I got her name, but damn well forgot it! 

I haven't had a discussion with someone in the Adult shop before and felt this instant attraction to a sub.

 

Damn Lost Opportunities!!!

Joe

[Deleted Member]

Is this the new way to meet kinky people?! 😁

[ey****]

I've never actually been in the local sex shop (despite having been out for drinks with the owner) but, yeah, who are the sort of people who will frequent ?   They're a good resource for meeting people or finding out what is happening in the area.

[Joe_Essex]

Not the new way of meeting people I don't think, but just didn't seize the moment there.
Lots of different people started out by recommending a dildo to her she was looking at. Then got onto further discussion.

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30 minutes ago, Joe_Essex said:

Not the new way of meeting people I don't think, but just didn't seize the moment there.
Lots of different people started out by recommending a dildo to her she was looking at. Then got onto further discussion.

You did get her name, even if you forgot it. She will probably pop up on a local Fetlife group or something like that - you never know!

[Deleted Member]

Pop in again, as your paths may cross?
@Curvykate must be, haha. Start talking, meet up at a local munch and voila, the world is your oyster as to who you will meet, just from a simple conversation.
@eyemblacksheep only one way to find out who frequents such shops. Would imagine all walks of people go in.

[ey****]

15 minutes ago, petitecupcake69 said:

only one way to find out who frequents such shops. Would imagine all walks of people go in.

I mean more so - those who visit sex shops are usually there for a reason  especially if they've made the choice to go to a dedicated adult shop, rather than the back shelves of Ann Summers

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When I've been doing my really really important research on porn I always enjoyed Gloryholes in sex shops. I know it's a set up bur has always been a fantasy, random fun with a stranger in places like this, not even seeing them or knowing who they are.

[Deleted Member]

Um. Sex shops have glory holes? I haven’t been to one in decades. Erm 😊

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26 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

When I've been doing my really really important research on porn I always enjoyed Gloryholes in sex shops. I know it's a set up bur has always been a fantasy, random fun with a stranger in places like this, not even seeing them or knowing who they are.

When’s the book out Donny? 🤣

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Just now, Curvykate said:

Um. Sex shops have glory holes? I haven’t been to one in decades. Erm 😊

Only in the videos. I've never seen one irl.

[Deleted Member]

Just now, Curvykate said:

When’s the book out Donny? 🤣

The amount of "research" I've been doing the last 40 odd years it will make War and Peace look like a pamphlet 😂

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7 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

Only in the videos. I've never seen one irl.

I must have misunderstood 🤪. Ooh I have seen glory holes! I may not have been to a sex shop but I’ve been to a sex club and fun it was too. 😋

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6 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

The amount of "research" I've been doing the last 40 odd years it will make War and Peace look like a pamphlet 😂

Ebook it is then 😂

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1 hour ago, petitecupcake69 said:

Pop in again, as your paths may cross?
@Curvykate must be, haha. Start talking, meet up at a local munch and voila, the world is your oyster as to who you will meet, just from a simple conversation.
@eyemblacksheep only one way to find out who frequents such shops. Would imagine all walks of people go in.

Except munches aren’t happening and for reasons I won’t go into, I can’t attend events nearby.

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Donnykinkster said:

When I've been doing my really really important research on porn I always enjoyed Gloryholes in sex shops. I know it's a set up bur has always been a fantasy, random fun with a stranger in places like this, not even seeing them or knowing who they are.

Yeah, ours does set up scenes.  There was someone I was going to do a public scene with in there because of course everyone in it would be in-on-it.  

[Deleted Member]

Another one is making my partner kneel and suck whatever is offered but irl? I'm not sure to be fair, yes it would be awesome to watch but dodgy as far as sti goes. I know there is less risk that lets say vaginal but the risk is still present.

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, Donnykinkster said:

Another one is making my partner kneel and suck whatever is offered but irl? I'm not sure to be fair, yes it would be awesome to watch but dodgy as far as sti goes. I know there is less risk that lets say vaginal but the risk is still present.

I’ve heard that fantasy before and I have the same thought

[ey****]

2 hours ago, Donnykinkster said:

Another one is making my partner kneel and suck whatever is offered but irl? I'm not sure to be fair, yes it would be awesome to watch but dodgy as far as sti goes. I know there is less risk that lets say vaginal but the risk is still present.

if there was a way that made sure whoever was offering had been tested before they were permitted to offer.

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1 minute ago, eyemblacksheep said:

if there was a way that made sure whoever was offering had been tested before they were permitted to offer.

Of course but then the randomness of it wouldn't be present and that for me is the turn on. Not knowing the other player in any way. 

[Jinxy-5083]

5 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

Of course but then the randomness of it wouldn't be present and that for me is the turn on. Not knowing the other player in any way. 

Unless the facility itself regulated it. Then there would still be the randomness and anonymity but safety in knowing they have to be cleared of STI concerns by the facility before being allowed. I imagine most wouldn’t want to put in that type of effort for some quick fun though. 

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1 hour ago, Jinxy said:

Unless the facility itself regulated it. Then there would still be the randomness and anonymity but safety in knowing they have to be cleared of STI concerns by the facility before being allowed. I imagine most wouldn’t want to put in that type of effort for some quick fun though. 

One wonders if in the future we all may have covid status on our phones and sti results rolled in with them. 🧐

[Dreamaway]

Sometimes caution needs to be thrown to the wind, previous expectations or failures forgotten, and a running jump taken..to seize an opportunity and dive in head first...

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Just now, Dreamaway said:

Sometimes caution needs to be thrown to the wind, previous expectations or failures forgotten, and a running jump taken..to seize an opportunity and dive in head first...

I agree with that to a point, when it's anothers health and another that you care about that's a different ball game altogether. All fun and games until you both catch some thing nasty.

[Jinxy-5083]

50 minutes ago, Donnykinkster said:

I agree with that to a point, when it's anothers health and another that you care about that's a different ball game altogether. All fun and games until you both catch some thing nasty.

Especially since many of the STIs can become lifelong health concerns.