Th**** Posted August 31 4 hours ago, Wim121 said: My experience has been exactly the same and I’ve been considering leaving the app. My first message is similar, nothing sexual and it’s either no response mainly or barely interested ones that don’t last long. It’s very disappointing as I was hoping from this app not to find instant sexual gratification, but I was hoping women would be in touch with themselves intimately more and be more open instead of shying away. Your profile being blank is probably a large contributor to your struggles.
Th**** Posted August 31 7 hours ago, BandoBrando said: You’re on a kink/fetish site. I wouldn’t expect any less. It seems you have a huge gap in your understanding of kink, BDSM and consent.
Sw**** Posted August 31 21 hours ago, KYRIOSDominant702 said: I think this is an important discussion because D/s is built on mutual reverence, and when strangers bypass that, it feels violating... no matter which side you’re on. From the Dom’s perspective: true Dominance is never careless. A Dom who understands his role doesn’t throw power around like a blunt weapon... he holds it with precision, with respect, with an awareness that every word carries weight. A Dom leads with presence, not with shock value. From the sub’s perspective: true submission isn’t just a kink or a hobby it’s vulnerability, trust, a willingness to open one’s softest parts. That should be honored, not exploited. A sub’s surrender is something sacred, meant to be invited through safety and connection... not yanked out by a stranger’s demand. When someone bypasses all of that barges into the inbox with explicit words or orders... they’re not showing Dom or sub energy. They’re performing. They’re chasing a kink high, trying to get a reaction, using the title of Dom or sub as a mask for entitlement. For me, when that happens, it’s an instant red flag. My intuition kicks in, my discernment sharpens, and I choose to just observe. I don’t engage, I don’t take the bait... I watch, and what’s true about their energy always reveals itself quickly. Because respect is the first step in D/s not the afterthought. And anyone who can’t start there doesn’t belong in my space. 👏🏽👏🏽🔥🔥
Ba**** Posted August 31 maybe im just not that cute but i rarely get messages from subs who arent cis men, the ones i do get are about 50/50 on wether or not theyre normal. then i say im attracted to men and suddenly theyre all wildly innappropiate.
Ro**** Posted August 31 As a sub, I rarely contact doms, I may hit like or for this app spank. If they reach out, I see how they approach messaging. Based on that, I may continue conversation. If it's straight to kinks or sex I will let it die. I'm not a sex or kink dispenser. I prefer a solid connection before wandering down a potentially dangerous avenue with someone I've just met.
er**** Posted August 31 Yes Weirdly I’ve spoken to Dom females Dubious as whether they are scammers Issuing a challenge of my faith in them after 5 messages of a picture of me with a hand written message saying they own me !🤣 After no general chit chat to make you feel it’s a safe conversation/person And opening you up to blackmail or anything Weird
Deleted Member Posted August 31 It's difficult to answer this without sounding negative or bitter. The Thirsty are Legion, they are looking at two things, first your gender identity then your profile pic. If you say anything mildly suggestive you're throwing pheromones on top of that. RIP inbox. And just like in the zombie movies there are a few smart ones out there that read your profile AFTER you reply. I wish it wasn't like that and I'm sorry for the discomfort, but they don't represent all of us. I get maybe a message per 2 weeks that isn't a reply to mine. Rarely anything more. But I prefer that to what you and others like you have to go through.
Wa**** Posted August 31 I mainly get a bunch of aggressively horny messages from gay men, slight confidence booster.
Th**** Posted August 31 Hot take but that's mostly a female problem~ I would kill to have a horny girl in my inbox saying the most sexy of stuff....
Ho**** Posted August 31 I’ve received multiple unsolicited DM’s from male subs begging for dick picks (I don’t cross swords) & to be my servant. Offering to clean up my “room” after I have a session with a woman. Volunteering/promising to never even try to have any kind of sexual relationship, just “want to be in the presence of a real man since they know they are not one”. If only a girl would speak to me like that (minus the non-sexual dynamic).🤣 I just chalked it up as coming with the territory. It’s not isolated within the confinement of this app either. I’ve had guys blindly grab my business in public many times as well. Some ppl are just grotesquely brazen.
Deleted Member Posted September 1 Saturday at 04:44 PM, teegotit said: I'm not male, but the most are rather disrespectful. Ergo... They don't read. Comprehension is Paramount. OR they "pretend" to not notice
Ap**** Posted September 3 I don't think this is a D/s thing but a M/F thing. I think women get messaged across the line more than the D/s line.
ne**** Posted September 3 I was going to say the same thing as Apewithfeelings. I think this is a male female thing. Men are rude idiots. Dominant men will never approach you with anything other than respect.
Po**** Posted September 4 Got a random text from a gal who, after we chatted a bit, said she was a sub with no Doms in town and could she call me Daddy. Ya know... there's worse things that could happen to a guy!
Curious_guy_lex Posted September 5 15 minutes ago, feralsaint said: No…. That’s not what this lifestyle is about. Kink/festish friendly ≠ consent to be pushy & disrespectful. Agreed. Everything must be respectful.
bo**** Posted September 6 Thursday at 07:00 PM, clearfield970 said: Got a random text from a gal who, after we chatted a bit, said she was a sub with no Doms in town and could she call me Daddy. Ya know... there's worse things that could happen to a guy! True the could be into Cadillac Couoe Deville.
Su**** Posted September 6 Particularly younger men I find…they’re calling me bitch etc thinking that’s what it’s about. Being a sub msging in an app doesn’t mean I’m after cyber ‘***’ I know it’s not but as a sub I agree. There needs to be a mutual agreement on what’s ok etc prior to obey my commands - unless your into that. At times I’ve been but as a rule no. Let’s chat talk bout arrangements….prior to as described!! But no hard fast rule!!!
Deleted Member Posted September 16 Real doms wont do that. Only fake ones that don't understand what it means to be a dom is will. Subs/littles go about it different though even if your in a relationship. They'll try to worm their way in-between or be a side piece.
Deleted Member Posted September 16 At least in my personal experience. Women can be just as bad as men as well.
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